It's been a long time since I've written psychological content, so express my emotions and understanding. It's also a boost.
In fact, you should always find a comfortable state, find the life you really want, be evaluated by others, be talked about, and then you care very much, and the final result is that you will live a very obscene life.
It's okay, in a person's life, there will be a lot of mistakes and mistakes, if you are wrong, you will be wrong, you will admit it generously, it will be enough, if you are not happy, just him,, scold and scold.
People, if they want to be recognized by others, they still don't recognize themselves, don't know enough about themselves, and don't have enough confidence in themselves. Because when I was a child, only a child who was approved by my mother could get the love of my mother and avoid being ignored by my mother.
Therefore, sensitive children, children who please others, are very obsessed with right and wrong, and need to be recognized, affirmed, praised and praised by others. At this time, she thought that she had so-called value.
It's really sad, why should people be infinitely recognized by others so that they can be affirmed for their own value?
There is no need at all.
On the contrary, the reason why they will please and be sensitive is because they themselves do not recognize their own value, and they think that they are a child who is not worthy of love, a child who is not worthy of attention, and a child who has no sense of worth.
In fact, children, you have to understand that many people's evaluations are purposeful, mixed with their personal interests, all for their own personal motives, to complete the little ninety-nine in their hearts, if you care too much about other people's evaluations, you will fall into a huge self-proof trap, nowhere to escape, this is a kind of regression, but also the atrophy of energy.
For example, a female friend once confided in me that I don't know why, many people don't like her, and even say bad things about her, and she didn't do anything wrong at all. I said to her, have you noticed that you are more likely to be favored by men in the crowd, and that you are more likely to be spoken ill of by women?The reason why they give you such a low rating is not because you are really bad, it is probably because they are jealous of your appearance or personality, and are jealous that you are loved and valued more by the opposite sex than they are.
Indeed, the meaning of life is not to be endlessly recognized by the outside world, but to recognize one's own behavior and behavior, and it is enough to be harmonious. If you blindly choose to present your perfect self in the eyes of others, it is a waste of your own short decades.