Hello everyone.
The New Year has just passed, and there are only 5 days left before the Spring Festival.
But compared to the Spring Festival, the New Year is more important to me.
Because my son was born 10 years ago on Chinese New Year's Eve.
That day, the whole family spent a thrilling night ...... in the hospital
There is no food and drink in ordinary people's homes;
Instead, he experienced a crisis in the delivery room and fears outside the delivery room.
So every time I recall this special day, I always feel a lot of emotion in my heart.
10 years ago, my daughter-in-law was still at work.
I was still working well in the morning, but I suddenly had a great pregnancy reaction in the afternoon.
I drove to a nearby hospital, but the doctor said:
This child was supposed to be born after the year, but he didn't expect to come out in a hurry before the year.
We were all very excited, after all, this was our first child in our lives.
He is also the only child so far.
The whole family stayed in the hospital until midnight.
Unexpectedly, all kinds of bad news came one after another at this time.
First, the normal delivery did not go smoothly and was forced to switch to a caesarean section;
Immediately after that, my daughter-in-law began to bleed profusely, and the doctor asked me:
Protect adults, or protect children?
At that moment, it was as if the picture from a TV series was reflected in reality;
The only difference is that the person has become myself.
I said to the doctor in no uncertain terms;
Even if the child is gone, the adult must be saved.
After 10 minutes of panic, the doctor finally brought us good news
The bleeding stopped, and the child was born, a well-behaved and beautiful boy.
At 4 o'clock in the morning, the whole family stood in the corridor of the hospital and breathed a sigh of relief.
I didn't expect that the hanging heart had just been put down, and there was news at 7 o'clock in the morning:
The child is purple around the mouth due to lack of oxygen, and oxygen needs to be arranged immediately.
But after more than an hour, the doctor still suggested that we arrange a transfer immediately.
We were all confused ......
I was transferred to a hospital with a children's ICU non-stop, and I paid 100,000 yuan in hospitalization fees at once.
Everyone knows ......what could happen next if it didn't go well
The day my son was admitted to the ICU was Xiao Nian.
We didn't hold him or kiss him until the full moon;
Didn't even get a chance to give him a mouthful of milk himself.
There are more than 300 beds in the paediatric ICU.
But when it comes to visiting, so many parents can only huddle into a narrow stairwell.
Forty or fifty families, some with old people.
Everyone is either standing or squatting;
Silently waiting for the doctor's call ......
So every time I visit my son, I basically have to wait for 2 hours.
Waiting for the doctor to call my name;
Waiting to go to the narrow hallway and listen to the doctor tell me about my son's condition for the past week.
But the waiting process is very painful.
Because you never know if you're waiting for good news or bad news.
And every time I go by, I basically hear the same:
Still observing, slightly improving.
To put it in more detail, it is the child's blood oxygen, body temperature, and how much medicine he has taken.
But the specific discharge time, the doctors are still silent.
So until the Spring Festival in 2014, the whole family got together;
But the only thing missing was the newborn family member.
My parents, my wife's family, and my husband and wife;
Everyone was thinking about their son in the hospital.
Thinking of him lying alone in the incubator of the hospital;
There is no warmth of family, no care of relatives;
Alone in the face of all the unknown ......
After the year, the babies in the bed next to my son had been discharged;
The parents who visited also changed one after another.
I think about it all the time:
When will you be like them, walk out of here and never have to come back.
When my son was hospitalized for 40 days, we finally saw our son's ** with the help of a friend.
But this **, it's more uncomfortable to watch than not to watch.
At a glance, he doesn't have the whiteness and tenderness of a normal baby;
On the contrary, he was thin and small, ** shriveled like a little old man.
The body is also full of various instruments, and it hurts to look at it.
After that, we were able to visit my son twice a week.
Finally, after more than a dozen visits, I waited for the doctor's sentence:
Can be picked up.
At that moment, we really had mixed feelings......
This year, my son celebrated his 10th birthday.
I still remember a friend comforting me and saying
There are seedlings that do not worry about growing.
But for me, how dare I believe such a thing at that time.
Because at that time, I thought about all kinds of possibilities and all kinds of bad outcomes.
But he didn't dare to hope that "there are seedlings that don't worry about growing".
What impressed me the most was that after picking up my son and going home, we went to the hospital to print out the child's medical records.
The medical records of more than 50 days are stacked together, and they are as thick as several books.
When I flipped through the pages, I was surprised to find that there was an entry in the medical record about the crisis rescue when the child was hospitalized.
It reads:Temporary respiratory failure and corresponding functional failure were present.
After a series of rescues, the son picked up a life.
So I used to tell him stories about what he had been through.
Some people may feel that it is not good for children to hear these things.
But I told him:
You have been through such a difficult situation, and you have been able to come through it with your own strength;
So in the future, you will definitely be able to overcome all kinds of difficulties.
I would also buy all kinds of books for him;
Tell him that this animal can run and that animal can jump.
Stories like this I told him over and over again when he was illiterate.
In order to tell him a truth:
Everyone has their own talents;
Everyone also has their own mission;
You don't have to compare yourself to others;
There is no need to feel inferior because you envy them.
In fact, the reason why I did this was because I didn't want him to become inferior because of his weakness.
So not long ago, we just celebrated his 10th birthday on the solar calendar.
When I asked him:
What do you think is your greatest strength?
He replied without hesitation
My biggest strength is that I am very confident.
As a parent, at the moment of hearing his words;
I really feel relieved......
My son went from being a weaker child than his peers;
When I walked into the campus, I encountered the twists and turns of interpersonal relationships between classmates;
Now, he has gradually surpassed many of his peers.
This process is whether it is experiencing blows or honors;
He was able to maintain a very good self-confidence;
It can even be pampered beyond age without being shocked.
In fact, many people know that the two years he was born were also the low point of my career.
For me at the time, my son's hardship was really another blow I experienced.
But in the process of his continuous growth and progress, I suddenly discovered:
My son's experience has become my strongest spiritual pillar and strength**.
He opened my eyes to a life in extremely difficult circumstances;
The power of the source of life has been fully sprouted.
You will see, a child without him knowing anything;
When he was at his most vulnerable, he thought about fighting death.
So in front of life:
What was the little bit of pain I was experiencing?
It's just the twists and turns of entrepreneurship, it's just that I owe some money;
It's just a little bit of ups and downs in life......
Chinese often say: except for life and death, it is a small matter.
Sometimes we feel that life is hard and difficult;
But a young life can burst out with the strength to try to live;
There is no reason why we should not cherish the life in front of us;
We don't have to be positive and optimistic in the face of all kinds of difficulties and challenges.