I'm a person who has come through an anxiety disorder.
During those years of anxiety, fear was everywhere, and I often thought about: What to do? I don't mix as well as my peers, they have a higher income than me, a more stable job than me, a happier family than me, and I'm sick now, how can I catch up with them? Is my life over?
As a result, I couldn't get rid of anxiety, and I couldn't stop panicking every day.
Until my psychiatrist said to me: Actually, you are doing well, don't use anyone as a reference, don't compare yourself with others, live your own life, just be yourself. Heaven decides the rest.
Indeed, put away your comparison and do what you need to do every day, and you really don't feel so anxious.
But how easy is it not to compare? The comparison heart has been cultivated since childhood, and since the student days, every exam has to be ranked, which is a competitive cultivation and the cultivation of the comparison heart.
The neighbor's child ranked very poorly in the final exam, and went home sullen, his mother said: What's the use of being sad, carefully analyze what the problem is, and try your best next time, don't compare with other classmates, and spend the winter vacation happily.
I admire this mother, she is dispeling her children's comparison, such a mother will not compare her children with other people's families, the child's childhood will be much happier, and there is a high probability that she will not have anxiety disorders.
In the adult world, comparisons are commonplace. than income, more than husband, than children...Then I found that no matter how you compare, there are always people who are more capable than you, better luck than you, more resourceful than you, smarter and more beautiful than you, and more popular than you...Then, as the old saying goes, "people are more angry than people".
Some people say that comparison is the only way to be self-motivated, but I think the right idea should be how I can be the best version of myself, not how I can be better than others. He is strong, he is strong, and the breeze blows on the hills.
It doesn't matter if you win or lose, you can calmly accept your weakness. Just try to be the best version of yourself, and anxiety won't torment your heart.