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In the world of love, quarrels seem to have become the norm. Sometimes, a casual word, a look, can trigger a heated argument. However, some people always want to break up after a fight, why is that?
We need to understand that the quarrel itself is not the source of the problem, but a reflection of the communication style of both parties. When two people are together, it is inevitable that they will have different views and ideas, and at this time, how to express themselves effectively and listen to each other becomes particularly important. However, many people often choose to avoid or attack each other when faced with conflict, which leads to quarrels. And the impulse to break up after a quarrel is actually a ** for this kind of ineffective communication.
Negative emotions during an argument can be misleading. When we are in the midst of negative emotions such as anger and sadness, it is easy to have a wrong interpretation of the other person's words and deeds. For example, the other person may just be expressing their concerns, but we mistakenly think that he is accusing us; Or maybe the other person is just trying to give us some advice, but we feel like he's interfering in our lives. In this case, the idea of breaking up will quietly breed.
Quarrels can make us doubt each other's feelings. Sometimes, an argument can turn an otherwise beautiful relationship beyond recognition. We will begin to question the other person's sincerity and question whether we really like the other person. This doubt can make us feel insecure about our relationship, which can lead to the idea of breaking up.
Personal upbringing can also influence how we react after a fight. Some people may not have learned how to deal with conflict and negative emotions as they grow up. When they encounter a problem, their first instinct is to run away or attack the other person. In this case, quarrels become a habitual behavior, and breakups become a way to escape reality.
How to avoid the urge to break up after a fight? First of all, we need to learn to communicate effectively. When facing conflict, we should try to remain calm, express our thoughts and feelings in a calm tone, and also listen patiently to the other person's opinions. Second, we need to learn to regulate our emotions. When we are in a negative mood, we can take deep breaths, walks, etc., to relieve the mood and avoid making bad decisions under impulse. Finally, we have to trust each other's feelings. In a relationship, trust is the most important cornerstone. Only by trusting and supporting each other can we get through these difficult moments.
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