As the saying goes: "Dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to wind, and rats give birth to burrows." This sentence vividly illustrates what kind of parents there are, what kind of children they have. The words are not rough. To put it mildly, parents are their children's first teachers. The newborn child is a blank piece of paper, if it is said that "the one who is close to Zhu is red, and the one who is close to ink is black", then the color of the parents determines the color of the child. It is the responsibility of parents to be a good role model for their children. The role of parents and elders is far greater than the power of preaching. "Imperceptibly" means the same thing.
So, in our daily life, what aspects should we pay attention to our words and deeds and set a good example for our children?
Clause. 1. Restrain your bad behavior habits.
Some parents live a fast-paced life, work under pressure, or socialize a lot, and work all day long. Three days and two business trips, ten days and a half months of overtime. That's it, not enough. Eating in hotels, drinking in nightclubs, singing in private rooms, foot baths and saunas and other entertainment activities occupy their entire spare time. In the eyes of children, they either don't stay at home, or they come home or sleep. It is still difficult for children to look at them, and there is a lack of communication.
Some parents have relatively idle jobs or no formal occupations, and they are addicted to playing cards and rubbing hemp all day long. It's not going out early and returning late, it's just three friends and four friends, and it's a miasma. As soon as the words came out, it was a mahjong scripture, and his mind was full of pai gow-nine. Children's three meals are often not guaranteed, and it is difficult to talk about higher-level requirements.
Some young parents like to surf the Internet, and after work, they sit in front of the computer for half a day or half of the night. Chatting, shopping, playing online games, day and night, black and white are reversed, and children are treated like nothing. For a long time, children see the indifferent backs of their parents in front of the computer, and their physical and mental requirements are not met.
As parents, we can't shirk our responsibilities, and behind our excessive rashness, it may be the child's lifelong inaction. Daily pastimes are appropriate, and everything has a degree. Always think about it, does this affect your child? Always ask, what do you want your child to learn from you? Paying more attention to your child's body and paying attention to your child's learning is the best education for your child.
Clause. 2. Cultivate a wide range of interests and hobbies.
Everyone wants their children to be smart and talented. But intelligence is genetic, and interests also need to be cultivated. Parents are incomplete, can you expect your children to be good at singing and dancing? Parents never read books, can you expect children to be keen to read? Parents don't know everything about piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, can you imagine that your children are proficient? Therefore, in addition to work, we should cultivate more healthy and elegant hobbies. Accompany your lover, bring your children, or sing and dance, run and play ball; or reading a book, drinking tea, hiking; or learn piano and chess, appreciate calligraphy and painting; Or do needlework and try knitting. Learning is endless, and so is joy.
A wide range of interests and hobbies are conducive to enriching our spare time, improving our cultural literacy, sustenance of emotions, and expression of feelings. It is more conducive to creating a good family atmosphere and has a far-reaching impact on children. Children are the best at learning and imitating. When we are immersed in it, our children also learn talents and improve their intelligence, and the effect is far better than the boring drills of many expensive "specialty erasure classes".
Clause. 3. Improve one's own moral cultivation.
In real life, many parents only pay attention to their children's academic performance, and do not pay attention to their children's ideological and moral education. As everyone knows, this is purely putting the cart before the horse. Most children with poor grades have problems not in intelligence, but in their minds. When the ideological problem is solved, the child's learning problem will be solved. However, the problem of thinking, once it arises, is not easy to solve. Most of a child's initial ideas come from the influence of their parents. If the parents are money worshippers, cynics who are useless in reading, hedonists who are greedy for comfort, short-sighted people who have no ambitions, lazy and sloppy people who are careless, idlers who are selfish and self-interested, and bitter people who are unkind. Let's think about it, can such a child with such impure thoughts brought up by his parents have the motivation to learn and the perseverance to endure hardships? Children with simple minds are more likely to focus on their studies and have a stronger sense of well-being throughout their lives. Therefore, parents should pay attention to improving their own moral cultivation and have a correct outlook on life and values. Even in the face of unsatisfactory work, unsatisfactory life, and social injustice, we must have a good attitude and give our children more positive education, so as to facilitate the formation of various correct ideas and concepts for children.
Clause. Fourth, pay attention to the details of daily life.
The devil is in the details. Many parents pay attention to educating their children and are eager for various cram schools. But the child just has mediocre grades, and he is not good at dealing with others. At the root of this, children are active people, not learning machines, and not substitutes for parents to realize their wishes in a vacuum. In daily life, we must be strict with self-discipline and pay attention to the details that affect children's growth. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. We can't ask our children to do one thing for ourselves. There are many things that children are asked to do, and they should strive to do themselves.
For example, if we want our children not to be late for school, parents should not sleep in the morning. We hope that children will listen carefully to classes every day and concentrate on learning, so that children's three meals a day can not be improvised, and we must try our best to match them reasonably, so as to ensure the nutrition that their brains need**. We hope that children will be unanimously welcomed by teachers and classmates, and parents should not talk swear all day long, let alone maliciously slander and make gossips in front of their children.
Fourth, telling right and wrong. How do we do that? When you go home, you should pay attention to greeting your family, talk to your family and children as politely as possible, use a more consultative tone, and honor your parents, unite with your neighbors, do not spit, do not litter, etc.
Don't underestimate these details, there are many children in the school, just because of some small problems and classmates do not get along well, or are not treated by teachers, so they are always unable to learn.
Plant melons and get melons, plant beans and get beans". Parents are role models for their children, and children are copies of their parents. Let's start with ourselves and set the right example for our children. In this way, in the process of cultivating children, we not only improve ourselves, but also gain more unexpected surprises from children in the future.