As the end of the year approaches, all kinds of gatherings and dinners have sprung up. Relatives, friends, colleagues and leaders, sitting around a table, looking at each other, it seems that all the distance has been shortened, and all the barriers have disappeared. However, in this peaceful atmosphere, there are always some discordant notes, which make people feel like they are stuck in their throats, and they don't vomit unpleasantly.
Wine, as an indispensable part of traditional Chinese culture, has always been regarded as a lubricant to enhance feelings. Drinking alcohol in moderation can indeed relax the mind and shorten the distance between people. But the problem is that I don't know when drinking has become a "culture", a "etiquette", and even a "test". It seems that if you don't persuade you to drink, you don't seem enthusiastic enough, not sincere enough, or even friends enough.
In this context, what should be a relaxed and enjoyable meal often turns into a contest about the amount of alcohol. People who like to drink and can drink naturally enjoy it, and they enjoy the drunkenness and relaxation that alcohol brings. But for those who don't like to drink, or who don't drink well, such a meal will undoubtedly become an ordeal.
What I hate the most is the kind of person who is constantly persuading people to drink. They don't seem to care about each other's feelings, they just blindly measure others by their own standards. In their logic, drinking more means having deep feelings, and not drinking is not giving face. This kind of "drinking table culture" imposed on others is actually a kind of disrespect for others, and even a kind of kidnapping.
Everyone has their own preferences and bottom line, and the same goes for drinking. Some people like to drink, some don't; Some people can drink it, some people can't. This is a perfectly normal thing. But in the eyes of the drinker, none of this seems to matter. They only care about their own feelings, only about whether they can get each other drunk.
Such behavior not only makes the person being persuaded feel embarrassed and uncomfortable, but also makes other people present feel uncomfortable. After all, no one wants to see a good meal turn into a contest over the amount of alcohol. What's more, excessive alcohol consumption can also cause adverse effects on physical health, and may even cause some unnecessary troubles and disputes.
So, how do you do it at a dinner without losing etiquette and forcing others to drink? Actually, the answer is simple: respect the choices and wishes of others. If the other person likes to drink and can drink, then it is appropriate to accompany the drink; If the other person doesn't like to drink or doesn't drink well, then there is no need to force it. After all, the purpose of the meal is to bond and exchange information, not to compete for the amount of alcohol.
In addition, as the host or organizer, you should pay more attention to controlling the rhythm and atmosphere of the meal. You can make it clear at the beginning that you don't want to drink too much, or you can prepare some non-alcoholic drinks for guests to choose from. In this way, it not only takes care of those who don't like to drink or does not drink well, but also makes the whole meal more harmonious and enjoyable.
At the end of the year, we should abandon the "wine table culture" imposed on others and respect everyone's choices and wishes. Only in this way can we truly enjoy the fun and meaning of the meal.
Hopefully, in the days to come, we will be able to see more and more "civilized dinners", so that everyone can enjoy food and friendship in a relaxed and happy atmosphere. At the same time, it is also expected that those who have been persuading people to drink endlessly can reflect on their own behavior, learn to respect others, and make the dinner truly a platform for enhancing feelings and exchanging information.