Accidentally. Father. I'll go out tomorrow, and you come to Daye for two days. ”
I had just undergone ultrasound surgery for kidney stones, and I wanted to let my father come to the county seat for a day and have a meal before I went out to work.
I'm not coming. "It's still a very outright refusal.
After working in the field for so many years, even if there is nothing to do, I will go home for a few days in the middle of the year. But the seventy-two-year-old father has only a handful of days to live in the county. So it's usually me who takes my wife and children back to the countryside for two days on the week.
When my father was sixty years old, he went to my aunt's banquet and broke his head when he drank too much, and his temper became very bad ever since. Compared with him who was honest before, it's like a different person, and he often quarrels with others.
Usually he doesn't go out much in the countryside, except for buying some daily necessities on the street, he usually drinks three times a day at home and cooks electric pots, which is how he has been doing this for more than ten years.
The two of us took turns to give my father 500 yuan a month for living expenses, plus rural pension insurance, some pocket money we gave us during the New Year, and a vegetable garden he planted himself. Usually he drinks alcohol and eats meat, which is enough, until the end of last year, I didn't know that he was wrong by more than 10,000 yuan.
My mother also went out to work because of his bad temper, so she couldn't do it. It wasn't until the end of last year that I returned to my hometown because I was 62 years old (10 years older than my father) and went home to care for the elderly.
So how is your body? Is there anything uncomfortable? "For more than ten years, whether in the county or in other places, this greeting has not been interrupted every day. But today's answer is the only one that is different.
I have a bit of a stomach ache and haven't eaten in days. ”
* The answer on the other side made my heart sink down, and the worries I had been worried about all this time gave me a very bad feeling. For more than ten years, my father drank three times a day, boiled in an electric pot every day, and rarely ate staple food, which made the family afraid of what would happen to him.
Can you move around, if you can, come by car now, and I'll go straight to the hospital and wait for you. "With that, I went to find my father's health insurance card.
OK. I'll come by car right now. "Although my father said that he hadn't eaten for a few days, he was okay when he spoke.
Examine. An hour later, my mother and wife and I waited for my father, who was a little sluggish in spirit, but still relatively stable on his feet.
Why are you so embarrassed, and you don't say it sooner if you're uncomfortable. "My mother returned to her hometown half a month ago, and she was also surprised by the change in my father who had only been half a month. At the same time, he complained.
Let's go! The number has been hung up, let's go directly to the doctor. "I went to the hospital in advance to register my father, and then I turned around and walked to the front and walked to the gastroenterology department.
Once the doctor diagnoses you, the standard process begins. Blood test, urine and bowel test, electrocardiogram, CT ......
Your dad is very likely to have cancer, so I'll have a gastroscopy tomorrow morning and take a look at it again, and don't eat or drink after 11 o'clock tonight. "The doctor took the ** and told me while looking at it.
With all the results packed, I opened the door and went to the bench where my father was resting. When the results came out, I saw a few letters on my own, so I checked it on my mobile phone and knew it was cancer, so I went in and asked the doctor alone.
The results are not very good, but the specific situation will not be known until tomorrow's gastroscopy, so we will go home first. "In front of my father, I didn't tell the truth.
When I got home, my father was watching TV in the living room, my mother and wife were cooking, and I found a free time to go to the kitchen.
My dad's test results may be stomach cancer and cardia cancer, and tomorrow I will do a gastroscopy and take out a sample for biopsy. But he can actually confirm it now. "I didn't have any sadness and no emotions, and I told my mother and wife.
Mom immediately burst into tears, and although she had expectations in her heart, it was still a little difficult to accept. Said softly.
I knew it would be like this, and he usually doesn't listen to what he says, so what should I do now! ”
The next day, we rushed to the hospital to line up, because we came early to get to second place, and soon it was my father's turn. I don't know if it was the doctor's negligence or what, but the door to the monitoring room was not closed. My mother and I were standing outside the door, and just as we saw the round image on the screen, we stopped when we entered my father's gate.
At this time, the other doctor remembered something or something, and came and closed the door. But just now I could see clearly on the screen, where the camera stopped, there were two pimples the size of chopsticks, about a centimeter long.
Half an hour later, we got the test results, which clearly stated that the stomach lesion, cardia tumor, recommended a biopsy test.
All that's left is the hospitalization procedure, find an acquaintance and contact the authoritative doctor in the hospital. Mom began to call their aunt and uncle to inform them of the situation.
I first called my cousin (boss) and told him about the temporary inability to go to work and my father's situation. Then I called my father's three younger brothers and one younger sister to inform him.
Looking at my father lying on the hospital bed watching TV, with a hanging needle. I couldn't see at all that his negative emotions about knowing about cancer were as if he had known about it himself.
Just now, the family communicated with the attending doctor, and the doctor meant to operate immediately, and there was no need to wait for the biopsy results. If you drag it for a day, you will be dangerous for a day. After listening to the doctor's pathological analysis and the first plan, our family came to the boiling water room with few people.
I don't recommend surgery, the doctor also said that it is already at an advanced stage, and the entire stomach and cardia plus part of the esophagus will be removed, and then chemotherapy will be done, and there is no guarantee of recovery after surgery. My dad is so old, I don't know if he can survive such a big operation. "I looked at my mother.
Just now, I also asked an acquaintance about the chief physician of Wuhan Cancer Hospital, like my father, doing this operation is both human and financial, there is no need to toss him. "My wife was also checking the gap in the hospitalization, and I asked an acquaintance to send the test results and received professional advice.
Wait for your uncle and them to come over in the afternoon, and then make a decision. Mom didn't say anything and went to the ward.
I looked at my wife and followed.
Doctor. We decided to give up on my dad's surgery and get ready to go home and do conservative**. In the afternoon, after discussing with my uncle, they were all in favor of abandoning the operation. After all, because of this kind of surgery, there are not a few people around who have lost both people and money.
The doctor looked at the three of us. "If you don't operate now, the patient may not live for a few months, have you figured it out? ”
We've figured it out, my dad really doesn't need to toss him at such an age, it's better to go back and have a good New Year. "Once we identified the doctor's problem, we signed a certificate of waiver of the surgery and were ready to be discharged the next day.
Go home. The next day, I asked the doctor about the pain and what to expect, and I was discharged.
Then I took the clothes and bits and pieces directly, and my mother and father got into the car back to the countryside. My wife made me take care of my son, who was in junior high school, so I had to go back to the week.
Not long after arriving home, my younger brother also rushed home from Jiangsu. The family sat in the yard and basked in the sun. Looking at the family, remembering the osmanthus tree in the yard, and the father leaning under the osmanthus tree on the deck chair, I have a hope.
The scenery of the four seasons is different, and the rabbit cinnamon is stronger.
Enjoy the fragrance of plum blossoms, only looking forward to an old man.
That's when I realized that I hadn't shed a tear from beginning to end. I usually cry when I watch a short **, but in this case, I am so sensible and terrible.
When he turned his attention to his father, he suddenly felt a wave of grief welling up from the bottom of his heart. I immediately got up and rushed to the bathroom, ripped off the towel and covered my whole face, squatted on the ground and sobbed.
Biting the towel hard, his knees knelt on the ground due to twitching, and the dry towel was also moistening at a rapid speed, and his body twitched like a choked dog, and there was only a hum in his throat.
Ten minutes later, with swollen eye bubbles and bloodshot eyes, I also made it to the yard again. It turned out that it wasn't how rational and cold-blooded he was, but that his emotions had been suppressed, and it wasn't until this time that he came like a flood.
The family looked at me and didn't say anything. The younger brother said at this time: "Why don't we take my father to ** to play, he hasn't traveled for so many years?" ”