There is a good saying: "Never overestimate your weight in the hearts of others, it is never the ruthlessness of others that can hurt you, but your fanciful expectations." ”It is true that if you overestimate love, you are overestimating human nature, and you never know what uncontrollable human nature will bring you?
Therefore, don't expect a man to love you at this moment, and you can sit back and relax. You know, when you love you, it's because you're worthy, and in the same way, when you don't love you, it's because you've lost your sense of worth in his eyes.
If you want your relationship to get better and better, and your life to become happier and happier, you have to keep two hole cards.
One, have your own deposit.
I have always disapproved of women being full-time housewives after marriage, adhering to what "male dominates, female dominates", gives up their jobs and dreams, and teaches their husbands and children at home, because of this division of labor, the final outcome is often a woman who is defeated.
Don't believe the nonsense of "I raise you" in the mouth of men, it is just a big pie that you can sacrifice for this family with peace of mind.
When you really ask him for money every month, even if you still spend it in this family, he thinks that you don't make a penny when you are idle at home, so he will ask him for money, and he doesn't know how to save money, he is a loser.
I just brushed up on a conversation, the wife asked her husband to transfer this month's living expenses to her, and the husband kept pushing it back, saying that he would give it to her in a few days, don't rush all day long! Urge! Urge!
The wife got angry and roared: "Okay, I won't urge you anymore in the future, divorce!" I used to have a job, and you asked me to quit my job to take care of your paralyzed mother at home, and I could still take care of the children, killing two birds with one stone. At the beginning, he said that he would give 5,000 yuan a month for living expenses, but now, not to mention the gradual reduction, now he has been in arrears for 2,000 a month. ”
This is the sadness of being a full-time housewife, not even as good as a nanny, because the nanny's monthly salary is far more than 2,000, and there are not so many pickles.
If you have a job and your own savings, do you still need to suffer from this kind of? It is said that if you have money, you have confidence, especially men with shallow eye sockets, and they always think that whoever can make money will pay for the family, and if you don't make money, you will eat idle food.
Then, women should think clearly, keep their hole cards, let you keep your home, hold the economic power, if you can't do it, you will go to work, in short, you must have your own savings, in order to be invincible.
Second, have your own hobbies.
Even if a man and a woman are married, they still have to do two parallel tracks, he has his career, you have your hobbies, of course, this hobby must be positive and can make you better and better.
Give each other a space, play to each other's strengths, don't object, and learn to respect each other's hobbies.
If the other party has a hobby, you stop it and force it to do what you want, which will only affect the continued development of the relationship.
is like Xu Huanshan in "Thirty Only", he likes to play football, Gu Jia objected, Xu Huanshan hid his only hobby, and after meeting Lin Youyou, Lin Youyou followed his hobby and let him release himself in the field he liked.
This also leads to the fact that Xu Huanshan's love balance is slowly tilting, and his control over his wife is becoming more and more annoying, and he just wants to escape, preferring to fall in love with Lin Youyou, who is not as good as his wife in every way.
It's not so much that Ailin has it, but that Xu Huanshan wants freedom, he wants to play his own space, reflecting the value of men's machismo.
Men need to have their own hobbies, and women need to do more not to devote themselves to each other, what women need to do is to play well in their hobbies without opposing men having hobbies.
Bai Yang said: The most upside-down beings in the world are not beautiful women, but the most attractive women.As long as a woman keeps her hole cards and has her own deposits, she will have the right to speak, and she will not be at a disadvantage and be wronged and suffered.
Have your own hobbies, make yourself better and better, your charm attracts and lives a glorious life, naturally grasp the man's heart, let him love you more and more, and his feelings are becoming happier and happier.