Recently, a female anchor who has been controversial opened a live broadcast and opened up with netizens to tell the imprint that her original family once left on her.
Among them, there is one thing that I also agree with, that is, parents always say that the family is poor and the family is very difficult, which will have a profound impact on the child's psychology.
She was born in rural Shaanxi, and her parents supported her and her brother to go to college, and the family was indeed financially difficult.
Her parents always emphasized in front of her that her family was poor since she was a child, which made Xiang Yi unconsciously formed: I am poor and I am guilty, so I bear a heavy psychological burden.
Even after her studies, she was still under pressure to do her job well.
She always has a sense of indebtedness to her family, and she has endless gratitude, she bought a pension house for her parents, but her parents did not let her buy it, and she even asked her parents to accept it in the form of orders.
She was teary-eyed when she talked about this, and she had a sense of relief after saying it, although she couldn't empathize, but the original family always shouted "poor", which would indeed have a profound impact on the child.
What are the psychological effects on children?
The sense of worthiness is lowParents always cry poor, and slowly they will form a "I don't deserve" mentality, and when they grow up, they dare not accept things that are beyond the scope of their psychology.
Le Jia once said, "Parents love to cry and be poor, and it is difficult for children to raise their heads in their lives."
He once told an example, in his psychology class, a boy said that the sentence he heard the most since he was a child was that your parents have no money to support you, and it is not easy for the family.
Every time he went to the supermarket with his mother, he didn't dare to look up for fear of seeing something he liked.
Once, he didn't hold back, looked up at a canned apple, and touched it, and his mother saw that he liked it, hesitated, and decided to buy it.
On the way back, my mother kept nagging, this bottle of canned food is six yuan nine, enough for us to eat a meal.
Sweet canned food, but the boy tasted bitter.
When he grew up, he worked hard to make money and make himself rich, but in the face of others' kindness to him, his first reaction was not to feel gratified, but to feel unworthy.
Why is this so?
The long-term restriction of desires makes children habitually suppress themselves and minimize their needs, which will eventually become a lack of cognition in children.
Low self-esteemParents educate their children on thrift, frustration, and always cry in front of their children, which will make them form an inferiority complex that is difficult to achieve
My family was poor, my parents were incapable, and I lived at the bottom of society. Even if he grew up and had a well-paid job, he still had a family of origin that he thought was terrible.
Some "poor students" still have no sense of accomplishment after they have achieved success, and subconsciously, they have never believed in themselves, their parents, or their original family, why not the "female anchor"?
People are not terrible to be poor, but poor hearts are terrible", material poverty can be made up for through acquired efforts, while spiritual lack requires a lifetime.
Friends are "poor" education for children, when the child grows up, only buy cheap clothes, and her mother asks her to buy a branded clothing, she says she is not worthy.
Write at the end
"Poor" and "crying poor" are two concepts, "crying poor" is complaining, is an inappropriate way of life, children in this environment, will also learn to complain about the world.
As a parent, properly meet the material needs of your child, and let spiritual enrichment bring your child confidence and confidence!