"Xibao" is Yishu's masterpiece, and many people know that Jiang Xibao in the story is an out-and-out fishing girl. Although she ended up with the coveted wealth, she paid a huge price. At the end of the story, she even falls into depression because of it. However, after this ** was adapted into a movie, many viewers expressed understanding and even sympathy for Jiang Xibao, thinking that she was just trying to live a better life, and some even thought that she had found true love.
On the surface, "Xi Bao" seems to be a story about the success of fishing for girls, but what Yishu really wants to convey is the sacrifice and betrayal behind it. In my opinion, Yishu is trying to use Jiang Xibao's story to warn women who may be on the same path, telling them whether it is really worth choosing such a path. We all know that art comes from life. Jiang Xibao's character is willing to be "eaten by old cows", which is actually a reflection of the relationship between men and women in social reality. So why are more and more women now willing to accept such relationships? This is a question that requires us to think deeply.
In a way, it's economic factors that drive such a choice. For some women, obtaining material benefits through this relationship is a very real consideration. Just like Jiang Xibao, they may feel that as long as they can get enough wealth, their older partners are not a problem. My friend Zhou Fang once shared his experience with me. Three years ago, he and his girlfriend were about to get married, but they disagreed when discussing the bride price. The girlfriend said that in order to ensure the safety of the future, the Zhou family must give a bride price of 300,000 yuan, and the money belongs only to her. Zhou Fang's family is not wealthy, they have done their best to get married, but they are still willing to pay 100,000 yuan as a bride price. This story makes us think, why do some women demand such a high bride price? The reasons behind it can be multifaceted, including social pressures, family expectations, etc. But it is undeniable that this also reflects the realistic considerations and helpless choices of some women in marriage.
Of course, there is no single answer to this question. Relationships between men and women are a complex topic that involves a number of factors, including personal choices, social pressures, and cultural backgrounds. For the phenomenon of "old cows eating young grass", we need to understand and improve more deeply in order to find the real cause and solution. Zhou Fang's parents were very generous, saying that even if the bride price was borrowed, there was no need for the young couple to repay it. However, his girlfriend refused to compromise. In the end, because of the bride price issue, his girlfriend decided to break up, and this relationship came to an end helplessly. Soon after, Zhou Fang was shocked to learn that his girlfriend had married a 42-year-old man. The man was very rich, not only gave his girlfriend a 300,000 dowry, but also promised to support her for the rest of his life after marriage. The girlfriend chose this man who was about her father's age because he had wealth.
Zhou Fang couldn't believe this fact, but the reality was. When she heard that her girlfriend got married in a beautiful way, her parents were very happy, even with a hint of pride. In fact, the most direct reason why women are willing to be "eaten by old cows" is money. This type of woman tends to prioritize money over love, and as long as someone is willing to provide enough wealth, they will consider it true love. Zhang Ailing once said: "For most women, 'love' means 'being loved'. Therefore, for those women who are willing to be "eaten by old cows", love is to be surrounded by wealth. Of course, everything happens for a multifaceted reason. In addition to money, some women may also desire to marry a young and handsome man. After all, everyone has a love for beauty, men like young and beautiful women, and women also have such tendencies.
So, why are more and more women willing to be "eaten by old cows"? In fact, this phenomenon is related to more and more Ma Bao men, Phoenix men, and Sanwu men. Today, many young men lack the responsibility to provide for their families. They don't even understand what their responsibilities are when they get married. It is the irresponsible behavior of these men that makes more and more women lose confidence in them. With such a man, what does a woman want? Is it for love? However, the saddest thing is that such a man can't even give love to a woman, and will only use a woman as a nanny. There is an example around me where Xiao Zhou is my college classmate and she is married to a man who is 15 years older than her. Although I don't judge this marriage well, I know that she chooses this man a hundred times better than her ex-boyfriend.
Xiao Zhou's ex-boyfriend is an out-and-out mom boy, and when the two fell in love in college, Xiao Zhou suffered a lot of grievances. After graduation, Xiao Zhou worked hard and became the manager of a large store from a management trainee. And what about her ex-boyfriend? has always been a good master, because of the habit of the family, there has been no formal job for more than a year after graduation. The expenses of the two are basically Xiao Zhou's burden, but even so, the ex-boyfriend still doesn't know how to cherish it, and is used to Xiao Zhou's pay, and treats Xiao Zhou like a nanny. Not only that, but he is also pretentious, idle at home and having an affair with other women. Later, Xiao Zhou broke up with him. After the breakup, Xiao Zhou met her current husband in the workplace, and the other party took the initiative to pursue her, although he was a little older, he was considerate and gentle to her. Some time ago, Xiao Zhou gave birth to a pair of twins, Xiao Zhou's in-laws took good care of Xiao Zhou and the children, and Xiao Zhou's husband would also take care of the children together after work, and the family was happy.
Do you say that Xiao Zhou loves money? I don't think so. So why is she willing to be "eaten by old cows"? Maybe it was me, and under the choice of such two men, I would also choose the latter. Therefore, while complaining about women's material love for money, men should also reflect on themselves and think about whether they also have a lot of objective problems.
February** Dynamic Incentive Program
I don't deny that the ideal other half in a woman's heart must be young and handsome, rich and rich. Take Hee-po as an example, if Hun Cong-shu was young and promising and had a less cowardly personality, I think Hee-bo might have chosen him instead of his father. I've read a lot of Yishu**, and "Xi Bao" is one I personally like very much. In my opinion, those who understand this ** also understand love and women. Ximei hopes that you can understand that as women, we can't pursue vanity and vanity too much, and ignore our own bottom line and principles. At the same time, as men, you should also strive to be a responsible person who deserves to be loved by women. Our values and qualities are more important than superficial flamboyance, and true love and respect come from our inner qualities and behaviors. Therefore, both men and women, we should maintain our bottom line, pursue inner growth and value, and make our hearts more fulfilling and beautiful.