I found that the more virtuous, gentle, and obedient the original partner, the more difficult it is to turn over in the dilemma of a man's cheating. I met most of the original partners who were bullied by cheating men and mistresses, and most of them were good women and good wives in the eyes of ordinary people.
When they were young, they didn't think that men had no money, they worked hard with men, they were reluctant to eat, they were reluctant to wear, they dedicated everything to the family, and revolved around their children and husbands all their lives, giving up their careers for this, even if sometimes they have a bad temper, but on the whole, they are more meritorious than demerit to the family. The whole family is built on their hard work. They think that their selfless dedication will definitely make men grateful and be guaranteed for a lifetime. But in the end, the living environment at home was a little better, the man had a little money, and the good days didn't come, but the junior came.
Some sisters are indeed too kind, after finding out that their husbands are treacherous, they are disheartened and have no fighting spirit. That's it! These sisters will definitely choose to divorce without losing their armor, and their reason is: "The man's heart is gone, what is the use of me keeping his person?" Then all the efforts in this life were wasted, and the junior easily picked up the ready-made, and laughed at the original partner for being too easy to bully.
As for the original partners after the divorce, some will slowly find themselves, but most of them are disappointed in life. Sometimes they go to parties and pick up their younger hobbies, but they tell their friends in private, "Actually, the hurt in my heart is not good at all." I just let myself deliberately not think about it. ”
There are also some sisters who were furious after discovering that their husbands were cheating, and their efforts for so many years were in vain? So this part of the sisters will expose the ugly face of men in public, and the cheating man is not reasonable, at this time he can only be angry and angry to deduct all the blame on his wife's head, some men ignore the kindness of several years, in order to force their wives to divorce, anything can be done.
There is also a part of the original partner, which is a little weaker, after the man cheats, in order to take care of the overall situation, she thinks that the fault is on herself, so she changes the law to please the man. turned a blind eye to a man's cheating, and cut the rest of her life with a blunt knife, she was in a river of blood and tears on the side, and the man and the mistress were extravagant.
Either endure internal injuries, or injure 10,000 enemies and lose 8,000, or throw away their armor and flee. It is the mental journey that most of our original partners have walked. I know that these sisters must be kind by nature, because the heart of an unkind person will not be so soft and sad. But I also have to say that the above three strategies for dealing with her husband's cheating are not correct.
After experiencing the dilemma of her husband's cheating, what should the original partner do?
The first thing the original partner has to do is put away the emotional thoughts.
I know that after a man has an affair, the original partner must be very uncomfortable. Most of them are either self-pitying, demeaning themselves, or they are angry and want to destroy everything. But such emotions will only be used by the third sister, and it will only make you fall into nothing.
What we need now is to solve the problem cleanly, the long pain is not as good as the short pain, only when you take the initiative to solve the problem, you will find that the original husband's cheating can be solved, it turns out that as long as you take the initiative, everything will be fine. On the contrary, when you procrastinate, hesitate, and vent your anger indiscriminately, you will not be able to solve anything, and you will only make your daily life miserable.
Faced with the dilemma of her husband's cheating, what we have to do is to stabilize our emotions first, and then let the emotions of the mistress and the man rise and fall for you. In a word, you have to them, you can't let them you!
When you don't collapse on the surface, don't cry or make trouble, don't question or break the defense, and sit firmly on the Diaoyutai platform, those moths of men and juniors can't hold you. The next thing you have to do is to use some strategies to make the man and the mistress confused.