Look at the following moments, how many times has the child angered you?
Lying in bed in the morning, being late for school and not getting up yet;
Playing while eating, I didn't finish eating for an hour;
I don't want to go home after going out to play for a long time, and I don't listen to any urging;
Half an hour of homework, two hours to complete;
I still want to play after washing, don't go to sleep or die, and take your supervision as a pleasure.
The child drags and grinds, I believe this is a headache for many parents, you are jumping in a hurry, but he has been unhurried, how can the nameless fire in his heart not rise! If you don't get it right, you have to roll up your sleeves and spank!
Don't worry, when it comes to "procrastination", "other people's children" are the same as your own children. There are no children who don't procrastinate, only parents who can't manage their children's procrastination!
To ** children's procrastination, parents should first understand a question: "Why do children procrastinate?" Only by understanding the essence of the problem can we treat the symptoms and cure the root cause, and completely and thoroughly ** children's procrastination.
1.Lack of self-confidence: Because you can't reach your highest level of ability every time you complete a task, your assessment of your own ability will be lower and lower. 2.I'm too busy: I've been putting it off because I've been busy. 3.Stubborn: It's useless for you to rush me, I'll naturally start doing it when I'm ready. 4.Manipulating others: It's useless for them to be in a hurry, everything can't start until I arrive. 5.Fight the pressure: Because every day is stressful, the things to be done are kept being put down. 6.Victim mentality: I don't know how I can be like this, I can't do what others can do.
Self-blame, guilt, constant self-denial, depreciation, anxiety, depression, etc. 1.Procrastination can hinder the achievement of the desired goal, it is not necessary, it is only delayed to complete the transaction. 2.Procrastination often causes stress, guilt, reduced efficiency, panic, and other people's bad comments about your inability to complete tasks and responsibilities, causing real distress in real life. 3.A vicious cycle, leading to further procrastination behavior. Chronic or prolonged procrastination suggests an underlying psychological and physical disorder.
Give your child a sense of urgency for time.
Depending on the situation, adults can count down from 10 or 3. For example, "The countdown to sleep has started, and you now only have three seconds, 3, 2, 1".
Countdown can give children time to transition, so that they can be prepared, both psychologically and practically, and more easily accepted by children.
Let the child be affirmed.
Blind criticism and urging will only stimulate the child's rebellious psychology, when the child has done a good job, he should be properly praised, guide the child to be proud of it, and slowly spread to more aspects through one thing.
However, it is important to note that when the child is praised and happy, he should avoid pouring cold water on his child and mentioning his past procrastination.
Get your child interested.
For example, compete with mom and dad to wear socks to see who is faster. Parents can deliberately slow down a little when competing, so that children feel that they have the possibility of winning, and let children feel that they can do it quickly.
Words and deeds, subtle. A child's greatest role model is the parent closest to him.
Let the child bear the "consequences".
Parents may wish to set a time frame for doing things, or even set a schedule for their children to finish on time, while allowing them to bear the consequences of not being able to finish things.
For example, being late, not having enough to eat, not being able to complete homework, etc. As long as you form a habit, your child's life will be regular in the future.
Here I need to remind all parents: to make a schedule for children, we must consider the speed of the child's work and the difficulty of the matter, do not ask the child too much, otherwise, the task will not be completed for a long time, but it will make the child frustrated.
The sooner parents guide their children to learn how to manage their time and adjust their own learning methods, the stronger their children's learning advantages will be.
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This set of 8 books is suitable for children in lower grades, and corresponds to key issues in children's learning, such as how to manage their time and how to complete homework easily.
Who stole my time" guides children to arrange their time reasonably and not to do "little procrastination".
This book can help children easily understand what going to school is all about.
Writing homework is no longer difficult for me" tells children that writing homework is actually very simple.
I'm not afraid of exams" tells children that by doing so, they can get good grades.
A set of 8 volumes, ** is not expensive, but it can cultivate children's time management skills and become excellent children.
Through humorous and imaginative stories, the book adds appropriate fairy tale colors to real life, and tells the story to the hearts of children.
While reading the story, the book also proposes many practical ways to teach children how to manage their time and how to better complete their homework ......
This set of extracurricular reading materials imported from South Korea can help children quickly adapt to school life, develop good study habits, and develop good time management habits from an early age.
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