New Year's greetings are a very important custom in traditional Chinese culture, especially when the new and old sons-in-law go back to their wives' homes to pay New Year's greetings, and the difference is too obvious.
First of all, the mentality of the new son-in-law and the old son-in-law is very different. Because it is the first time for a new son-in-law to visit his wife's mother's house, he is usually more nervous and restrained, worried that his performance is not good enough and will leave a bad impression on his mother-in-law. The old son-in-law is more relaxed, because he has been there many times, knows what to pay attention to, and will not be too nervous.
In the choice of gifts, the new son-in-law usually chooses more expensive gifts to show his sincerity and respect. The old son-in-law pays more attention to practicality and heart, and will choose some more practical gifts, or choose gifts according to the preferences of the mother-in-law.
In terms of coping, the new son-in-law is usually more passive, following the rhythm of his wife and mother-in-law, and rarely takes the initiative to express his opinions. The old son-in-law is more active, will take the initiative to chat with the mother-in-law, ask her about her recent situation, and will also take the initiative to bring up some topics to chat.
In general, there are indeed some obvious differences between the old and new sons-in-law when they go back to their wives' homes to pay New Year's greetings. But whether it is a new son-in-law or an old son-in-law, they should respect the cultural customs of their mother-in-law and wife, and follow the customs of the locals, so that the New Year's greetings become more harmonious and pleasant.