I am 66 years old this year, and I have been at my son's house for 10 years with my grandson, I have no holidays, no rest days, no time for myself, and in the end, I have not left my son and daughter-in-law to like.
I retired in 2012, I was a doctor before I retired, and it was really hard to be a doctor, worrying, heavy workload, overtime, few holidays, and I spent most of my life in the hospital, very tired.
I have two children, a son, and a daughter, before I retired, they have already started a family, and they can be regarded as completing the major events of the family before I retired, so at that time, I often thought, when I retire, I will be leisurely, I must relax for a few years, enjoy the beauty of life, I want to sleep until I wake up naturally every day, I want to follow the three or five old friends to go to the mountains and rivers when the spring flowers bloom, and enjoy a beautiful retirement life.
In June 2012, I finally went through the retirement procedures, and at that moment, I felt liberated, free, and in my own way. Life after retirement is so good, I first rested at home for a month to make up for half of my life's sleep, and then I started my travel plan.
However, a few days later, one day in October 2012, my son called ** and said that there was good news for me, and his good news shattered my retirement dream. The son said, "Mom, you're going to be a grandmother, Xiaoya (my daughter-in-law) is pregnant." ”
My wife and I were overjoyed to hear my son say that my daughter-in-law was pregnant, they had been married for three years and had no children, and we had been looking forward to holding our grandson for a long time.
The son continued: "Mom, now that Xiaoya is pregnant, her taste is very tricky, and her reaction is more powerful, I am busy at work and can't take care of her, can you come and help me take care of her?" ”
Hearing my son say this, of course I couldn't refuse, after all, it was my own child, and I was idle when I retired, so it was of course incumbent on me to take care of my pregnant daughter-in-law.
So, I quit the tour group I had signed up for and got on the train to my son's city. Since then, I have said goodbye to the retirement life of my dreams.
When I arrived at my son's house, I took on the responsibility of taking care of my daughter-in-law, she had to go out from home to work at 8 o'clock every morning, I would prepare her breakfast before half past seven and she went to work after eating, I simply cleaned the house, and then went to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, prepared the meal that my daughter-in-law wanted to eat at noon, I will make it before 11:30, in order not to make my daughter-in-law too hard, after the meal was done, I put it in a warm lunch box, and then I took the car to send the meal to my daughter-in-law's unit, and I came back after she ate. And so I persevered for 7 months, rain or shine.
To be honest, the days of serving my daughter-in-law are very hard, my daily schedule is very full, shopping for vegetables, washing clothes, cooking, cleaning, delivering meals to my daughter-in-law, I have almost no time to rest throughout the day, often at the end of the day, I am tired and have a sore back and legs. But fortunately, my son and daughter-in-law are very filial and treat me very well every day, especially my son, as long as he has time, he will do everything at home.
In May 2013, my little grandson was born, after the birth of my grandson, I thought I could relax and wait for the confinement period, I asked my son and daughter-in-law what their plans were, whether they wanted me to help them take care of the children, or that they were willing to hire a nanny, if they hired a nanny, I was willing to help them with 3,000 yuan a month.
My son and daughter-in-law both felt uneasy about hiring a nanny, and hoped that I would continue to stay and help them bring their children to kindergarten.
So, I started my career with a baby.
During the period when my daughter-in-law took maternity leave, I was still relatively relaxed, basically I and my daughter-in-law took turns to watch the child, I can also have time to rest, after the daughter-in-law's maternity leave, the child was left to me alone, before the age of one is fine, the child will not walk, easy to bring, I also have time to rest, eating or something is not a big problem, as the child grows older, it will become more and more difficult to bring in the future, as long as she sleeps, you need to follow all the time, sometimes I am busy with food, the old people who have taken children have experienced, Raising children is harder than going to work.
After the child went to kindergarten, I proposed to go back to my hometown, but my son and daughter-in-law said that the child went to kindergarten early and left school, and they couldn't take care of the pick-up and drop-off at work, hoping that I would continue to stay.
Now my little grandson is 10 years old, has been in the fourth grade of primary school, since the child is in the fourth grade, I am much more relaxed, before I used to pick him up and drop him off from school every day, but also panic to prepare three meals a day for him, plus the housework at home, I work very hard every day, but since the child is in the fourth grade, he does not need me to pick up, he can go to school, I am much easier, I plan to wait for my grandson to go to junior high school I will go back to my hometown.
After dinner last night, I just returned to my room, when my son and daughter-in-law suddenly came to me and told me that they were preparing to conceive and have a second child, they said: Now a child is too lonely, Lele (my grandson) is ten years old, just while they are still young, they want to have a second child, whether it is a boy or a girl, you can be a companion with Lele in the future.
I said: I have no objection to you wanting a second child, and I support it, but have you considered how to bring the child in the future?
The daughter-in-law said: Mom, of course, you help us bring it, you see how good you bring Lele, everyone praises you when you see it, you know how polite, you are not picky eaters, and your habits are good, my colleagues envy me.
The son also said: Yes, Mom, you don't feel at ease if you don't bring it to the nanny, there are too many incidents of babysitting abuse reported now, and it's scary to watch.
After listening to the words of my son and daughter-in-law, I was silent for a while and said: "I am 66 years old this year, and I have been helping you take care of your children for 10 years. ”
The son said, "Don't worry, Mom, this time you can help us take the three-year-old to kindergarten, and we will pick it up by ourselves when the time comes." ”
Listening to my son's words, I couldn't stop crying, and I said, "By that time, I will be in my 70s, will I still be able to walk?" If you insist on having a second child, there is no problem, I will pay for you to hire a nanny, and I will not help you take care of the child again. Also, Lele is already old, and now it's easy to take it, you two can handle it, I decided to go back to my hometown tomorrow. ”
My daughter-in-law listened to my words and said, "Mom, it's too selfish for you to say that, how can there be an old man who doesn't help take care of the children?" Besides, don't you still have to follow us sooner or later? ”
I was so disappointed to hear my daughter-in-law say that, I threw them out of my room.
I'm tired and don't want to argue with them, they say I'm selfish or ruthless, and even when I'm old in the future, they can ignore me, no matter what, I won't stay this time to help them with their second child.
People say, I'm not wrong to do this, right?