As a one-child family, we face the challenges of old age. From my father, I received five important takeaways that reminded me to prepare early to ensure that I could have more peace of mind and comfort in my future old age.
First of all, I realized the importance of saving. In a hospital, money is like paper, and most things need money to solve. Although medical insurance can cover some of the costs, there are many expenses that are not covered by medical insurance, such as some special medical equipment, drugs and testing items. When your doctor tells you that these programs are not covered by health insurance, but they will help you recover, will you choose to use them? The list of expenses is increasing in tens of thousands every day, and without enough savings, we can only bow to the disease and wait desperately for fate. Therefore, it is very necessary to save more savings while you can still earn money.
Second, it's crucial to maintain a positive mindset. While in the hospital with my sensitive and anxious father, I learned the importance of maintaining a positive mindset. No matter how much we try to comfort him, he always thinks of the worst, and because of it, he feels hopeless, uncooperative, and even loses his temper. This made me realize that when difficulties come, we should not ask why it is me, but accept it calmly and face it positively. After all, life is a journey to death, and it's just a matter of time. Since the difficulties have come, we should try our best to cooperate, do our best, and obey the destiny of God.
Third, the accumulation of medical resources is also very crucial. In life, there are many things that we can do without asking for help, but medical resources are an exception. As we age, we need more and more help from doctors. Being able to get a famous doctor's number, get a bed, communicate more with the attending physician, and get the opportunity to consult with experts through a doctor friend are all very valuable resources. Having friends and resources from the hospital will make our journey to medical treatment smoother and avoid some unnecessary troubles.
Fourth, we should give more understanding and support to our children. During my father's illness, I observed that he sometimes showed inexplicable irritability and tantrums, and even said hurtful things. I understand that this is because of the pain and anxiety that comes with illness. Therefore, I told myself that in the days to come, I would be more understanding and tolerant of my children and avoid putting them in difficult situations.
Finally, it's important to take precautions. Watching the hard work of my siblings and us taking turns to accompany my father after his illness, I realized that I could not rely entirely on my children in my future old age. We should pay attention to daily health care and protection, and learn some traditional Chinese medicine or health care knowledge; Regular physical examination to detect and develop diseases in a timely manner; Establish your own health records for easy search and comparison. If we really need to be hospitalized, we can use caregivers and smart devices to reduce the burden; Add some anti-aging and elderly care facilities to your home to make yourself safer and more comfortable. We should accept the reality of our old age and not over-consume our energy. Every persistence and attrition comes at a cost, and eventually it will be liquidated together in the hospital.
As parents of only children, we face the challenges of senior living. In order to make children more relaxed and at ease, we should love ourselves well and prepare in advance. By saving, maintaining a positive attitude, accumulating medical resources, understanding our children, and preventing problems before they occur, we can help us in our old age.
Post-80s