After my niece entered junior high school, her academic performance was above average, and occasionally she could rank at the top of one or two subjects.
At family gatherings, her mother always couldn't help but praise her for "studying well, how good she is, how self-disciplined, and how worry-free." ”
I've seen nieces look at her mom with a serious look on her face, and when she's beaming, she can't help but pout and criticize and ** her mom. At this moment, I saw that she has maturity and intelligence far beyond her years, which makes me deeply gratified and admired.
I'm not your tool, why do you show off in front of your aunt and aunt? ”
Her mother said disapprehantly
My daughter studies well, she is very good, she can give me a long face, I say it to make your aunt and aunt happy, what's wrong? ”
The niece said angrily
Don't use me as your bragging rights, okay? It's really annoying. ”
There are some people around us who always like to show off themselves and seek the approval and approval of others. However, doing so often affects the feelings of those around you. Just like my niece, her mom always used her as a topic of conversation in front of relatives and friends, which made her feel very bored. She raised ** to her mom several times, but her mom seemed indifferent. As those around us, we should learn to respect the feelings of others and not ignore the emotions of others just for the sake of our own superiority. It is only on the basis of mutual respect that our family harmony and harmonious relations can be sustained.
In social situations, have you also met some parents who like to brag and show off?
was forced to listen to their "Versailles-style baby", showing off the excellence of their children, in their eyes, his children are simply geniuses that have not been encountered in a century.
Every parent wants their child to shine and be worthy of their own nurturing efforts. Therefore, on social **, we often see all kinds of "dazzling baby" shows, which is not malicious, but just hopes to prove that our education methods are different and successful. This is a kind of pride for children, but also a kind of affirmation and relief for oneself. But we must be aware that the definition of success varies from person to person, and should not be based solely on performance or quality. We need to respect each child's unique personality and potential, help them find their own interests and directions, and achieve individualized growth.
For many people, the increase in age will bring about a weakening of social value. Therefore, in order to let others take a more look at themselves, many people will constantly show off their children and use their strengths to highlight their superiority. However, we should be aware that a person's worth should not only come from the appreciation of others or the merits of their children, but should depend more on their own experiences and contributions. We should respect ourselves and reach our full potential in order to truly realize our self-worth. Only in this way can we live a fulfilling and meaningful life.
In fact, showing off what your child has often made your child lose something.
1.Don't show off your child's appearance
I have a relative who pays special attention to her appearance and has a beautiful daughter. This daughter is not only outstanding, but her mother will also dress her up carefully, and often post various beautiful photos of the child on social platforms, which is enviable. However, I also want to tell this relative that while cultivating her daughter's external charm, we should pay more attention to the cultivation of her inner quality, so that my daughter can truly become a person with connotation and charm.
When they get praise and praise from relatives and friends, relatives are also very satisfied.
At the party, she always changed her way to let everyone praise her daughter for her white skin and beauty, and she grew up to be a beautiful embryo.
further praised her for her own good genes to give birth to such a beautiful daughter.
It may be that her daughter has grown up being praised for her beauty since she was a child, and she often receives a lot of preferential treatment because of her appearance.
When the little girl grows up, she also attaches great importance to her appearance, and cares very much about whether others pay attention to her.
She thinks that being beautiful is superior to others, and being beautiful is the capital of pride.
Junior high school is a period of connecting the past and the next. But some people lose themselves at this stage. She is one of them. I couldn't focus on my studies, so I started falling in love with a boy early, and my grades plummeted. In this long journey, what was lost was not only the grades, but also the calmness and concentration. I hope that every junior high school student can cherish their youth and grow up healthily.
In fact, a person's appearance is not a capital and skill worth showing off.
Pretty is a natural advantage that comes from the genes of the parents. However, if parents always emphasize their child's appearance and constantly show off their child's appearance, they are actually telling their child that appearance is important, which will have a negative impact on the child's development. Parents should educate their children that appearance should not be the whole of life, but more importantly, the inner soul and character. At the same time, parents should lead by example, pay attention to their own charm and morality, be a role model for their children, and cultivate their children's self-confidence and self-loving attitude, so that their children can become a person full of inner charm.
In the long run, it will make the child mistakenly believe that the appearance is the most important, so that the child spends too much time on the appearance, and the inner improvement will be reduced.
Wise parents know that in order for their children to grow up to be beautiful people, how to cultivate inner cultivation is crucial. Although physical appearance is important, the beauty of the soul is the most important. Parents should guide their children to realize that they should not only pay attention to their appearance, but also pay attention to their character and heart. Only by cultivating both inside and outside can we become truly excellent talents.
2.Don't show off your child's grades
My friend's child did well in school and took the university exam, but when she sent the admission letter to the family group, she didn't get any response.
My friend wondered, they were all children's aunts and uncles, how could they be regarded as not seeing them?
I recently asked my friend about the academic performance of her sister-in-law and brother-in-law's children. However, a friend told me that both children did not get as good as they could have been. This worries me deeply, because we all know that education is the key to our future. Therefore, we should spend more time and energy on our studies so that we can succeed later.
Actually,From the perspective of human natureNo one in this world really cares how good your child is except yourself.
Because of jealousy, they will secretly hope that your child will be worse!
Don't always show off your child's grades, which can stress your child. Let your child learn, grow and build self-confidence at their own pace.
I have a friend who takes care of the kids full-time.
She will often post how many scores her children have scored in the group and circle of friends, and how many prizes she has won in subject competitions, so that everyone knows that her children are top students and she is very good at educating children.
Every year during the college entrance examination season, parents are concerned about their children's grades day and night. Some children get in, while others only lose at the starting line. However, we can't just use school rankings to measure a person's worth, each child has unique talents and areas of expertise. Even if your child ends up only taking one or two books, encourage them to strive for their dreams and pursue the future they want.
Later, I learned that the child's academic performance is indeed very good, but the mentality is not good, and he suffers too much from gains and losses.
When a subject is not satisfactory in the college entrance examination, the child's mentality collapses, which also affects the performance in the future.
Studies have shown that parentsPaying too much attention to your child's grades is not conducive to your child's psychological development.
The more parents show off, the more children will think that only if their academic performance is good, they can be recognized and loved by their parents.
Nowadays, many parents will pay too much attention to their children's academic performance, but this practice will bring more pressure to their children. When studying, children often tense their nerves, and even become "grade-only", and even have too much to gain and lose. This not only restricts the children's hands and feet, but also makes it difficult to develop the children's potential abilities. Parents should do to let their children learn and grow up happily in a relaxed atmosphere.
3.Don't show off your child's work
My cousin has a headache when he talks about his parents, who are too show-off and always make trouble for themselves.
I have a cousin who works as a doctor at a big hospital in our city, and his parents are proud when they talk about him. His tireless and conscientious work attitude has made him a leader in the hospital and has won a reputation for our family. Every time I hear about his achievements, I feel extremely proud.
He often praises outsiders about how good his work is and how respected he is when he works.
He often boasted to others: "If you are not feeling well, go directly to my son, and he will definitely arrange it for you." ”
My cousin said that he could receive ** from his parents and friends at two ends in three days, and he was already very busy, which made him even busier.
And when those people came, their parents had to arrange meals and accommodation, which was really tiring.
Because parents love face very much, they only care about whether others look up to them, but they don't care about their children's lives.
Children in the eyes of parents are often their proudest achievements. But when they grow up to a certain age, they also have their own ideas and principles. Even with a well-paid job, "saving your parents' face" should not be seen as an obligation. This unrealistic expectation will only cause more damage to the feelings of both parties. Parents should respect their children's choices and give them adequate support, which is the foundation of a good parent-child relationship. If parents can provide sincere companionship and a warm family environment for their children, I believe that their children will become better people.
Parents who have the capital to show off and never show offis a wise parent.
This is because they are more focused on childrenGrowth and progress, instead of pushing the child into the endless abyss of comparison with others early;
It's the children who are more concernedHealth, learning, and mental state, rather than treating the child as a symbol of honor or achievement.
Zeng Guofan said
"The ripe valley often bends down, and the wise man is often humble. ”The gesture of the rice ear seems to have many deep meanings. The plump ears of rice, with their heads bowed heavily and humbly, imply a bountiful harvest, but they do not forget to be grateful and humble. The hollow barnyard holds its head high, as if it is triumphant, but it is not confident because of the emptiness in its heart. Human beings can also draw profound inspiration from this gesture.
No matter how good a child is, parents will not regard it as a bragging capital. They understand the truth that "the wood show will be destroyed by the forest wind", and they know that too much publicity will have a negative impact on children. They want their children to be their true selves in an environment where they can easily accumulate experience, and their grades, appearance, and work are just a ladder to success, not a tool for parents to show off. In this way, our children can stride forward into their own future.
Children are an important part of their lives, and children are encouraged to reach their potentialBe a responsible, responsible and independent thinkeris their long-term plan.