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Lao Liu and I met at the activities of the community art troupe. His wife died of illness and had a daughter who had a family; I am a widow who lost her husband at an early age, and my son has started a family of his own.
Similar life experiences make us find resonance in conversation, and speaking is very speculative. With well-wishers around us, it's better for the two of us to become a family. Although it is a good thing, but when it comes to marriage, it is not a child's play, I have heard that many people have all kinds of contradictions after their second marriage, and finally parted ways, I am very cautious about marriage, I propose that you can try to pass it, do not get a certificate first. If you don't adapt, you can separate and save trouble. Lao Liu agreed. Luckily, we received the understanding and support of our children and started living together.
Living together for three years was the most peaceful and happy time of my life. Lao Liu is very diligent and considerate of me, whenever I have a headache or feel unwell, he is always with me and takes care of me carefully. I don't have to worry about housework, he can take care of it properly.
My advantage is that I have good cooking skills, I am responsible for our three meals a day, and occasionally I can get help from Lao Liu to help me. The two of us were busy in the kitchen, talking and laughing, and there was a warm smell of fireworks.
In our free time, we enjoy the best fun in the art troupe, or go out together. Lao Liu always prepares the travel needs in advance to ensure a pleasant trip. Every time he goes to a tourist attraction to rest, he will open the bag prepared in advance, take out a plastic sheet and spread it on the ground, and then take out all kinds of food, let me enjoy it, Lao Liu said that travel is entertainment, to eat and have fun and sleep well.
I was very tired after a day of traveling, and when I returned to the hotel, Lao Liu would prepare foot washing water for me, and would also massage gently, so that my fatigue could be released. This feeling of being cared for made me appreciate the benefits of having company.
My son works in the field and comes back once a year, usually by mobile phone. Lao Liu's daughter is close, and when she comes back once a month, she also seems polite and distant, and does not interfere with our lives. This gives us a lot of freedom. We live freely and comfortably.
Financially, we each have a pension, and most of the expenses are shared equally, and we don't think too much about each other, and we are both committed to creating a quality living environment in old age.
I just want to be able to spend the rest of my life together.
Three years later, Lao Liu proposed to get married. Although it was a sunset love, he wanted to give me a name and legally confirm our relationship. We went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a certificate, and Lao Liu held a beautiful wedding for me.
But life quietly changed after marriage.
Lao Liu's daughter's family began to visit frequently. I came in at eight o'clock in the morning and said I hadn't eaten breakfast. Lao Liu asked me to go into the kitchen and cook breakfast for them. After the family finished breakfast, I had to prepare lunch again, and her daughter's family came, and the lunch should not be too shabby.
Every time I have to prepare a hearty meal. Lao Liu and his uncle were chatting and playing chess in the living room, and Lao Liu's daughter coaxed the children, but no one could give me a hand.
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I was busy, the meal was served, and Lao Liu beckoned his daughter's family to sit at the table and feast, completely ignoring the fact that I was not busy in the kitchen and did not serve the table. After eating, I cleaned up the dishes and chopsticks, and no one helped.
Super Intensity Busy. I'm old and tired. I told Lao Liu behind my back that I didn't want his daughter to come so often. Lao Liu said that it is a good thing that the children are willing to come, and it is filial piety to us. They didn't treat me as an outsider, they wanted to be close to us. We should rejoice from the bottom of our hearts.
What is the figure of the old picture? Isn't it just Tu's children and grandchildren around his knees? The house is more lively, and there are more fireworks. If my son's family comes back, it will be even more lively.
Lao Liu said with a happy face. But I think he knew that my son was out of town and couldn't come back very often, and he said that on purpose.
Two months later, Lao Liu's daughter came home and said that their current house was too small and wanted to change to a bigger one. Lao Liu said that it would be good to change to a big one. In the future, your aunt and I will also have a room to live in.
Lao Liu's daughter said that she thought about it for the future in this way, so she wanted to buy a Daping house. But now the down payment is 100,000 yuan.
Lao Liu didn't say a word, got up and brought his salary card to his daughter, saying that the money in it was enough for a down payment. Lao Liu's daughter took the money and went back happily.
I was angry, Lao Liu was really generous, he gave his salary card to his daughter, what should we do if we live normally? Lao Liu disagreed: "Isn't there still yours?" It's all a family, so let's spend yours for the time being. ”
What did I mean by asking Lao Liu? Although they are legally married, I am not a free nanny at his house, her daughter's family comes, I have to serve the old and young, and now I have money.
Lao Liu said that I have a small heart, and children should be helped if they are in difficulty, what do we want so much money for? Aren't they all sons and daughters in a hundred years' time? Daughters and sons are the same, we will help whoever is in trouble.
I was not happy, in order to test Lao Liu, a few days later, I told him that my son from other places called **, saying that he and his friends were optimistic about a project and wanted to work together, but the start-up capital was insufficient, so let me help him, and I agreed.
Lao Liu was stunned when he heard this, and asked me if her daughter took 100,000 yuan, and I was worried in my heart? I said that my son is really in trouble, and her daughter and my son are our children, and we should all help our children when they are in trouble.
Lao Liu said this reason, but now the two of us don't have so much money on hand, take it slowly, and help when you have money. Now let my son think of something else.
Lao Liu's words made me completely chill him. It is natural to help her daughter, and my son will slow down when he asks for money. What is the picture of my life with him? Is it just a picture of someone to talk to? At the same time to take all my economy and my body and mind, it would be too cheap for him.
I filed for divorce from Lao Liu, and he was very reluctant, but I was determined that this marriage must be divorced.
I am not willing to sacrifice my old age for a semblance of family harmony. What I need is dignity, equality, true happiness, not a burden that only takes but does not know how to give.
No matter how old you are, you need to be careful when choosing a partner. Marriage is not child's play, it requires the joint efforts and maintenance of both parties. True happiness is based on mutual understanding and respect. I hope that my experience can inspire you to make more informed choices in the pursuit of happiness.