Because she replied with an "um". A few days ago, she sent me a message after not being in touch for a long time, wanting to bring her children and blind dates to my city to play. Talking about the blind date, she sent a lot of messages, and I also quoted and replied a lot, with some of my questions and euphemistic suggestions. Maybe she doesn't like to hear it, or maybe she's busy, and after a long time, she only comes back with an "um". And because I was yang, she didn't come to my place to spend the night. To this day, she hasn't contacted me again.
This cold "um" involved years of emotion, and I realized that this friendship had long been full of rifts. Before that, there have been many times when she confided in me or complained, and after I replied to her with a bunch of messages, she only replied with a "hmm". For a while, she was obsessed with collecting likes and receiving red envelopes on a certain software, and reminded me to help every day. If I don't reply, it won't be long before she calls**. After I clicked, she said that she was going to chase the drama, and she hung up before I could speak. During that time, our only topic was receiving red envelopes.
She is an E person, I am an I person, and she can't understand my sensitivity and "social fear". Actually, it doesn't matter, the world doesn't feel the same way. If she hadn't expressed it in a strong, disgusting manner, I probably wouldn't have taken it to heart. After she had a baby, we took the baby with us every time we met. I told her more than once that she didn't like children and wasn't going to have children. She wanted me to be her child's godmother many times, thinking that this should be the case between girlfriends. She once came to live with me with her child for half a month, and several times she went out to play and left the child to me to take care of, and even woke up in the middle of the night to find that she had gone out with a friend, and her child was crying and making me feel helpless...Scenes of the past surfaced, and I finally couldn't help but press the delete button.
In fact, after graduating from high school and going to different universities, they are destined to part ways. Different experiences, different jobs, and different ideas have long drawn a dividing line for this friendship. It's just that it's too nostalgic to give up. Coupled with the character of person I, I don't know how to refuse the "enthusiasm" of person I. However, any relationship, if you want to maintain it with your grievances and care, if it always makes you feel uncomfortable, then it should end decisively. Even if we are reluctant, we must understand that many people can only accompany us for a while. When you get to the station, it's time to wave goodbye. At the next stop, we will meet someone who will accompany us for a while. And the only one who can accompany you for a lifetime is yourself. Life is like this, people come and go, and you must learn to accept and release when you leave, and you don't have to force it. Go forward with determination and never look back.
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