Author of One Thought Walker
Confrontation brings pain in life, whether you are fighting against others or yourself, why should you fight it? Confrontation is a collision, a fight, a pain, why should you fight?
You seem to have a good reason to stand up to others because others are holding you back; But why are you sometimes fighting against yourself? Is it yourself who is holding you back? That must be true, otherwise why are you working tirelessly against yourself?
There are two directions of confrontation: those directed at oneself and those directed at others; There are also two forms of confrontation: soft confrontation and hard confrontation, or implicit confrontation or explicit confrontation. Soft confrontation refers to a form of confrontation that is hidden, indirect, non-frontal or non-actual violence; And hard confrontation is the exact opposite of it. An introverted person who looks cowardly on the outside generally adopts soft resistance, for example, his boss gives him a certain job to do, he does not want to do it inside, he is tired or bored, but he does not directly and superficially refuse or express his emotions, he still promises that job, but he adopts negative or perfunctory methods and attitudes to express his attitude and emotions.
The confrontation stems from **. It is divided into intrinsic and extrinsic. The reason why a person is against others is because others have a ** with him at a certain level of meaning, and if there is no **existence, there will be no confrontation. The reason why a person is against himself is because he has a ** within himself, a voice says this, a voice says that, and therefore there is a confrontation. Society as a whole is peaceful, but there is also a hidden ** within the society - for the existence of people, sociality and naturalness is the confrontation, people are first composed of sociality and naturalness, but it is also very likely that people are torn apart by this sociality and naturalness. Therefore, as a kind of human existence, the most basic ** is social and natural**, which is reflected in the psychological level of human nature is the confrontation between human nature and morality. Human nature requires you to live according to the most instinctive mode of human beings, but society is destined to require you not to be exactly like that, which is the most basic inner **. Sociality and naturalness, human nature and morality--- this ** and confrontation accompany the development and changes of your life, in the early stages of life, your sociality and your naturalness are opposed, but naturalness often prevails, and you live according to his will; In the middle period, sociality and naturalness are opposed, and sociality prevails; In the plateau period, the two are basically balanced and evenly matched; In the later period, it is highly likely that nature will again triumph over sociality. Because the basic process is that man comes from nature and goes to nature--- he just passes through human society.
Don't look at most of the people in the society who are calm on the surface, in fact, his inner is the same as the inner of the earth, which is endlessly and imperceptibly--- and the inner of the earth is also **, but its surface is a whole, a beautiful sphere. And it is the same with man, he is complete and beautiful on the surface. But his inner moments are also like the earth, and what is inside is quietly changing, changing ......But there will always be a time when the plates are drifting, there will always be a time when the land is sinking, there will always be a time when volcanoes are erupting, there will always be a time when the oceans will become land ......The inner part of man is basically the same as it, there is no difference. It's just that one is material and visible; One is psychological, invisible. Ever since man came to this earth, all the characteristics of the earth have long been internalized into man's inner being. You are a speck of dust on the earth, and a speck of dust can reflect an earth, just like a drop of water has the same relationship with the sea. But the situation inside this little dust is the same as in that big earth.
* In progress, you are divided into parts from the whole--- you were born with a very beautiful whole--- but the knife of society is cutting you, cutting you into parts, and society is turning your parts into parts to fit its huge machine. Therefore, since you are a toddler--- you have grown up with a kind of pain of being torn, your parents teach you this, your teachers teach you that, and your friends teach you different ......You are adapting to them little by little, you are changing into them, you are losing yourself little by little--- but you are so unwilling, you want to be whole, you want to have personality--- so you have to rebel, so the opposition forms a ....... in the potential
Who is not opposed to the world around you? Who doesn't potentially hate the people around you? Including your parents or loved ones? Why do you latent hate them? You"Hate"It's because of them"Not loved"YouDo they love you? They are all in the guise of love to fulfill their own wishes. Love becomes their means. Love becomes their way to achieving themselves. Parents like you to study well, and they use all their tricks for it, both the soft way and the hard way? They're giving you hypnotic hints over and over again: I'm doing this for your good, for your good! Don't you learn well in the future? Can you do without a good job? Will there be so much competition in society in the future? Are they loving you? They are threatening you! No, it's just trying to blackmail you! -- You said I was reluctant to do what you said, and even painful--- but they said"Makes sense": If you want to achieve great things, you must first suffer deeply, where is the sweetness if you are not bitter? If you want to be sweet, you must first be bitter and cross the bitter ......
Is it? Why does sweetness have to cross bitterness first? Isn't it okay to be sweet all the time? Life is one sweetness and then another, isn't it? No? Parents actually have a deep fear inside--- they are always afraid that you will not be the person they imagined, because if you do, you will not be able to become them"Envision"...... youThey feel uneasy, they feel that they can't control what they want you to be"Plan"--- therefore, they have to force their love, and love is so compulsive ......
In fact, it's still a kind of a**. Your initial ** is your internalized parent's**. They are cutting you open with love. Their love turned into a gentle knife, which was actually a murderous knife, but they both thought it was a scalpel. Actually, this is a big mistake. The scalpel is also a murder knife, and it is killing the health of many people. The reason why scalpel murder is not a crime is because the ploughed person is willing and signs the agreement. The purpose of the scalpel is to make you **, to make you divide, and its purpose is also very good, for your overall health, for your overall life, so you have to sacrifice the part for the whole. In fact, you have been on the operating table all your life, you have never gotten off the operating table at all--- isn't society cutting you? Aren't the surgeons your parents, your teachers, some of the people around you?
You are subconsciously aware that you are being cut, that you are being killed, so you have a vague subconscious"Confrontation"Sentiment. But you always feel that they have a point, they are really saving you, shaping you, helping you--- you don't even feel that painful ......Therefore, while you resist, you also acquiesce: in this way, ** produces --- you acquiesce and rebel against ......You rebelled against them, why did you acquiesce to them? You're being cut, why don't you feel that much pain yet? That's exactly what anesthetics do. Love is anesthetic. It anesthetizes you in order to kill you, to cut you, to fix you for their purposes. The anesthetic is what makes you no longer fight, so they give you the anesthetic and give you love--- so you acquiesce and resist at the same time.
* is made passively, while the bridging is done on your own initiative. So, it's another **: you're passively making **, and you're actively stitching up that crack. Therefore, you are bound to suffer. So the crack within you is passive, something you don't want to be. **There is oppression, there is resistance; If there is an acting force, there will be a reaction force. You are passively divided, so --- you are actively anti-dividing. Therefore, confrontation arises.
Is confrontation painful for the subject? Not necessarily, but that's counter-normal. Confrontation or ** must lead to pain, but some people may not feel pain, which is abnormal. For example, it is painful to cut your own ** or flesh, but some self-deprecating people, they cut their own ** or flesh is only painful but not bitter, and they are still happy mentally. This is the abnormality. There are even people who are enjoying this cut, this kind of self-creation. In fact, there are people who enjoy it"Confrontation", this kind"Confrontation"It's like the cutting of the ego. There is also a difference between people who cut their own ** muscles--- just like a madman and an enlightened person--- appearance, but there is a deep difference in it. is that the self-deprecating maniac is just cutting their own ** muscles, exchanging pain for that spiritual happiness, they are nothing more, there is no meaning in this; But if there is such a person, he is also cutting his own ** muscles, but he is studying what it feels like to be cut, what are the physiological and psychological reactions when being cut, and what unknown ...... are in the mutilationThey cut themselves with pain and suffering, but there is more of a meaning, but this meaning cancels out that pain and suffering, I don't think he can call it self-mockery. So, fools and entomologists are the same as crawling on the ground to look at ants, but the essence is different--- the difference between a genius and a madman is not on the outside, but on that deep inside. In fact, what is more in the genius than in the madman? It's a little bit of awareness, and that awareness gives rise to a little bit of meaning......Therefore, a genius minus a madman is equal to a little meaning. That's the formula for the difference.
Is there a confrontation within you? In fact, it's not scary to have confrontations within, the point is that you have to be aware of them. Your inner part is like a boundless territory, there are many candidates or warlords--- there are all candidates and warlords, it is not all bad, the key is to have a commander to take care of them, if you can always see them clearly, always be aware of them, you know who they are fighting with whom, and you know to what extent they fight, then even if it hurts, you will not suffer. If you don't know how many warlords and factions there are in you, if you don't know the strength of each of them, then you don't know who is hurting when they fight, and you don't know who is suffering--- then you are the real pain? It's all because you don't have awareness and you don't shine. In fact, if you keep an eye on your heart--- then they will be in order and not chaotic. The reason they're messed up is because you don't care about them. If you ignore them, they will cause chaos. The inside of you, like the society outside, needs to be taken care of in order to be orderly--- so you have to take care of the social ...... inside of youYou are also a society within you, a reflection of this real society in your heart, a reality in your heart. Therefore, there will be no problem in keeping an eye on them, and there is no fear of confrontation.
Lang Lang's eyes have been hanging in your heart, why be afraid of confrontation? Well......Friends, here for this topic, I wish you deep blessings.
This is a 2005 article by a teacher who is destined to share with you.