My name is Lin Xiao and I am 40 years old. Seven years ago, my husband and I divorced by agreement, ending 10 years of married life and raising my 8-year-old daughter alone.
After the divorce, I lost my purpose in life for a while. It's really boring to repeat the life of going to and from work day after day. Renting a house, paying off a loan, raising children, every day is a struggle for a living.
Can a 40-year-old divorced woman still find new love? "I've asked myself this question over and over again. Facing the mirror, the middle-aged woman inside had long since lost her former appearance, and wrinkles and spots crept up her cheeks. As for me, I have changed from a delicate girl to a slightly chubby and weak middle-aged aunt.
I used to envy the married life of my friends, and I envied them that they had someone by their side to protect them. I envy those young girls who have just entered the palace of marriage, they have infinite possibilities to talk about a vigorous love.
And a divorced woman of my age should be focused on her career or children in the eyes of most people, and her relationship has become a luxury.
Do you still expect to find a good family? If you want me to say, it's good to be alone, and you don't have to worry so much. "That's what my mom told me.
I didn't say anything about it, I just smiled, but my heart was very uncomfortable. I also want a love of my own, regardless of age, just because I also want to be cherished and loved.
Until one day, I met Wang Wei.
Wang Wei is 3 years older than me and is the coach of my daughter's team.
The first time I met Wang Wei was at my daughter's ball game.
I went to pick up my daughter for training as usual that day, only to find that the coach had been replaced by a tall and handsome man. With a whistle in his hand, he blows the whistle while pointing and training the little girls on the team how to pass the ball and shoot the goal.
I couldn't help but look at him a few more times, thinking that this coach is really handsome, and he is also very serious and meticulous.
Just then, a ball suddenly rolled at my feet. I picked up the ball and looked up to see Wang Wei walking towards me with a smile.
Could you please throw it back? His voice was gentle.
I threw the ball to him, and he said "thank you" softly, then turned around and went back to training.
A simple interaction, but it made my heartbeat unconsciously miss half a beat.
Since then, every time I go to pick up my daughter, I will stop by to see him a few more times. Gradually, I found out that he was a very attentive person. Not only to teach football skills, but also to care about the difficulties encountered by the little girl in life.
During a team building activity, the children clamored to go to the playground to play. I also participated in this event as a parent representative.
When I arrived at the playground, the children were running around excitedly, but my daughter had a bitter little face.
It turned out that she didn't dare to sit in those exciting games, so she could only stand by pitifully and watch.
At this time, Wang Wei came over and asked her softly, "Do you want to play?" Why don't I play with you? ”
My daughter looked up, hesitated, but nodded.
So, Wang Wei took her by the hand and experienced several roller coasters and jumping machines with her.
After playing, my daughter was very happy and pulled Wang Wei to say a lot of words.
And I was also on the sidelines, seeing Wang Wei taking care of my daughter so carefully, my heart had already softened.
Perhaps since then, I have had a little more affection for Wang Wei.
After that, I would often go to the stadium to watch him train his daughter, and sometimes I would even talk to him.
I found that Wang Wei works very seriously and likes to read books and fish in his spare time. He has a gentle personality, is warm, and takes care of people.
I never get tired of chatting with him, because he knows how to listen, not one-sidedly preach. This is different from my previous rigid husband, which makes me feel warm.
I guess maybe Wang Wei also has a crush on me. Because he will take the initiative to help me solve some difficulties, such as repairing household appliances and picking up my daughter.
But I always remind myself that Wang Wei is 3 years younger than me and single, so he shouldn't really like me as a middle-aged aunt.
Until one day, Wang Wei suddenly confessed to me.
Miss Lin, I like you and want to pursue you. Would you like to give me a chance? ”
I looked at Wang Wei in surprise, at a loss.
However, I am 40 years old and have a child. I said cautiously.
I don't care about that. Wang Wei's tone was firm, "What I like is you as a person, not your age and identity." ”
That night, I couldn't sleep. Wang Wei's confession echoed in my mind, and I couldn't calm down for a long time.
Should I accept his pursuit? Will he really be like he says he doesn't care about my age and identity?
When I reach middle age, I also long for true love, but I am more afraid of getting hurt again.
For this reason, I went out of his way to talk to a psychologist, hoping that she could give me some advice.
Age does not affect love at all. She said, "Two people who truly love each other are the inner fit of both parties, not the external age gap." ”
You also have the right to love and be loved. Don't let the shadow of divorce and the pressure of age deprive yourself of the opportunity to start a relationship again. ”
The counselor's words gave me hope. I learned that I also have the right to live an authentic life, to enjoy the joy of life, and not just to dedicate myself to my family.
Eventually, I mustered up the courage to accept Wang Wei's pursuit.
Today, we have been in love for two years. Wang Wei was very good to me and my daughter, and I gradually experienced the trauma of my last marriage.
I began to learn to let go of the old ways and stop demanding that I have to have a "perfect" age and identity in order to be happy.
In fact, true love has no age, and it does not distinguish between men and women.
I also learned from Wang Wei that being young does not mean being open-minded, and being middle-aged does not mean being conservative and old.
In the same way, divorced women have the right to find their own family happiness.
So, if you ask me: can a 40-year-old divorced woman still find true love?
I'll tell you: of course you can, but only if you dare to start anew, be brave enough to love, and find someone who will cherish you.
He will make you understand that love is not about age, only about heart.