On the ninth Double Ninth Day of September, Tao Yuanming, who had returned to Nanshan, sat quietly among the flowers, stroking the piano and singing at the same time. He was in a particularly good mood, but the fly in the ointment was the lack of good wine in the glass.
At this moment, a young man dressed in white walked over, carrying a jar of fine wine in his hand, which was specially sent by his friend Wang Hong, the assassin of Jiangzhou.
The bright moon rose, Tao Yuanming and the young man tasted wine and chrysanthemums under the east fence, as the night deepened, he was drunk in the shadow of the flowers, enjoying this rare tranquility and comfort.
This is the record in "Tao Yuan Mingzhi", the troubled hearts of countless descendants were awakened by the story of "white clothes sending wine".
Mo Yan said: "Wherever people gather in the world, there are no more than three topics to talk about: showing off oneself in a roundabout way, belittling others with oil and vinegar, and telling right and wrong by snooping on each other. ”
That's why we learn to be alone.
Learn to be alone, and you will have things that others can't gain, and there will be realms that others can't feel, but you won't have those bad information and words.
Learning to be alone strengthens the self.
The most important thing for people is not to understand others, but to understand yourself, when you are alone, you will know your thoughts and feelings, understand your real needs, and what kind of person you are, which is the foundation of your growth and development.
Learning to be alone strengthens creativity.
Being alone makes you more focused, and Jobs said, "Focus and simplicity have always been one of my secrets." "That's why many great artists, writers, and scientists like to be alone, and the result of concentration is creation.
Learning to be alone strengthens autonomy.
Being alone can make you no longer dependent on others, so that you can be more confident and independent in life, you can take a look at Beihai Jun's previous article "It's better to be still than to move, it's better to ask for others than to seek yourself", rely on people and rely on heaven and earth, and ultimately rely on yourself.
Learning to be alone can reduce stress.
Being alone can help you get away from social stress and the hustle and bustle of life, and help you feel more relaxed and calm. The human brain needs to rest, long-term stress will produce brain fog, memory, execution, and decision-making will decline, and solitude is a good medicine for the brain.
Solitude is not loneliness, people who can be alone are people of another dimension, people of another realm, this kind of people naturally enjoy the happiness brought by solitude, and abandon those useless social interactions.
Learning to be alone couldn't be easier. Find a hobby, then cultivate it, enjoy it, like reading, sports, drawing, meditation, or writing as I did.
Rabindranath Tagore said, "When you are alone, you find that the whole world is smiling at you." ”
That's right, it's what you feel in your heart, and other people don't understand and don't need to understand. You will feel one with heaven and earth, one with all things, one with the world.
So, "Alone" is a special friend of yours who will be there for you when you are bored, encourage you when you are lonely, and comfort you when you are irritable.
Learn to be alone, friend, it's a one-man!
Beihai Wenlan. February** Dynamic Incentive Program