People who have spent many years in their married life sometimes feel bored with the days they spend with their lovers and turn their attention to novelties outside of marriage. Psychology has long pointed out that those who betray their marriages tend to have a high tolerance for themselves. They will make excuses for themselves and try to get rid of their responsibilities and guilt. When they were tempted, they did not restrain themselves, but tried to dispel their inner worries. Extramarital relationships often start with "three words", just like a married man who meets a passionate woman at a friend's party, and thus begins an unusual experience.
This story may have played out somewhere between you and me. A married man who has a gentle and virtuous wife, and the two have a stable relationship. However, at a party, he meets a passionate and unrestrained woman, and as a result, his life begins to change subtly. The woman offered to make overtures, and instead of refusing, he was attracted by her enthusiasm. In the world outside of marriage, he felt like he had changed, as if he had found another side of himself. He devoted himself wholeheartedly to the relationship, promised to meet her various requests, and even began to consider divorce from his wife. However, when he tries to pursue more, he finds that the relationship is nothing more than an exchange of interests, and everything is just a superficial beauty. Nix once said, "Marriage is a book, the first chapter is written in psalms, and the rest is plain prose." But for some people, the novelty outside of marriage is an irresistible **, just like people who are used to eating delicacies from the mountains and seas, they will also praise a small dish.
For married people, it is crucial to maintain a proper distance from the opposite sex, as extramarital relationships often begin with a conversation. Communicating with each other can be a double-edged sword, which can lead to a better understanding of each other, but it can also lead each other to the brink of danger. Some people may have lamented why they didn't meet each other earlier, but such feelings are often only temporary emotions, and once they relax their guard, what awaits them may be an irreparable crisis. Therefore, at no time should you step into extramarital feelings. It is necessary to focus on marriage and manage each other's feelings with heart in order to achieve long-term happiness. No matter how tempting the novelty outside of marriage is, and no matter how much you can talk to people outside of marriage, you must stick to your heart, cherish the happiness you have in front of you, and walk through the rest of your life hand in hand with your lover.
Sometimes, some people choose to betray their marriage without really thinking about divorce. Seventy percent of the people I surveyed said they didn't really think about divorce when they betrayed their marriage, but just wanted to "try" their relationship outside of marriage. They felt that their actions were not betrayal, but just impulse. However, once they indulge the "give it a try" mentality, they tend to completely abandon their responsibilities to marriage and their lover's vows. Such behavior not only hurts the lover, but also ultimately hurts oneself. As a reader friend shared with me, she and her husband have been married for decades, and they have long since run out of things to talk about. She meets a man who can listen to her, and the two get along happily, and her heart involuntarily tilts. However, this affair eventually made her lose everything, everything was like a dream, but it was so real.
Everyone needs to pay the price for their actions, and betrayal of marriage is no exception. Those who indulge their emotions may end up paying a heavy price, and they may lose their original happiness and the opportunity to spend the rest of their lives with their loved ones. Therefore, you must know how to cherish everything you have in front of you, stick to your commitment to marriage, and don't easily touch your feelings outside of marriage. Only in this way can we have true happiness and share the bits and pieces of life with our lovers.