The Spring Festival is a symbol of reunion and a feast of family affection.
With full of joy and anticipation, Xiaoling began to buy tickets online half a month in advance. The Spring Festival ticket was too tight, and I had no choice but to grab only one station ticket to return to my hometown. After a day of tossing, it was approaching evening, and I finally arrived home with a few large bags of luggage. Open the suitcase and immediately take out a carefully selected gift for your mother and sister - whitening and anti-wrinkle**. When Xiaoling enthusiastically handed it to them, her mother said, "I already have it, your quality is not good", and my sister said, "These have no effect, I never use this product", and asked her to take back the ** handed out. Those carefully selected ** instantly seemed to become useless waste paper. The words of her mother and sister were like a cold wind, which made Xiaoling feel cold.
At the invitation of my sister, I went to her house to eat hot pot, and I originally planned to live at my sister's house that night, like when I was a child, the two sisters slept in the same bed, reminiscing about the scene of rolling and playing in bed together when they were children, talking happily, and reliving the warmth of childhood, but my sister's sentence "I have to work overtime tonight" made Xiaoling speechless and then said the next sentence, and the word "overtime" broke her fantasy. When I was about to go out with my bag, I was worried that my niece who was about to enter the university internship would not be able to keep up with the rhythm of the times, and her basic skills were not solid, so I brought it up to her, and wanted to teach her the key points and skills of doing PPT, and teach her some experience.
On the evening of the thirtieth day of the Chinese New Year's Eve, before the Spring Festival Gala, Xiaoling sat on the sofa and wanted to patiently communicate with her younger brother who was just starting out in the workplace, telling him "How to deal with interpersonal relationships in the workplace?" How to take care of yourself who often works overtime? What are the appropriate ways to take care of the family", before Xiaoling finished speaking, her younger brother's sentence "What do you know?" Who wants you to take care of this? The reproach and tough tone pierced Xiaoling's heart like a knife. It was originally out of concern, but in exchange for his impatience and incomprehension, Xiao Ling's words came to an abrupt end.
Before leaving, I visited my father's grave and mourned my father's death from hard work before he was 60 years old. Now he is lying alone forever in the distant mountains of Suijiang in Zhaotong, Yunnan, and few people visit him all year round. Kneeling on the ground for a long time and reluctant to get up, reluctant to leave the grave that had long been overgrown with weeds, but was told by his mother's sentence "Hurry up, hurry up, hurry up!" Otherwise, the people in the parking lot will have to charge additional parking fees! Xiaoling had to be dragged away from her father's grave by them, with tears in her eyes, what could she do, she couldn't stay with him for a minute longer, she was still twisted back to the car by her family. I finally got home after a bumpy ride on the mountain road, but in the car, the family didn't say a word. She didn't want to say it, and she couldn't say anything anymore.
The annual Spring Festival is supposed to be the warmest day. But in this Spring Festival, what Xiaoling felt was the indifference of her mother, sister, niece and brother, the dearest people in her life. What they brought to Xiao Ling was boring family affection, their words and deeds, like a basin of ice water, completely extinguished Xiao Ling's enthusiasm, and what they used to talk about has now become nothing to say. Family affection has become a little ruthless, and I don't know when, it has gradually drifted away to this point.
Sad, aggrieved, heartbroken......Can you blame others?
Su Shi said: As long as the mentality is good enough, there is no bitterness and happiness in the world. If you can't change others, you should change your mentality, adjust your emotions, and broaden your mind. When the mind is wide, the pattern is bigger, the realm is high, and the tolerance is broader, and you will face everything rationally and calmly.
It takes time and effort to resolve conflicts, and everyone will have their own new lifestyles and ideas as time, place, and living environment change, and maybe they don't mean to hurt Xiaoling. Try to see things from the perspective of your loved ones, and you may be able to find some common ground and bridges of communication.
Learn to be tolerant and understanding, family affection is mutual, and you can't just expect a response from others. Continue to treat your family with sincerity and express your love through actions. Don't be discouraged even if you don't get the response you expected, because love doesn't ask for anything in return. At the same time, also give yourself some time and space to heal. Let us face the challenge of family affection with hope, and use understanding, tolerance and love to resolve conflicts and regain the warmth that has been lost. Because family affection is always the most precious treasure in our lives.