The length of time does not determine whether the breakup is complete or not, which needs to be carefully measured for people with little experience in love.
As for whether a boyfriend or girlfriend who has been breaking up for a month is a real breakup? A word of advice to you who have come before: a month may be a bit "like a year" for you, but don't rush to the end, and don't rush to start the next relationship, which may only be "suspended" and "continued".
The so-called "previous relationship", for most people, can be "past tense", that is, it has "come to an end", this is because the break is thorough, the decision is decisive, and there is no possibility of "looking back".
But some people are not this "attribute", the "breakup" between them is of a gambling nature, they don't deal with it in a word, they are troublesome about one thing, and even because the man wants to eat spicy hot pot, the woman wants to eat romantic steak, and neither of them wants to sacrifice their own mouth at that moment, so they break up in anger for a while.
You say, if you don't give men and women who break up like this a little time to introspect, won't they be able to stand it when they are old?
When people are young, it is inevitable that they will be high-spirited, especially when they have just started falling in love, and the original implanted concept of marriage and love is not originally from "self-formation", but mostly from the "transplantation concept" grafted from others, such as "male protagonist outside female protagonist", such as "men don't cook and laundry, women don't show up" and so on.
But the reality is not like this, men practice the cooking skills of the eight major cuisines for the women they like, and the female talent quotient can kill the giants of the north and the south in seconds.
This requires "running-in". It is normal for stumbling during the run-in period, and they do not give in to each other when they are intense. The question is, how many "spare tires" are there that look like gods and are comfortable in many ways?
Touching your conscience and saying, no one should treat yourself as Pan An, no one should treat yourself as Xi Shi, although there are countless beautiful women and handsome men in the world, but you may not be able to "meet by chance" who can really match and make you comfortable and like in many aspects.
What's more, there is also a "heart and soul" that has been highly compatible with each other.
Break up" for a month, this is just a time period that can make both parties calm and think, use this time to think carefully about the "good" and "bad" of the other party, whether the good is greater than the bad, or the bad is greater than the good, and then decide whether to break it completely.
If you say that others are prone to infringement, take me as an example.
My second wife, who remarried, was a round younger than me, and I met her when I was 41 years old, she was 29 years old and had no history of marriage. After being together for three years, her daughter also accepted her, and at first she also accepted the advice of getting married without children, so she naturally entered the marriage agenda.
When preparing for the wedding, her best friend came back to live at home, chatted by chance, heard them talk about preparing for pregnancy, I was also unintentional, asked her at night, obviously I didn't take folic acid, how can I tell my best friend to take folic acid?
She said, "I'm eating."
I believe that I was very angry at that moment, so I had a few words with her, and she was also very angry, saying that Niu Niu (my daughter) is older, what's wrong with us having a child? That day, I slept on the living room couch for the first time.
The next day, she left, went back to her parents' house, and sent a message saying, you are too selfish, we are not suitable, let's break up.
It's not that I'm a man, and it's not that I'm praising myself for being patient, but I thought about it many times in the days that followed, and I thought about it over and over again, including empathy from her point of view.
was "silent" for about ten days, and that day was also a coincidence, watching a TV series, the female number one in the play has a line to the effect that a woman is not a perfect woman if she does not have children. I woke up all of a sudden, looked at my watch, didn't care about the middle of the night, drove to the community where her parents lived, beat her hard, and sent a message saying, if you don't come down, I'll stay downstairs until dawn. Lie in the snow with your hands ** and send it to her.
It was the beginning of January in Beijing.
And she came down in a padded jacket. I copied her up with a copyist and stuffed her into the car casually, and the struggling women of the people were particularly fierce, biting me, grabbing me, kicking me, kicking me, and I said to her, listen to you, go home and cash in.
Immediately quieted down and asked me if I was telling the truth?
The next day, we started handing out wedding cards. What does this mean? Boyfriends and girlfriends with an emotional foundation, especially those who have the idea of getting married, have a "breakup" without principled mistakes, even if they are separated for a month, don't easily assume that it is a categorical breakup, there is still delay, there is "continuation", and there is salvation.