In school, it is very important for a child to be accepted by their peers, which is related to their mental health and development. Peer acceptance refers to the degree to which a child is valued and liked by his peers. In counseling, I will meet many children who refuse to go back to school because of interpersonal problems at school. When a child experiences interpersonal distress at school, both parents and children need to take some proactive steps to resolve the issue.
For children, the first thing to do is to recognize that interpersonal distress is universal, and not to feel inferior or scared because of it. You can try to communicate positively with the person you are bothered with, express your thoughts and feelings, listen to the other person's point of view, and try to find common ground between both parties in order to build a better relationship. If the problem cannot be resolved through communication, you can seek help from teachers, parents or other professionals.
For parents, when your child confides in you about interpersonal troubles, listen patiently, understand your child's feelings, avoid excessive criticism or accusations, and give your child emotional support. After understanding the problem, parents can give their children some advice and guidance to help them better manage interpersonal relationships.
If the problem is more severe, parents can communicate with the school to understand their child's performance and needs at school.
Children need to know that interpersonal distress is pervasive and that confronting and dealing with them is part of growing up. I hope that every child can grow up healthy and happy.