Recently, I watched the documentary "Chinese Doctor", and when I met patients and their families who were seriously ill, they often had the following choices when it came to life and death:
1.Run away.
When one of the spouses gets sick, the other slips away.
It's a pity that these people ran away, because they are scumbags. Even if you don't run now, you will inevitably run in the future (stay by your side, dislike you, avoid you, and even complain about you), why do you want such a person to block yourself?
How can you tell if this is the case? If you don't even care about a minor illness, don't expect that this person can be relied on when you are seriously ill. It is recommended to divorce as soon as possible, and do not add to the situation when you are most difficult and helpless.
There is a doubt here, and in fact it didn't happen (how do I know if I will run?). Is it reliable? On what basis?
By "intuition", "intuition" is "subconscious", and "subconscious" is necessarily more accurate than "conscious", because it is an all-round instinctive judgment. If you feel that something is wrong with a person, there must be a problem. Don't question yourself by thinking that your judgment will be wrong, in fact, it is not far from ten.
Those who have domestic violence against you, people who cheat, people who have a firm grip on the family economy, and you still expect that in times of crisis, conscience will take care of you?
There is true love in the world, but for some families, not everyone is like this.
2.The family conditions are average, and the money is used on the cutting edge.
The doctor will give you the best choice, don't have a doctor give you "more checklists, let you spend money in vain.""ideas. The hospital itself is hard to find, and people don't care about your little money. So, the doctor prescribes a checklist for you, prescribes the medicine for you. It's all really helpful and necessary for you.
If the patient does not specifically state it, it will be prescribed according to the normal standard. If you are really financially difficult, you should explain the real situation to the doctor in time, and the doctor will make appropriate adjustments for you (if you don't say it, how will people know).
The examinations done by other hospitals are no longer done, and imported drugs are replaced with domestic drugs (to believe that Chinese medicine has risen, the efficacy itself is half a catty, there is no need to be superstitious about foreign countries; It's like a domestic car and an imported car, as long as you can drive it), so you can spend your money on the edge.
3.The doctor tells you directly: there is no need to save (give up decisively, you should eat, you should drink).
When the situation is "inevitably incapacitated, nothing more than through intubation, infusion, prolongation of physical life", in fact, it is meaningless. Let the patient suffer less pain, in this case, directly listen to the doctor's advice. To do ineffective rescue and live painfully, it is better to be born early in Elysium and walk in style.
4.Obviously it could be cured, half of it was saved, but he was forcibly discharged from the hospital (choosing to go home is equivalent to a death sentence).
The doctor told you: it can be cured, but you still have to prepare at least 500,000, can you do it?
The difficult choice often lies in the 500,000 yuan, which requires you to sell a house, requires you to go out and borrow money, and adds huge pressure to your life, can you do it?
In the documentary, a family of six can only rent a house outside in order to treat the disease (one person is sick, dragging down a family).
The answer is "look at the relationship", which is so rational.
When you are alive, you can treat your family well, and of course you will never leave you.
When you lived, you were very vicious and selfish. At this time, people are unwilling to **, and they don't want to give you the quality of their lives in vain, which is also normal, there is no right or wrong.
In the documentary, many seriously ill patients have two children; Although the state encourages more children, we still have to think clearly, can we support our own work, our own energy, and financial resources? Will it affect the quality of life of the individual? More is not always better.
5.Never abandon each other.
In the documentary "Chinese Doctor", there is a couple who is like this.
The patient needs to do "hemodialysis" four days a week, and after doing "hemodialysis", he and his wife will start work at 3 a.m. (delivering milk to the supermarket). But the body is still weakening day by day.
Fortunately, the man is optimistic, and the wife will not give up, so it will be a day by day.
6.It may be saved, or it may be empty.
This is the hardest choice to make.
At this time, I personally feel that if it is less than 50,000 or 100,000 (everyone sets a standard according to their family situation), they will give it a go.
If the old man is older than 70 years old, there is no need.
Either die directly on the operating table (shorten life); Either it is cured, and the quality of life is very poor (for the elderly, there are not many years to live).
When you are sick, don't expect a counselor or an empathetic doctor to comfort you.
First of all, you don't have the time to think about being happy or unhappy (maybe in a coma). In the intensive care unit, in the operating room, you are alone (family members can't come in), of course, there is a doctor and ** to accompany you, there is no need to worry (anyway, you are already in the hospital).
Don't feel that once you are seriously ill, don't tell you directly (in reality, there are no white lies, only the truth). Whether it's alone, or accompanied by a family member. The doctor needs to explain the actual situation to you, because you are the one who will end up on the battlefield (no one can replace you), you have to face it bravely, accept it as soon as possible, and make efforts within the controllable range.
Don't think that someone can comfort you, cry, you don't have to go to the operating table, everything has to be faced by yourself.
Thankfully, modern medicine has anesthesia, and the procedure is completely non-sensitive.
Don't double standard in the above situations, if you think about others like this, you should also do the same for yourself. For example, draw a line for myself, live to be 70 years old, I will not have surgery, I should eat and drink, make a "bucket list" or something, and spend the last period at home.
In addition, don't be superstitious, taboo "talk about illness, talk about death", this is something that everyone will face sooner or later, don't talk about it because of "fear", in fact, the more "avoided" you are, the more "fear" you will become. Whether you talk about it or not, you have to face it after all, it's better to think about it in advance, and you won't be at a loss when the time comes.