Dictation: Mr. Jia.
Author: Xiaoya.
Today, I would like to share with you my experience with my wife. It's all fate, if it weren't for my wife's ex-husband being blind and relying on women without the ability, I might not have been able to marry such a virtuous wife.
My wife and I got married in 1994, when I was 26 years old. At this age, if you are not married now, it is estimated that the family will at most urge two sentences, and you will not feel too anxious, but in that era, especially in rural areas, both boys and girls get married quite early, so seeing that I am not married at this age, my parents are anxious.
In fact, not only my parents are anxious, but I am also anxious, after all, I also want to marry a wife, want to have a happy family, live a life of wife and children, and don't want to be a bachelor for a lifetime, but my conditions are too poor.
My ancestors have been farmers who have lived by farming for generations, and so have my parents. My mother's health is not good, after giving birth to me, her physical condition is even worse, she is panting for breath when she walks a few steps, and she lives with medicine all the year round, and she can't make money to support her family.
My parents thought that reading could change their fate, and they sent me to school with a lot of money, hoping that I could have a good life, but I was not the material, although I also read at night and worked hard to endorse, but I just couldn't improve my academic performance, and in the end, I read to the second year of junior high school, and I really couldn't see the hope of being admitted to high school, so I had to choose to drop out of school and go home to farm.
My parents didn't want me to farm, but our family had no way out, and we couldn't find a way to make a living for a while, so I became a farmer.
I have no stable income, a suitable job, and I don't look good, and after a few years of farm work, I have become rough and thick-skinned, dark, and have no family conditions, and I can't even afford to build a house, so naturally no one looks down on me.
Just when our family didn't know what to do, Aunt Shen, the matchmaker, found my parents and said that there was a family affair that asked if our family was willing to get married.
Knowing that I had the hope of marrying a wife, my parents were very happy and hurriedly asked Aunt Shen about the situation. Aunt Shen showed hesitation and told us, "Don't scold me! I have to remind you that the woman is not only a year older than your son, but she is also divorced. ”
Hearing this, my parents looked at each other and said they didn't mind, but my mom kept an eye and asked about the reason for the divorce. After hearing the answer, my mother almost didn't beat Aunt Shen out.
Aunt Shen said that the reason why the other party divorced was because she had not had children after three years of marriage, and her in-laws thought that the other party could not have children and could not give them family inheritance, so they divorced.
Can my mom not be angry when she hears this? After all, I am also the only son in the family, even if my parents don't pay attention to this, they don't like patriarchy, and they want a grandchild!
Aunt Shen hurriedly comforted my parents, told my parents to be calm and listen to her finish speaking. Considering that Aunt Shen has always been very reliable as a matchmaker, and the quality of the red line is very high, my parents decided to give her a chance, after all, it is not easy for me to find a wife.
It turned out that the woman Aunt Shen was talking about was called He Wen, the daughter of her eldest sister, who was a teacher in an elementary school at the time.
In 91, 24-year-old He Wen was introduced to her ex-husband. When she got married, her ex-husband was divorced and had a short marriage, and the reason for the divorce was that the husband and wife were not in harmony.
Originally, He Wen's parents were reluctant to marry her to a divorced man, but the other party had a job, could make money, and had good family conditions.
"Whew! After getting married, the girl learned that the reason why her ex-husband divorced was because the first wife failed to have children, and he thought that the old hen that did not lay eggs could not give his family a succession, so he forced his daughter-in-law to divorce. ”
The man swore that he would be good to He Wen, and He Wen thought that it was normal for a man to want a child, so he didn't think much about it, and lived with the other party in a down-to-earth manner.
Not long after He Wen got married, her in-laws stared at her belly, vigorously gave birth, and made some home remedies for He Wen to drink. He Wen was worried that she would hurt her body and was reluctant to drink, so she quarreled with her in-laws a lot.
After a year of marriage, seeing that He Wen was not pregnant with a child, her in-laws were unhappy, and He Wen had no choice but to drink those home remedies, but she still couldn't conceive, and her in-laws were even more unhappy.
"Tell me, if the first wife can't conceive, he can still suspect that it's a woman's problem, and the second wife can't conceive, shouldn't he doubt himself? Shouldn't I go to the hospital for a check-up? It's good for them to say that a woman has a problem, saying that the girl also has a problem, and scolding and scolding. ”
He Wen felt very aggrieved and went to the hospital for an examination, the doctor said that she had no physical problems, and also suggested that her husband go to the hospital for an examination, so He Wen returned to her mother-in-law's house, talked about the incident, and persuaded her ex-husband to go to the hospital for examination.
Knowing that her daughter was bullied, He Wen's mother's family couldn't bear it anymore, made a big fuss, and asked for a divorce, and just like that, the two parted ways.
After listening to the cause and effect of the incident, my parents looked at me and asked me to make my own decision. I thought about it again and again, and felt that He Wen was indeed quite innocent, so I decisively agreed to go on a blind date with He Wen.
After the blind date, we were very satisfied with each other and decided to enter the palace of marriage hand in hand. He Wen's parents were also very satisfied with me, and agreed to this family affair without asking for anything.
Just when I was happily holding a wedding to marry a wife, He Wen's ex-husband's family actually came to visit, and when they saw me and He Wen, they sneered, saying that I couldn't marry a wife before I wanted someone else to sleep with a woman, and I was still a woman who couldn't lay eggs.
Hearing this, He Wen was so angry that she scolded, and I picked up the flat burden and beat He Wen's ex-husband's family out. They fled in confusion and threatened to see our jokes.
He Wen and I ignored them and held a wedding normally. Less than a year after I got married, I was happy, and my parents were smiling, just because He Wen was pregnant.
When I learned that I was pregnant, He Wen cried with joy, hugged me and cried, I naturally knew the grievances in her heart, and hurried to comfort her.
In October, under the careful care of my parents, He Wen gave birth to a son, and my parents and father-in-law were very happy, and they put on a banquet and invited Aunt Shen to drink the wedding wine.
While drinking the wedding wine happily, Aunt Shen told us about He Wen's ex-husband's family. It turned out that the news of He Wen's pregnancy was spread by those uncles and aunts, and it also spread to He Wen's ex-husband's house. In this way, the answer to who has the question is self-evident.
According to Aunt Shen, He Wen's ex-husband's family was angry, but there was nothing they could do about everyone who treated them as jokes. And the ex-husband has always wanted to marry another wife, but with two lessons from the past, who dares to marry him?
As for the follow-up, I only know that within a few years, her ex-husband's family moved out and was never heard from again. He Wen and I went out to work, trying to earn money to support our family, and now our children have grown up**, finished college, and will get married in a few months.
It seems that some fates are destined in the previous life, and the two of us are destined for heaven, and we will definitely grow old together and live this life happily.
end.Today's topic: What do you think of Mr. Jia's marriage with He Wen? Feel free to share your views in the comments section.