In this complex and ever-changing society, eating is no longer just about filling your stomach, it's also a way to socialize. Especially in the workplace, whether it is a promotion or a salary increase or asking for help, it is inseparable from food and entertainment. However, although there are many meals, not all of them are meaningful.
Some people are not worth continuing to socialize, and participating in such meaningless meals will only waste time and it will be difficult to gain any value. As people get older, they need freedom and happiness more than ever, and they should learn to be content and not participate in those superfluous meals, otherwise they will only exhaust themselves. However, many people feel lonely after retirement, and always want to socialize to fill their lonely life, gather with family, friends, and colleagues, but there are always some people who make themselves annoyed. In fact, even if you have a good relationship with some people, not every interpersonal relationship needs to be maintained, especially the following six types of people, try not to invite them to dinner, so as not to worry constantly!
1.Wine and meat friends: When you are young, many people like to make friends, and they always think that multiple friends have multiple paths. However, there are different types of friends, some of whom fall in love with each other at first sight, while others only gather around the wine table. These fox friends seem to talk a lot, but they don't really want you, they will only find ways to take advantage of you. They don't have the ability to give you help and advice in life, they will only make you more expenses and worries. Keep your distance from these people and don't waste money and energy.
2.People who inquire about the situation of their children: As they grow older, their children have already started a family, and it is difficult to stay with us for a long time, and it is inevitable that they will be a little lonely. When friends and relatives come to get together, everyone will naturally be enthusiastic. However, if these people are particularly concerned about their children's work and keep inquiring about their current situation, they need to be especially careful about their motives. The reason why they pay attention to their children's work is nothing more than to know their children's achievements and whether they have inherited their own mantle. When you meet such people, it is better not to invite them to dinner, so as not to cause embarrassment and trouble.
3.Snobbish relatives: There are always people in life who have a mess of their own lives, but they like to speak ill of people behind their backs and say something negative. These people are very warm and sincere to you on the surface, but behind the scenes, they will spread your privacy and speak ill of you, damaging your reputation. These snobbish relatives don't care how much you pay for them, and they always want to take advantage of you, only seeing the shortcomings of others but not their own problems. Keep your distance from these people and don't barely maintain contact just because you are relatives, otherwise you will only get yourself tired.
4.People who have something to do: Many people are in high positions and have a lot of connections, so after retirement, many people will ask them for help. There is no need to worry about the affairs of your children and relatives, and there is no need to compete for fame and fortune. If there are still people asking for help at this time, most likely they want to use their network resources for many years. We will be caught in a dilemma, and although we may still have some influence, we are already in a state of being a hot and cold person. These people know that they are in trouble, but they still come to the door for help, which shows that they put their personal interests first. There is no need to be polite to these people, let alone invite them to dinner, so as not to cause misunderstandings.
5.People with different views: There are no two leaves in the world that are exactly the same, and there are no two people who are exactly the same. However, many people come together because of the same three views and become sincere friends with each other. But there are also some people who do not agree with each other, and it is inevitable that awkwardness will occur in work or life. In this case, it is better for two people to keep their distance and not make do with it, otherwise they will not be able to become real friends. When people reach old age, life is more lonely and lonely, be cautious when choosing friends, meet people who do not agree with the three views, it will only bring troubles to yourself, whether you often eat together or make friends, it is difficult to have any results, it will only waste time and money. In your retirement life, you should be careful about who you choose to eat. Don't maintain unnecessary relationships because of pride, learn to break unhealthy relationships and give yourself more freedom and joy.
After retirement, what we should pursue is true happiness and peace of mind, rather than being bothered by meaningless social activities. Let's cherish the quality time spent with people who are truly worthy of dating and live our wonderful lives!