Psychology master Carl Jung once said: Everyone has two lives. The first time is to meet the expectations of the outside world, and the second time is to truly live oneself. However, a second life often does not begin until after awakening.
From birth, many people begin to continue their first life, being swayed by society's expectations and not knowing what they really want to pursue. It wasn't until I experienced setbacks that I realized that true cultivation lies in inner exploration. Contemplating one's own mind and seeking liberation from within is the most difficult way to cultivate in life.
In "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", author Stephen Covey proposes the concepts of "circle of attention" and "circle of influence". Circles of influence represent the scope of what we can change, while circles of concern are those things that we can't control. If you blindly ask for it from the outside, you will only lose yourself and fall into meaningless pursuits. This behavior only drains energy, leading to a cycle of anxiety and self-doubt.
A vivid example of this is the story between the self-** person @崔Can and her subordinates. An employee who had performed well began to slack off due to the influence of external factors, and finally missed the opportunity for promotion. He blames the outside world for his inner problems and ends up mired in resentment and self-doubt.
In the Ming Dynasty, Lu Kun's "Moaning Words" wrote: "If the shot misses, the bow is not guilty, the arrow is not guilty, and the hoof; The work of the book is also innocent, the pen is not guilty, the ink is not guilty, and the paper is not guilty. This sentence profoundly points out that the failure of life should not be blamed on the external environment, but should be found from oneself. Only by seeking oneself can we truly get out of the predicament and change our fate.
Turn your gaze to yourself in order to gradually wake up. In an interview with "Leap to the Advanced Workplace", guest August mentioned that when life is not going well, you should focus on the things you care about most. Doing so will improve your mood, boost your energy, and get your life back on track.
Gu Shiyun: "The big hands of the ancient times are still like this, and they only seek inwardly." It means that true success is inseparable from inner exploration and correction. Hara Yiping, who was once in a difficult situation, is such a successful case. By reflecting on his own shortcomings and striving to improve, he eventually became a well-respected top salesman.
The challenges and dilemmas in life are not the arrangement of fate, but the test of opportunity. Only by seeking inward and examining one's own shortcomings can we truly liberate ourselves and keep moving forward.
Ask inward for everything, and you will usher in an open life
Yang Tianzhen once shared such an experience in "Wonderful Sayings": "When I graduated from college, I was an ordinary employee with a monthly salary of 2,500 yuan. When I realized something, my life started to take off. That's when I started to put all my time and energy into myself, and I learned to ask for it, which allowed me to grow rapidly. ”
When you start to take your attention intracted and devote time to self-growth, you can gradually open your mind and take control of your life. So, how do you do internal seeking? Here are some tips:
No longer complain about the unfairness of life, and cultivate good emotional management skills. Once, in an interview, Luo Zhenyu was asked: "Is there anything you can't accept?" He replied with a smile: "There are no emotions in my life now, only to find problems and solve them." "Ordinary people may lose control of their emotions when they encounter setbacks, but masters can face them rationally and find solutions from the results. Let go of complaints, start with the results, improve your abilities, and accept the fact that you can't change. By looking for reasons within yourself, you can open your mind to the change of fate.
No longer seeking outside recognition, but taking control of your own destiny. Growing up, did you ever give up your preferences in order to please your parents? Sacrificing study time to fit in with the circle of friends? Or give up on yourself in order to be appreciated by your leaders? Psychologist Huang Weiren once pointed out that people who care too much about other people's evaluations are like puppets who allow others to manipulate their emotions. Only by turning our gaze from the outside world to the heart and exploring our own needs can we truly live our own lives.
3.No longer indulge in the excitement of the outside world, but enjoy the abundance of the heart. Schopenhauer once said, "Boredom comes from inner emptiness." "Just as when one is lonely, one seeks the excitement of the outside world, the emptiness of the heart can also lead one to chase external stimuli. However, the emptiness of the mind cannot be filled by external matter. Only by truly accepting solitude can you experience inner peace and abundance in the hustle and bustle of the world. As the writer Lu Su said, the best state of a person is a quiet and abundant life.
When you put the focus of your life on yourself, you no longer pursue the excitement of the outside world; When your heart is full and abundant, even if you are alone, you can live a wonderful and colorful life. This is where the power of inner seeking lies, let us grasp every moment, feel the beauty of life with our hearts, and let our inner strength lead us to a more fulfilling life.
Wang Yangming wrote such a poem:
Everyone has their own fixing needle, and the root of all things is always in the heart
But laughing at the predecessors of the mistake is reversed, and the branches and leaves are found outside.
Life is like a ship, and each person holds a compass in his or her hand to guide his or her own course. However, some people are too dependent on the outside world and let others control them, resulting in a life of ups and downs without direction.
A truly sober person is never disturbed by the outside world, but focuses his attention on himself. They continue to explore inward, constantly improve themselves, and finally get rid of the puzzle of life.