On New Year's Day, I sent my aunt 20 pounds of sausages, but I didn't expect that the third aunt would come to my house crying the next day
My mother is the second daughter in the family and has three sisters. In the countryside, there is a saying that goes like this: the eldest is sharp, the second is stupid, and the worst is the third.
When my mother was a child, because my grandmother's family was poor, and my grandfather admired boys, she longed for a son. However, since the aunt is the first child of the grandmother's family, the aunt is still favored to a certain extent.
And my mother, as the second child, is the most unpopular in the family. When the third aunt was born, the status of the mother dropped a lot. Although the third aunt is also a girl, the grandfather originally hoped to have a boy, but due to physical reasons, he could not regenerate, so the third aunt became the youngest and most favored child.
The difference between the mother and the third aunt is only two years old, but there is a world of difference at home. My third aunt was pampered like a princess, and my mother was like an insignificant maid.
My mother recounted the hardships of childhood, the poverty of the family, and the adults had to work in the production team to earn food rations. The eldest aunt was fortunate enough to be able to go to school, while the mother was left at home to take care of the third aunt.
The third aunt was weak when she was a child, and her grandfather always bought cookies and apples for her. At noon, when my grandfather was not at home, my mother had to make cookies in hot water for my third aunt. And the mother could only silently eat simple corn paste. Once, my mother was really hungry and secretly tasted it, but was hit by the third aunt. The third aunt cried happily and told her grandfather that her mother was severely reprimanded by her grandmother, but the third aunt was overjoyed. 
Over time, my mother also became quick-witted. Whenever she couldn't eat apples, she would take advantage of her grandfather's absence to peel the apples for her third aunt, which was particularly thick, and then the third aunt ate the fruit pulp, while my mother enjoyed the peel with peace of mind. In this way, the third aunt can be happy.
Subsequently, my mother reached the age of elementary school, but my grandfather did not let her go to school because the family needed someone to take care of her third aunt. Therefore, when the third aunt also reached the age of going to school, the mother had the opportunity to go to school with the third aunt and enter the same class.
At that time, my mother was two years older than all my classmates. She is smart and smart, she has loved learning since she was a child, and her grades have always been at the top of her class. In contrast, the third aunt's academic performance is not satisfactory, and she always likes to play tricks on her classmates, causing her classmates to dislike her and not play with her. The third aunt often blamed her mother for these grievances, and often complained to her grandfather, so that her mother was often beaten.
As time passed, her mother longed to continue her junior high school after graduating from elementary school, but her grandfather rejected her wish on the grounds of the family's limited financial conditions. Because the eldest aunt is going to secondary school, and the third aunt is going to junior high school again, the family can't afford it. Therefore, my mother could only follow my grandfather to the production team and start working on the farm when she was a teenager. 
The third aunt got the opportunity to go to junior high school, however, she did not cherish this opportunity. In junior high school, she not only skipped school, but also fell into early love, did nothing all day, had a low academic performance, and was often criticized by teachers. Because of this state, she finally gave up junior high school and returned home. However, she did not like to work in the farm, and lived like a princess all day long, asking for food in her mouth and her hand for clothes.
People in the village commented that the third aunt was like a maid but had the temperament of a young lady, and a rural child actually lived a life without touching muddy water, doing nothing, being lazy and lazy, and I was afraid that she would not be able to marry in the future.
Unexpectedly, the third aunt fell in love after staying at home for a few years.
Her love object turned out to be the son of the village secretary, according to the current statement, he is a rich second generation, and he is a gentleman.
The boy was idle all day long, and would do nothing but chase the girl with sweet words. He relied on his father's wealth and power and superior family background, and mixed with a group of people all day long. However, the third aunt actually liked him very much, thinking that he was like a big brother, and no one in the village dared to bully him. Within two years, they actually got married. Moreover, the wedding was quite grand. Therefore, my grandfather felt that I had a face for this, and praised my third aunt for her good life and married into a powerful and good family. 
Although my third aunt was younger than my mother, she married before my mother, so both of her children became my cousins.
My mother was an expert in farm work, hardworking and simple, and many people in the village admired her.
When the mother reached marriageable age, many matchmakers came to propose. At first, her grandfather did not agree to her marriage and asked her to work at home for a few more years to support the family.
Later, my mother herself fell in love, and the object turned out to be a practical and hard-working young man in the village, with excellent character, (and eventually became my father). However, due to the poverty of the grandparents, the grandparents were firmly opposed. They stopped the family business with a bride price of 200 yuan. However, my mother had a relatively stubborn personality, and although she used to be very obedient, she did not listen to her grandfather's advice in this matter. She actually chose to get a marriage certificate directly with my father, without a wedding, and then began her married life. This made my grandparents so angry that they often accused her of being an unfilial daughter. 
After my mother got married, my younger siblings and I came into play, and our family of five was completely dependent on my father's income to make ends meet. Due to the poverty of our family and the large population, our children need to go to school, and we have been living a subsistence life.
Because of her mother's marriage, her grandfather had a lot of complaints about her, thinking that she was not angry, married a poor man, and lived the poorest life in the village, which made them ashamed. Even though our family was close to my grandmother's house, they never gave us any help when we were in trouble.
The third aunt's family is supposed to be rich, and my mother is her own sister, so she should lend a helping hand in the face of our predicament. However, the third aunt is a person with eyes above the top and snobbery.
Since she was a child, she looked down on my mother and always thought she was stupid. Coupled with my grandfather's dislike for my mother, and the poverty of my mother's married life, the third aunt thought it was a shame to have such a sister. Whenever we were in trouble, instead of helping us, she would laugh at our family, saying that my father was incompetent, brainless, and doomed to poverty for the rest of his life. Although I was too young to understand what her words meant, I knew she wasn't saying good things.
And when our family was in difficulty, it was all up to my aunt's support. My aunt has always been grateful to her mother for her hard work at home and for her schooling. Therefore, the aunt not only helps us financially, but also often buys various items for us, from small snacks to furniture and appliances.
I distinctly remember when I was a child, the first black-and-white TV our family owned was sent by my aunt. At that time, the promotion of black-and-white TV had just begun, and there were places in my aunt's unit, so when he brought the TV home, my aunt first considered us. She told her aunt that it would not be a problem for us to buy a TV, and that we had multiple children in our family and could not afford to buy a TV, so she suggested that we give it to us. The eldest aunt was a reasonable person, intelligent, hardworking and kind, and agreed without hesitation. Soon after, he personally took the time to deliver the TV to our house and helped my father install the antenna. It made all three of us happy.
As time went on, all three of us did well, excelled in our studies, and were admitted to university. My aunt has been a major supporter of our tuition fees all these years. Now, we have all graduated, we have our own stable jobs and families, and our lives are very happy.
Every Chinese New Year, my sister and brother always think of the good of our parents and aunts and husbands. As long as there is something delicious at home, and the parents have it, the aunt and the aunt must also have a share.
And the third aunt lived happily for a period of time after marriage. At that time, her father-in-law was the village party secretary, the family was wealthy, the conditions were superior, and her children were taken care of by her mother-in-law, so that she lived a worry-free life like a princess. She often said that although she had not read as many books as her aunt, her life was not inferior to that of her aunt. During the Chinese New Year, my mother and her grandmother would go back to their grandmother's house, and their grandmother would always prepare a sumptuous meal for them. However, my mother always came back without eating, because my mother felt that the things she was carrying were too plain, and my grandfather was angry because of this.
Later, when the third aunt's father-in-law decided to retire after serving as secretary, the third aunt's husband recruited a group of brothers in the village and prepared to support him in his election as village secretary. However, when his campaign was underway, the results had not yet been revealed, and his father was accused of being a *** old man, so he was laid off before the end of his term of office and almost went to prison. Since then, the third aunt has lost the opportunity to run for the village party secretary.
The third aunt suddenly became an ordinary person and had to rely on farming to make ends meet. The third aunt and his wife have not been good at farm work since they were children, and now they are about to start farming, and life has become very difficult.
The third aunt and the third uncle have always behaved like this, which makes me worry about what their cousins and cousins will be affected by them.
The two children did not have satisfactory academic performance since childhood, and after graduating from junior high school, they stepped into society, and their cousin got married early.
I heard that she married a Cantonese man, and with him going to Guangzhou, now even the third aunt can't contact her.
My cousin has been in conflict with people outside for many years, and three years ago because of alcoholism, he injured someone, not only lost money, but also went to prison, and has not been released from prison so far.
Now, the third aunt and the third uncle are also old and no longer maintain the domineering spirit of the past. Although they were smiling when they saw us, I could sense that their smiles were not genuine, but more like stammering.
So on New Year's Day, I decided to use pork raised by my mother-in-law's family, and I provided a lot of meat, which was particularly delicious. I made 20 catties of sausages for my mother, and I also thought about sending 20 catties of sausages to my aunt.
Because my aunt and uncle like to eat it, and the children in the family also like it, so I made it in advance and gave it to my aunt during the Chinese New Year.
Unexpectedly, my aunt was very happy, and when she left, she insisted on giving me 500 yuan, saying that she wanted me to go home and buy a new set of clothes for the children to wear. She said that this is the intention of the New Year, although I don't want to accept it, but it is not good to refuse her, after all, they both have pensions, and they don't care about this money. So, I finally accepted her kindness.
The aunt is a kind-hearted person who is very sympathetic to the plight of the third aunt. Every time I send something to my aunt, she always gives a part to my third aunt, because my family is not only financially strapped now, but also the third aunt and her third aunt are not in good health. The aunt shows typical elder sister care and always cares about the third aunt.
After giving the sausage to her aunt, she gave a part of it to her third aunt that night, telling her that I made it with my own pork.
Unexpectedly, the next day, the third aunt came to my house crying and asked me if I had been holding grudges, or if my mother had been holding grudges. It's been so many years, and when I was a child, she blamed me just because I was naughty and tore up my cousin's homework book. Other than that, she didn't have anything to do with me. Why is there such a difference in treatment between the same aunt?
Since we both lived in the same city as my aunt and saw each other frequently, she felt that we might all be looking down on her. She also mentioned that she had worn my cousin's leftover clothes twice and played with toys that my cousin didn't want. She even bought me a bunch of sugar gourds during the Chinese New Year. She asked me if I had forgotten all these things. She cried as she spoke.
Looking at the sad appearance of the third aunt, with white hair and vicissitudes on her face, I felt very sad in my heart. So I relented a little and let her take all the few catties of sausages left at home, so that I could also feel some comfort. Do you think I'm doing the right thing?