Wen Xiamo. Language is an art.
People with high emotional intelligence speak like a spring breeze, and it is easy to establish good social relationships and make their lives better.
Learning to speak and be able to communicate effectively can improve the efficiency of doing things.
There are many ways for people to speak. Only by knowing how to speak can you become a very powerful person.
People live for a lifetime, and the way you speak often determines your fate.
A few days ago, colleagues from many branches went to the headquarters for a meeting, and everyone came to the stage to talk about their experiences and experiences.
Xiao Zhang, a colleague in the branch, laughed and sarcastically mocked his colleagues on stage while listening.
Those who speak very well on the podium, he says that people can't speak Mandarin; A colleague who is a little nervous to speak will say that people stutter, so can they still speak?
It wasn't until the meeting was over that he noticed the manager sitting near him.
After that, he was called to the office, and soon Xiao Zhang was transferred to a more inconspicuous position.
People who can't speak well always let themselves fall into the quagmire as soon as they open their mouths.
Around, those who don't speak well, self-righteous, arrogant, speak with a provocative tone, and look down on people at every turn.
If you are not careful, you will offend everyone.
If a person can't speak, he will lose the hearts of the people, which is not conducive to unity and development, and it is difficult for him to get ahead and make himself successful.
Venerable Xuecheng said in "Speak Well": "Although it is simple to speak, it is not a trivial matter. What you say is important. Hurting someone with simple words can have a lot of consequences. ”Learning to speak well often makes it easier to establish yourself and gain connections.
Really capable people, able to speak and good at communicating. So, how can we do a better job of saying it well?
One,Improve your emotional intelligence and speak appropriately
He Xingfu in "Happiness to Ten Thousand Homes", works in a law firm, and she works as a cleaner and front desk.
The lawyers were not there, and several foreign clients came to the door, and she was the only one.
She knew she had to keep her clients, so she warmly invited them in and sat down and made them the best tea in the firm.
In addition, she also said that this tea was bought after winning the lawsuit, and in disguise, she praised the law firm for winning many lawsuits.
Foreign clients feel that the law firm has only three lawyers, and it is not enough to receive him.
He Xingfu immediately explained: The temple is small, but the gods are big, and the God of Wealth is not big, but every household respects it. It doesn't matter if there are fewer people, the key is that everyone's ability is particularly strong.
Her sincere and generous attitude won a big order for the company, and the boss gave her a lot of money as a bonus and gave her a salary increase.
People with strong abilities know how to improve their emotional intelligence and speak appropriately.
Master Ji Xianlin said: "People must say the right words, meaningful words, and words that are beneficial to progress, so that people can be convinced." ”If you want to improve your emotional intelligence, you should read more books and learn more ways to deal with others with your elders. And, don't say things that touch other people's bottom lines and principles.
Get along with people, speak appropriately, and you'll win half the game.
High emotional intelligence, can speak, can win the appreciation of more people, can do more things, and get more benefits.
II,Speak beautifully, and win the hearts of the people
A person, who can speak and who can't speak, will take things in two completely different directions.
Before, I read such a report:
There was a woman pushing a baby stop at the intersection, making it inconvenient for the vehicles behind to pass.
One person said, "Why are you so unethical, you won't stand on the side." ”
The woman was particularly annoyed, focusing on "no public morality", and had a big quarrel with that person, both of them were in a bad mood, and they were delayed for a long time.
Another person put it another way: "Please push the stroller to the side, I am afraid that if you accidentally touch it, it will cause you harm and loss." ”
The woman felt that what he said made sense, and immediately got out of the way, she was safer, and the man had achieved his goal.
The more talkative people are, the more they will be able to speak appropriately and beautifully.
Generally, a person who can talk knows how to empathize, maximize the feelings and interests of the other party, and make the other party feel that he understands him, understands him, and respects him.
Therefore, the more people who can talk, the easier it is to solve problems and do things more smoothly.
Most of the people who can't speak just want to vent their emotions and speak unforgivingly.
Three,Don't say things you shouldn't say, keep your mouth shut
Ye Man, a master of Chinese culture, said: "There are straight trees in the mountains, but there are no straight people in the world." A true straight person is never proud of being straightforward and fast-talking, and humiliating people in front of him. ”When people get along with each other and talk too much, three problems are prone to arise.
First, accidentally expose too much of your mind so that others know what you want to do and how capable you are.
Second, if you talk too much, you will cause dissatisfaction among others and be hated by too many people.
Third, saying something that shouldn't be said will lead to a lot of useless disputes. Waste time, affect your mood, and add unnecessary trouble to yourself.
Therefore, learn what you should not say and resolutely do not say it. Appropriate silence and compromise are also a form of communicative wisdom.
Only by keeping your mouth shut and keeping your heart can you have better interpersonal relationships.
On the road of life, change yourself, start by speaking.
Smart people, a few words can resolve a crisis. Confused people, two words and three words can cause big trouble.
Keep your mouth shut, leave room for others, and leave a way out for yourself, so that you can grow better and have a better destiny.
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