In this story, I am Lin Xiao, an ordinary Chinese woman. Not long ago, I married a black guy named Jack, and we have a lovely mixed-race son, Jay. We live in a neighborhood in Shanghai, and I struggle every day to adjust to this new multicultural family life. This story will tell me how I struggled and felt in the clash of different cultures.
It all started on a cloudy afternoon and I was busy preparing dinner in the kitchen. Jack sits on the sofa in the living room, playing with his phone intently, as if he is in his own world. Jay frolicked on the floor, and his innocent smile became the warmest moment of my day.
Jack, what do you want to eat tonight? "I tried to pull him out of his world and participate with us.
He didn't look up, and replied nonchalantly, "Whatever." ”
I sighed and decided to simply make some Chinese stir-fry. There were fewer and fewer conversations between us, and I felt an indescribable loneliness.
At dinner, the atmosphere was a bit dreary. I tried to talk about some family routines, but Jack was always perfunctory. Looking at him, I felt an indescribable sense of loss in my heart.
After dinner, I sent Xiaojie to his bedroom. Humming a lullaby softly, I wish him a good dream. As I walked out of the room, I heard Jack talking to a friend in the living room, and his tone was full of excitement and enthusiasm, which made me feel even more lonely.
The next day, I went to the market to buy groceries and ran into my old friend Xiaoling, whom I hadn't seen for many years. Her presence brought me a breath of fresh air.
Xiaoxiao, long time no see, how are you doing? Xiaoling asked excitedly.
I smiled reluctantly, "It's okay, it's just that there are some ...... at home."”
She looked at me with concern, "What's the matter?" ”
I confided in her about the estrangement between me and Jack. Xiao Ling was silent for a while, and then said, "Xiaoxiao, you have to think carefully about whether this kind of life is suitable for you." ”
I nodded, but I wondered if I would be able to endure this for a long time.
That night, I was sitting alone in the living room. Jack went out to party with friends again, and Jay had already fallen asleep. I turned on the TV, but I didn't have the heart to watch it.
Suddenly, the ** bell rang, it was my mother calling. Her voice was always so warm and caring.
Xiaoxiao, how are you doing? She asked.
Mom, I ......I hesitated, then told her about the problem between me and Jack.
Mom was silent for a moment, and then said, "Xiaoxiao, marriage requires the joint efforts of both parties. If you have Xiaojie, you must cherish this family even more. ”
I nodded, "I know, Mom, I'll try." ”
After hanging up**, I felt a lot calmer. But in the silence of the night, I began to reflect on my relationship with Jack again. Am I not adapting well enough to cultural differences? Or is there an insurmountable gulf between us?
The next day, I decided to visit my good friend Xiaohong. She is a cheerful woman who always gives me a different perspective.
Xiaoxiao, come, sit. Little Red greeted me with a smile.
After I sat down, we started talking. I described to her the problem between me and Jack. Xiaohong pondered for a moment and said, "Xiaoxiao, maybe you need to find some common hobbies or activities to deepen your emotional connection with each other. ”
I nodded, thinking to myself that it was a good idea. But in my mind, there is still a sense of uncertainty.
When I got home, I decided to talk to Jack. I found him and he was reading a book.
Jack, can we talk? I asked cautiously.
He looked up at me, "Of course, what's wrong?" ”
I took a deep breath and began to express my feelings and concerns to him. I suggested that we should look for some common activities to do.
Jack was silent for a moment, then said, "I know I've been a little neglectful of our relationship lately. We can try to do something together. ”
I felt a little comforted when I heard this.
On the third day, we decided to take Xiaojie to the park together. There, we played together, and looking at Xiaojie's happy smile, I felt the warmth of family that I had not seen for a long time.
In the evening, we prepare dinner together and share each other's feelings. I've found that when we truly listen to each other and work together, cultural differences are not insurmountable chasms, but can be a kind of enrichment in our relationships.
Gradually, the relationship between me and Jack became closer. We have learned to understand and tolerate each other, and we have also learned to communicate and coordinate better. In this multicultural family, we gradually found a balance with each other and became an integral part of each other's lives.
Since then, our lives have become more colorful. Together, we try different cuisines, explore every corner of the city, and face the challenges and difficulties of life together. I have learned that happiness does not depend on the conditions of life, but on how we look at and treat life.
In this journey full of challenges and opportunities, I have learned to cherish and be grateful. I believe that as long as we have faith in our hearts and face it bravely, we will be able to create our own happiness.
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