Complaining too much to prevent intestinal breakage, parenting should be long-term
The final exam results have come down, and a few families are happy and a few are sad. I think it's better not to complain, complaining too much is restless. Harmony, harmony, rationality, and reason are essential abilities for modern parents. After all, they are children, full of unlimited potential, and they cannot magnify their shortcomings and increase their own anxiety.
Looking at the future and life, school academic performance is not particularly important, and out of school, society and school are always different. Now in their teens, the possibilities are endless. The learning attitude has changed, I want to learn, it is very easy to improve, the current conditions are so good, the analysis and skill summary behind the supporting materials of the teaching and auxiliary materials are very detailed, and some are also equipped with audio and video. There are also many free teachings by famous teachers on the Internet, with different styles and depths, a hundred flowers blooming, and a hundred schools of thought contending, and students can learn independently. Some children are able to make a big leap in a short period of time.
For students with learning difficulties, our parents should give specific help, and if they are not motivated to learn, they can be inspired to educate, such as watching inspirational films; If you don't have confidence, you can look for their strengths, encourage them more, participate in practical activities, and show yourself; If they are not self-disciplined, let them practice sports and participate in semi-military winter camps. If you can't grasp some knowledge points in learning, and if you can't grasp them well, you can make specific help and breakthroughs.
Children are the hearts and minds of their parents, flowing with the blood of their parents, no matter how bad they are, they are also born by themselves, and the blood relationship is constantly severed, they (she) are their own future sustenance, and we need to carve them well. As long as the child is healthy, positive and optimistic, sunny and confident, it is better than anything else. A student, no matter how good or bad he studies, his clothes should be neat and tidy, on the road, in the class, he should raise his face and raise his head, often in this state, you are the most handsome, the most beautiful, the coolest, and everyone likes it.
The teacher gives the student not only knowledge, but more importantly, something other than knowledge. For example: beauty and temperament, civilization and reason, elegance and maturity, profundity and richness......Knowledge things, they want to learn, sooner or later can master. The charm of the spirit will be deeply engraved in the bones.
In class, I have said many times that "pretending to be excellent is also excellent, and pretending to be noble is also noble", so that "pretending" becomes the norm, and excellence and elegance become habits, and parents should help their children set a good position. For this final grade, in addition to our school's rewards for taking pictures and archiving in the class, parents should also further refine the rewards in multiple dimensions to create more rituals for their children. Don't underestimate these details that can be done or not, children's small hearts are also the easiest to touch.
Take your children to distant places, take them to do more public welfare activities, and go to prestigious campuses, art galleries, art galleries, and libraries with them. Yesterday I went to Wanda Bookstore, I felt baptized once without turning the book, there was no noise, no sloppiness, there was the fragrance of books, there was quietness, there was faith, browsing a series of titles "Please Love This Endless Change", "You Are the Blossom of a Tree", "You Still Have to Live in the Daily", "Standing on the Edge of Two Worlds", "A Moment in Your Life", "Observation in the Dark", "Then Let's Go, Until the End of the World", "Butterfly Expired Residence", "Chinese Qi Pulse", "Floating World", "The Tree Is Like This", "The Power of Elegance", "Lonely and Brave Like You", "Waiting for a Flower to Bloom", "Spring Breeze Ten Miles is Not as Good as You", "Life Must Have a Journey That Touches the Soul", "A Man is a Cavalry", "Those Shining Days in Life", "Joy, It's Self-Brewed", "You Were Born with Wings", I have benefited a lot.
Don't quarrel in front of your children, don't lose your temper, and try not to get into conflict with others. Be "civilized, rational, and calm", "pretend" to be what parents should be, and be able to change themselves for their children's future. "Don't take evil as small, don't take good as small and don't do it" Small places should not be casual. It is necessary to let children feel the greatness of their parents' love, not for parents to say it themselves, and not to kidnap children with their own efforts and sacrifices.
Educating children is the best investment and is the number one priority. If your child is well educated, you will be happy and happy in the second half of your life, and you will have the most sense of achievement.
Having said all this, I want to tell you that educating children is not easy, and it is not only the responsibility of teachers and society, but also the primary task of parents.