Li Jian's hometown is Harbin.
When he thinks of this familiar city, he thinks of the aroma of red sausage, as well as barbecued pork, pot-wrapped pork, pine nut tripe, ......I think of the afternoon when I went to Qiulin Company with my mother to buy cooked food when I was a child.
During his childhood, on weekends, Li Jian and his friends would bring red sausages and soda to watch people paint on the banks of the Songhua River, which he called a purely Russian habit.
Harbin is close to Russia, has the same cold winters, and people like to talk about life, especially about things that are out of reach. People seek warmth from the poetry of melancholy, all of which attract Li Jian.
Later, in his ** works, it is not difficult to perceive the meaning.
The nourishment of childhood on a person finally shows its taste after reaching middle age, and today's Li Jian naturally flows with an extremely delicate cultural smell.
In the circle of the big dye vat, he has become a human detergent-like existence, with countless fans.
Li Jian is sentimental and self-conscious, and at the age of more than half a hundred, he will still sit in the dark movie theater, crying silently on the screen alone.
Some time ago, Li Jian, who had disappeared for a long time, had a dinner with his friends and a group of ** who had a hot pot dinner, which set off a discussion on the Internet, because his wife Meng Xiaobei made a surprise appearance. Before this, Li Jian's wife has always been a mysterious existence, and this is the first time that Meng Xiaobei's high-definition face has appeared on social platforms for so many years. She is wearing a light blue top, a black bow on her head, she looks beautiful, and she has a happy smile on her face, 44-year-old Meng Xiaobei looks like a girl. 
The first one on the right is Meng Xiaobei Gao Xiaosong once said: "This wave of people around us is not what they were at the beginning, only Li Jian is still the same Li Jian back then, and it is still the same Meng Xiaobei who is with him." Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei first met when he was 10 years old. There was a girl five years younger than him in his house, with big eyes, ** snow white, bright eyes and bright teeth, and she looked like a Russian girl. That year, Li Jian was 10 years old and Meng Xiaobei was 5 years old. A certain fate has been connected since then. 
When Meng Xiaobei was a child, the 80s was an era of passion and poetry, which was a utopia in the hearts of many intellectuals, and there were countless literature and art lovers among the people of Harbin, which may have something to do with the cold weather. Although people's lives are not rich, their spirits are full, and Li Jian, who was a teenager at the time, fell in love with playing the piano. His family conditions are not well-off, but his mother still used her salary of more than two months to buy him a red cotton guitar. Later, Li Jian said: "It was that guitar that changed my fate." ”
In 1993, Li Jian, who had studied folk songs for several months, participated in the winter camp held by Tsinghua University, and won the first place in the country with a song "Say a Word from the Heart", added 50 points to the college entrance examination, and was directly admitted to Tsinghua University. At Tsinghua University, Li Jian did not study a first-class major, but the Department of Electronic Engineering. He has a senior named Gao Xiaosong in the same department, who has long hair, and plays the piano and writes songs with Yu Dong, Song Ke and others on the lawn of Tsinghua University all day long. One day, he felt that reading was boring, so he took the initiative to drop out of Tsinghua University. 
The first one on the left is the old wolf, the first one on the right is Gao Xiaosong, Li Jian is different from Gao Xiaosong, he is quite calm, and he will never impulsively do things that make ideals tear apart reality. His sanity does not allow it, and his family does not allow it. Li Jian's father doesn't want his son to embark on the path of a singer, in the eyes of parents in ordinary families, it is unrealistic to be a singer, and it is best to find a stable job after graduation. Admitted to Tsinghua University, Li Jian became the pride of his family, and he couldn't let his parents' newly established social self-confidence come to naught. "Most of the time people go with the flow, and so do I. Tsinghua University is an honor for a family, in fact, many times I finish college with a hard head. ”
The second time Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei met was at a friend's wedding. He saw the little girl who used to be like a doll, and when she had grown up, she was thrillingly beautiful. Later, Li Jian's "Legend" was written about this experience. "It's just that I have seen you in the crowd one more time, and I have never forgotten your face; I dreamed of seeing each other again by chance, and since then I have been lonely and missing. ”
During that hot summer vacation, Li Jian was entrusted by his parents to tutor Meng Xiaobei in her homework. He gave her the cute nickname "Little Shell", which lasted for decades. Meng Xiaobei swore that "I will also be admitted to Tsinghua University." What Li Jian didn't expect was that Meng Xiaobei did what she said and even studied for a doctorate from Tsinghua University. After Meng Xiaobei was admitted to Tsinghua University, Li Jian was overjoyed, and the two came together, which was enviable, "I feel that each other is attracted to each other, get closer to each other, you go to me, I go to you." ”
Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei In 1998, after graduating from Tsinghua University, Li Jian did not go directly to the **, but went to the State Administration of Radio, Film and Television to work comfortably as a network engineer, he said: "I am a person who is unwilling to let myself suffer at any time. I don't need to go through the grinds of life unless I have to. He worked as a network engineer in the State Administration of Radio, Film and Television with a monthly salary of 4,000, which was a decent job with a good salary in those days. After a long time, holding a golden rice bowl in his hand, Li Jian was not happy, he felt that this day could be seen at a glance. Until one day Tsinghua alumnus Lu Gengxu found Li Jian and asked him, "Do you still want to sing together?" Li Jian decisively agreed. 
Lu Gengxu and Li Jian.
In the spring of 2001, Li Jian and Lu Gengxu established the group "Shuimu Years" and took the last train of campus folk songs. Not long after, they launched the first *** Life with You", the music style is fresh and melodious, spread all over the streets and alleys, and is still regarded as a classic. The sentence "How many people have admired your appearance when you were young, but who is willing to endure the ruthless changes of the years" has touched countless people. The debut is the peak, and the Shuimu years are on fire, and they swept the award ceremony of the entire Chinese music scene, which caused huge repercussions in the circle. In 2002, Li Jian suddenly decided to leave, leaving all the names and works of the Shuimu Nianhua group to Lu Gengxu, and wanted to start over and be his own **.
Li Jian and Lu Gengxu chose to quit at their highest moment, which requires courage. The years after leaving Shuimu were the most downtrooping days for Li Jian. Winters in Beijing were cold, and because he had no money, he rented a house that didn't see the light of day for many years. There was no heating or air conditioning in the room, and you need to make your own boiler for heating.
Even more sad than the cold was my father's illness. In 2005, Li Jian's father was diagnosed with cancer, and he and his sister scraped together the operation fee, and when they went to the hospital to pay the fee, his father was moved to cry: "The children are sensible, and they are causing trouble to the children." Li Jian took out all the tens of thousands of yuan he had at that time, and at that moment, he realized how important money was. His father's health deteriorated, and at the end of his life, Li Jian sent his father back to Harbin. On the train, his frail father needed Li Jian's back every time he went to the bathroom, and he didn't sleep much all night, and the old man said, "Forgive Dad." ”
At the moment when Li Jian was with his parents and sister, Li Jian, who was already sad, felt like a knife in his heart, he held back his tears, he just carried his father a few times. He clearly knows that the meaning behind these four words is guilt, gratitude, concern, and reluctance. At that time, Li Jian left Shuimu Nianhua, and his career had not improved, and his father was very worried about his life. Years later, whenever he remembered the scene on the train and his father's words, he couldn't let go of it. In 2006, after his father died, Li Jian wrote a song called "Father": You are proud of me, but I have never been proud of you, you are so generous, I am forever ashamed. When he re-recorded the song, he added at the end: "I finally understand that years after you are gone, I am proud of you, when I talk about you." Later, whenever he sang this song, he couldn't help but redden. Some words, spoken in another form, relieved a certain regret in Li Jian's heart.
In the days of downfall, Meng Xiaobei always accompanied Li Jianjian, and they survived the cold winter in Beijing together. When he was down, Meng Xiaobei encouraged him to stick to his ideals, not to have too much pressure, and to be accompanied by his lover in a depressed situation.
The huge change in the lives of Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei occurred in 2010, Faye Wong, who has liked Li Jian's works for a long time, stood on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala and sang the song "Legend", inadvertently sending Li Jian, who has been silently creating for many years, to the public. A singer-songwriter who has been immersed in it for many years finally stands in the spotlight, and the public is eager to explore the suffering behind it. But Li Jian is always disappointing: "In those years, I lived quite well, my living standard was lowered, but I had no worries about food and clothing." There is no such thing as silence, and I have been releasing records. "He has always been a person who dissolves sensationalism and does not like to exaggerate pain.
Li Jian and Faye Wong "When you have some works that you think are great, you will feel that you are very cool, you will be very confident, you will not feel that you are much lower than other famous singers, but you need a time, in addition to doing **, the only thing you can do is wait." ”
In the year of fame, Li Jian was 36 years old. Mother would be happy and would say how good it would be if your father were still alive. People regard Li Jian as a model of late bloomer, he is known as the "Tsinghua male god" in the entertainment industry, but Li Jian thinks that he has never changed, he has never stopped creating, and he is lucky that he became famous later.
Later, Li Jian became popular again because of "I Am a Singer", he did not accept a large number of commercial performances, but stayed away from the crowd, went to an unfamiliar place to continue creating, and took the initiative to give up fame and fortune. refuses to cater to the market's best works, his persistence seems too stubborn to the outside world, but it is this insistence that has created Li Jian's unique ** style. Li Jian once served as a judge of a ** show, and the bravery and fragility of those young people with ** dreams when facing the elimination rules, as well as a certain desperate determination, reminded him of his former self. He once gave advice to his younger generation, Mao Buyi: "Exercise, reduce unnecessary work, buy a car away from the crowd, live on your own, practice the piano more, read more, at least at this stage." ”
Li Jian and Mao Buyi's cultural heritage and refined temperament have made Li Jian popular with the public, especially Chinese women, including the poet Yu Xiuhua. Yu Xiuhua called Li Jian her dream lover in public, and wrote many love poems for him. This operation angered Li Jian's fans, and someone verbally attacked Yu Xiuhua, causing an uproar on the Internet, Li Jian took the initiative to stand up and responded decently, he described Yu Xiuhua in eight words: "Write poetry in the clouds, live in the mud." ”
Li Jian, respect for women. In his opinion, women have always been difficult, "In China, in general, Chinese men are slightly inferior to women in terms of personality. Most middle-aged men, shirtless, speak very loudly, which will make people feel why Chinese men are so unbearable. "Human nature may be in the bones. Many years ago, when Shuimu Nianhua was not disbanded, their famous song "In Another Country": "Let me go back to my hometown, and then return to her, let her gentleness and kindness soothe my heartache." In this regard, Li Jian jokingly said: "This word is written a bit selfishly, why use her tenderness to soothe your heartache?" ”
Looking back over the years, Li Jian's ** works, "Marine Marina", "The Woman Who Brought the Scenery", "Holy Light", etc., all describe the truth, goodness and beauty of women. Li Jian is full of respect and love for women, but he will not get too close. He knows that the best way to get along in most relationships is to stay away.
Li Jian still hasn't bought a house. He didn't have a house, he lived freely, he liked to play the piano and bought a lot of guitars. For Li Jian, buying a guitar is more enjoyable than buying a house. The house is small, but just the size for solitude. Li Jian and his wife have been renting a house for many years and living a simple and comfortable life.
Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei's friend Zhong Lifeng came to Li Jian's house as guests and were moved by the scene in front of them. The house is neatly stocked with books and records, and the taste is good. Every book and record carries Li Jian's memories. The couple also has a tea room where they spend time alone in a common space, one writing songs and the other reading ......
Li Jian's family has been married for many years, and Li Jian insists on not having children. His father died for many years, and in the passing years he understood his father, but he himself refused to be a father. He doesn't want his child to go through the hardships he has endured all over again as soon as he is born. "My genes are not so good that someone has to inherit them, and I'm not an endangered species, so I don't need to continue my genes. ”
As soon as Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei's remarks came out, some people agreed, feeling that Li Jian lived too soberly and had already understood the essence of life; Some people object, thinking that people who have no children in this life are incomplete, and people who do not have children are very selfish, not to mention that the husband and wife are so good, and it is a huge pity that the genes cannot be inherited. When a person becomes a public figure, his choice is no longer just a choice, and will even be misunderstood by others as a "maverick" and questioned by others. Whether it's having a baby or buying a house, not everyone has to experience the same life, everyone has their own way of living. Li Jian is not that kind of victim, he just knows how to enjoy. Such a person will not lack and have no regrets.
Li Jian and his wife Meng Xiaobei, while traveling in a foreign country, someone once asked Li Jian that he and his wife were on a honeymoon, and he replied: "I have been on my honeymoon all my life." The two have a common pursuit, and his wife Meng Xiaobei has been discovered many times by talent scouts because of her beauty and outstanding appearance, but she is not interested in this, and she does not want to become a public figure, so she decisively refuses. It takes a lot of courage to live the life you want to live. Li Jian and Meng Xiaobei both like a controllable life and like to be a bystander.
Meng Xiaobei. Li Jian is clear and mysterious, and has a compassionate heart. On December 22, 2023, 50-year-old Zhu Ling passed away. Her father, Wu Chengzhi, responded: "I don't feel (justice is absent), it's normal, the hospital has tried its best to save it, and it will be buried in Beijing." "The Zhu Ling case has touched the conscience of too many people, and although a long time has passed since the poisoning incident, many people have not let go of the matter.
Zhu Ling Li Jian and Zhu Ling are Tsinghua alumni, after Zhu Ling's death, Li Jian recalled that he had taken ** classes with her for more than a year when he was at Tsinghua University, "She is very delicate in my memory, and I really hope that one day this matter will come to light." A few days later, on Christmas Eve, Shui Mu Nianhua sang the song "Life with You" at the concert, saying that he would give this song to Zhu Ling, who had just passed away. Listening back to this song now, in some places it seems to have been written for her, "Look at those oaths and lies, slowly drifting away with the past". When Zhu Ling was alive, Li Jian called on everyone on social platforms to donate to Zhu Ling's family, and over the years, Li Jian, as an alumnus of Tsinghua University, has spoken out for her many times.
This kind of friendship is precious, his hometown Harbin once brought Li Jian this feeling, in addition to the cold poetry accident, the friendship between people, but also nourished his spirit. In the early nineties, on the day of his departure to Beijing to study at university, a large group of people went to the train station to see him off, including friends, relatives, and neighbors......Li Jian still remembers that evening at the Harbin train station. The scene that day triggered Li Jian's motivation to write his first song, and the ordinary and simple warmth gave him the initial strength.
Later, Li Jian became the kind of person that people loved, no matter how he crawled and dusted in Vanity Fair, everyone felt that he was a clean existence. It's not so much about Li Jian's magic as it is about people's instinct to defend something inoffensive in their hearts. Some things are over, some are just beginning. At the age of 50, even if everything in the past is gone, Li Jian is not afraid to start over.