Being with the current one, but still having an ex in mind, is a more complex emotional state. Here are some suggestions to hopefully help you deal with this situation:
1.*Be honest about your feelings**: First, admit and accept the fact that you still have your ex in mind. This is the first step to solving the problem.
2.*Give yourself time and space**: Forget that your ex takes time, and don't force yourself to let go right away. Allow yourself to slowly process past feelings.
3.*Don't compare**: Try to avoid comparing the current and the ex, each one is unique, focus on the good things in the current and the good times between you.
4.Invest in the relationship with the present**: Strive to invest in the relationship with the present, get to know the present with your heart, and build a deeper emotional connection.
5.*Communication**: If you feel bothered, it's okay to talk to the incumbent about your feelings appropriately, but be mindful of the manner and timing to avoid causing harm to the incumbent.
6.*Cherish the Present**: Realize the importance of the Present to you and work hard to manage and cherish the relationship.
7.*Find an outlet**: If longing for your ex continues to affect you, try other ways to release it, such as journaling, confiding in friends, or seeking professional help.
8.*Focus on your own growth**: Invest in personal growth, develop your own interests and hobbies, and improve yourself, which will help you better face relationship problems.
9.*Let the Past Pass**: Try to let go of past memories and make them a part of your life, but don't let them hold you back.
10.*Maintain a positive attitude**: Believe that you can handle this emotion and maintain a positive attitude towards the present and the future.
The most important thing is to be honest with yourself and your current situation, and try to manage the relationship in the moment. At the same time, give yourself enough time to deal with past feelings.