The elders often say that if they don't listen to the elderly, they will often suffer immediate losses, and the charm of this slang sentence must have been experienced by many people. These wise sayings that are deeply rooted in the hearts of the people come from the rich colloquial culture of our Chinese nation.
Regarding the importance of colloquial culture in Chinese civilization, as Chinese descendants, we naturally have a deep understanding. Colloquial culture, as an important cultural product that led the social atmosphere in ancient times, although its concept may be controversial in modern society, has an indelible position in history.
In an era when the amount of information disseminated was extremely low, the common people lived in a world devoid of the concept of truth, and their lives were short but full of profound meaning.
Conclusions that are regarded as guides and truths in life have a unique charm regardless of the era. Even in today's fast-paced life, young people still have a deep sense of reverence for these sayings.
This respect stems from the profound cultural heritage behind these sayings, the cultural heritage of the Chinese nation has always been outstanding, and the 5,000-year-long history has laid a solid foundation for the brilliance and richness of Chinese civilization.
In the process of changing times, new ideas conflict with old traditional concepts, making some like"I'd rather marry a second-degree flower than marry someone left behind"Such a culture of colloquialisms is gradually losing its market.
These differences in perceptions lead to a conflict of views between the elderly and the young, and this difference is closely related to each person's worldview, values, and outlook on life.
The idea of the supremacy of imperial power occupied an important position in ancient society, and at the same time, it also widened the information gap between people. Each person's view of things becomes a reflection of their personality.
In ancient society, the estrangement between the powerful and the common people was obvious, and this social structure made people's thinking solidified, and the aesthetic was single and inclusive. This can be seen from the popular physiognomy of ancient times.
On the one hand, this phenomenon reflects the idea of feudal superstition, and on the other hand, it also makes young people feel offended. After all, the fate, origin, and appearance of life cannot be changed through acquired efforts, and even second-married women who are not accepted enough can change their fate.
Although the lives of second-married women in modern society are equally blessed, there will always be narrow-minded people who look at them with prejudice and do not seem to understand that respect for life is something that everyone should have.
The presence of these people makes the situation of second-married women awkward. Looking back at the feudal era, the famous poet Li Qingzhao was regarded as a second-married woman, but in fact, second-married women were not considered low-status people in that era.
However, the reasons for divorce or bereavement of second-married women often become the focus of their attention before they remarry. Although it was not difficult for the ancients to accept a second-married woman, the reputation of the adulterer in marriage would be spurned by generations, which was a point that the ancients hated very much.
This type of woman is often saddled with the label of infidelity, so it is inevitable that they will encounter difficulties on the road to remarriage. In addition to them, the lives of second-married women will not be affected too much.
Sadly, there was always all sorts of gossip in that era. The second flower itself has an outstanding personality. If it weren't for the lack of self-motivation of the first-married husband or the constant challenge to their principles and bottom line, the marriage would not end easily.
After the husband and wife break up, they remarry for the second time, and the problems of the previous marriage often lie with the man. When the second flower is honest with the previous marriage, the world's perception of them will also change.
Some people say that if a person does not know how to cherish himself, it will be difficult to grasp even if true love comes. Obviously, that's why people call them"Second degree flower", precisely because of their unique charm.
Growing up slowly in the process of self-love and finding your own path in life will always attract the attention of those who know how to appreciate them. Such a woman is worthy of it"Second degree flower"The title.
They are strong, self-loving, know how to enjoy every challenge in life, and take the promises they have made seriously if they are determined. Just ask, who doesn't like such a woman, like a sonorous rose blooming in the wind and rain?
Traditionally, women with a second degree of flower are more able to manage their marriages and let their in-laws feel at ease to leave their children to manage the family, while women with a legacy type are in a more difficult situation.
However, the second marriage woman also includes the human type that has been left behind, and the second flower and the person left behind are two different concepts, and the woman who has left behind refers specifically to the woman who has lost her husband. In ancient times, the saying of a natural nemesis was very popular, whether it was a man or a woman, if the parents died at a young age, or if one of the parents died first, the child would be considered to be fatal and defeated.
The object of condemnation of the world will be replaced by a married woman, and Kefu's reputation must be indispensable. If a woman already has a child before her husband's death, the ownership of the child after the second marriage will lead to a new round of disputes.
The new in-laws must have a grudge against this, this is human nature, and it is also an unavoidable problem in the world, and no one has the right to make any decisions on behalf of the new in-laws. Conversely, if the new in-law's family is dissatisfied with the second wife because of this, this is also a disadvantage that cannot be bypassed.
In addition, the word superstition came from the feudal era, and the ancients had a supreme worship of ghosts and gods, believing that the husband who died of a second wife might see his wife marry twice and take revenge.
Although this argument is not convincing, it is also a common belief in modern society, and the ancients may have been surprised by this view, so that the inner fear was opened and could no longer be closed.
Some of the factors that may be hidden before marriage can quickly pile up after marriage to form a huge amount of stress, and this pressure symbolizes problems that may never be resolved. If the conflict cannot be resolved, the marriage may reach a dead end, as it is often said, conflicts are easy to arise but difficult to solve, and even a well-thought-out marriage will face such problems.
Marriage is a difficult road that requires a lifetime of effort. Short-term pleasures do not bring substantial help to marriage, because the essence of marriage does not lie in the wind and snow, but in the trivialities of life, firewood, rice, oil and salt.
It's not that there is no romance in married life, but we need to ensure the basic survival conditions of marriage first, and then we can consider how to enrich marriage with romance.
The reason why the ancients resolutely opposed marrying widows was that there was an insurmountable gap and estrangement between them and the men's families, which was very detrimental to the stability and development of marriage.
Solving possible problems can avoid the hidden danger of marriage breakdown. Therefore, we cannot blame the bereaved woman for the unfair treatment in the life of the bereaved husband. Even though they lost their marriage, it doesn't mean they can't live a wonderful life.
As long as there are dreams and hopes, a bright future will always come as promised.