In the Internet industry, youth is the biggest capital. But as you turn 30, do you also feel an invisible pressure, an anxiety from society, family, self and peers?
Recently, an employee of ByteDance posted on social platforms that the older he gets, the more worried he becomes, he is 30 years old this year, with a deposit of 150w and an annual salary of 90w, and he still can't afford to buy a house in a first-tier city; My girlfriend is 28 years old, has worked for three years and has almost no savings, and her annual salary is only 20w, and the family backgrounds of both parties are not good. The city can't accommodate the body, the rural hometown can't accommodate the soul, how hard life is!
The employee's post sparked heated discussions among netizens, with many people pointing out that the employee's income and savings have far exceeded most people's. Some people also agreed, and said that they also have this anxiety to a greater or lesser extent, especially in the case of a bad environment, the older they get, the more panicked they become.
In fact, this employee's anxiety is not an isolated case, but a common phenomenon. At present, housing prices in first-tier cities are still high, while housing prices in second- and third-tier cities are showing a trend. This means that it is becoming more difficult and costly to buy a home in a first-tier city, while the benefit and value of buying a house in a second- and third-tier city is getting lower and lower. For those employees of major Internet companies working hard in first-tier cities, they are faced with a dilemma: should they stay in first-tier cities and bear the high rent and living costs, or return to second- and third-tier cities and face the sluggish housing market and employment environment?
This dilemma has plunged many employees of major Internet companies into a mid-life crisis. They don't know where their future is, and they don't know where their worth is. They feel that their work is becoming more and more meaningless, and they begin to doubt their life choices and imagine another possibility for themselves. This kind of midlife crisis is actually a psychological crisis. It stems from dissatisfaction with oneself, discomfort with the environment, uncertainty about the future. When we encounter this kind of problem, we should re-examine our life goals and adjust our lifestyle.
For example, you can get to know yourself well. Because everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, we need to know ourselves and not compare ourselves to others too much. We need to find our own position, give full play to our strengths, and then realize our dreams. In conclusion, a midlife crisis is not terrible, as long as we have the right mindset and positive actions, we can overcome it, get out of it, and usher in a new life.