In the relationship between the sexes, women often play multiple roles, not only as lovers, wives, but also mothers and professionals. However, in the process, some women may damage their own interests because of some irrational behavior, and even affect the healthy development of the relationship between the sexes.
Below, I combine my years of experience in marriage counseling to work with you to ** the 5 stupidest behaviors of women in the relationship between the sexes.
1. Don't study well and get motivated, fall in love and get married early;
Doctor of Medicine" Feng Tang once pointed out sharply: "The stupidest behavior of a woman is not to study well and be motivated, but to fall in love early, find a bad man at a low level, and be moved by the low-cost payment!" This is simply self-destructive and ignorant. This view is still profoundly revelatory in today's society.
Many young girls tend to fall in love prematurely during adolescence due to their curiosity about the opposite sex and their desire for love.
However, early love often means a lack of knowledge and experience, and it is easy to be blind when choosing a partner. Such a choice often leads to many difficulties for women in their future married life, such as incompatibility with their partner's values and inconsistent life goals.
In addition, marrying early can also cause a woman to miss out on opportunities in her career and studies. During the critical period of career development, women often need to invest a lot of time and energy. However, if the responsibilities of the family are taken on too early, the woman may not be able to reach her full potential and thus leave regrets in her career.
2. Give up your career and job and be a full-time wife at home;
In today's society, more and more women choose to become stay-at-home wives and make their families their main career. However, this option is not without its risks.
To put it mildly, in the cases I have seen, the probability that a woman who has been a full-time wife for more than five years will finally get the due reward and really come out of the body is not very large.
Because, when many women become full-time wives, they often face a reduced sense of self-worth and a shrinking social circle. A long period of family life may cause a woman to gradually lose contact with the outside world, and even produce the phenomenon of self-isolation.
In addition, the life of a stay-at-home wife can also make a woman lose her financial independence. When women are completely dependent on their partner's financial support, their position in marriage can become passive. Once there are problems in the marriage, the woman may face serious financial hardship.
3. Don't treat yourself as an outsider in your mother-in-law's house, and treat your mother-in-law as a mother with wishful thinking;
In the in-law's family, the woman often needs to face the relationship problems with the mother-in-law. However, many women tend to fall into the misconception of treating their mother-in-law as their own mother and expecting to be treated with similar love and tolerance as their mother.
However, what I must tell you is that when a woman marries into her in-law's family, she must be an "outsider" in every way of the first five to ten years of marriage, or even longer.
Therefore, in the in-law's family, a woman should maintain a rational attitude and see herself as an "outsider". Because only when you rationally look at and accept yourself as an "outsider" can you get along with your in-laws and family members and avoid being harmed.
Of course, this does not mean that women should alienate themselves from members of their in-laws' family, but rather to establish a harmonious relationship based on respect for each other. Only in this way can a woman gain respect and recognition in her in-laws' family, and at the same time protect her dignity and rights.
4. Mistakenly believe that a good husband and a good marriage are trained and managed;
Many women believe that through training and management, a bad man can be transformed into a good husband and thus have a happy marriage.
However, this perception is often overly optimistic and one-sided. While it is true that femdom and management play a role in marriage, they are not a panacea.
First of all, training and management need to be based on the willingness and ability of both parties. If the man himself has serious problems, such as selfishness, indifference, irresponsibility, etc., then it is difficult for a woman's efforts alone to change him. In such a situation, the woman may fall into endless pain and disappointment.
Secondly, it also takes a lot of time and effort to train and operate. If a woman puts all her hopes and energy on training and management, then she may neglect her own growth and development, which will lead to a decrease in self-worth.
Therefore, women should establish a correct concept of marriage and understand that a good husband and a good marriage are not completely dependent on training and management.
When choosing a partner, a woman should focus on the man's qualities and potential, not just his external conditions or attitude towards herself.
At the same time, in marriage, women should also maintain the awareness of self-growth and development, and constantly improve their own value.
5. For the sake of marriage and family, excessive self-sacrifice and mistaken men's indifference for family affection.
In marriage and family, women tend to take on more responsibilities and obligations. However, this does not mean that women should be overly self-sacrificing and ignoring their own needs and feelings. Excessive self-sacrifice may lead to a woman's loss of self-worth and status in marriage, and even trigger men's indifference and neglect.
Many women, in marriage, misinterpret a man's indifference as a sign of affection. They believe that over time, love will gradually transform into family affection, and men's indifference is the embodiment of this transformation.
However, this understanding is most likely wrong. Because, men's indifference may stem more from their abandonment and laziness, or even from their lack of attention to marriage. If the woman lets it go unchecked, or even disagrees, then the indifference of the man may be exacerbated.
Therefore, women should establish a correct concept of marriage and understand that marriage is not the whole of a woman's life. In marriage, a woman should maintain a sense of self-awareness and self-worth and dare to express her needs and feelings. At the same time, women should also learn to distinguish between men's indifference and affection to avoid being misunderstood and ignored.
In conclusion, in a relationship between the sexes, a woman should maintain a clear mind and the ability to think independently. Avoiding falling into the above five stupid behaviors helps women build healthy relationships between the sexes, achieve self-worth, and live a happy life.