Since ancient times, parents' love for their children has been deep and long-lasting. There is a saying in the Warring States Policy: "The love of parents for their children is far-reaching." This far-reaching is not only material support, but also guidance and support on the road of children's growth. In this era of rapid change, the responsibility of parents is becoming more and more important. So, how should parents "think far-reaching"?
First, we need to identify the core objectives of the modern education system. Modern education is derived from the Prussian education system, which aims to train a large number of people with basic qualities and select the best elites from them. Therefore, the assessment criteria of the school are often the all-round development of morality, intelligence, physical fitness, art and labor, and the balanced improvement of language, number, English and geography. Such an education system has its rationality, but it also has certain limitations. It places more emphasis on wholeness and universality, while relatively ignoring the uniqueness and differences of each child.
However, social life is a diverse arena. On this stage, each individual has its own unique value and place. Just as everything in the world has its own form and purpose, so do people. Let flowers become flowers, let trees become trees, and let every child shine in the field they are good at, this is the true meaning of education.
Therefore, the greatest responsibility of parents is not to blindly pursue their children's perfection and all-round, but to help and discover their children's interests and talents, and encourage them to work hard and achieve great success in their favorite fields. Such an educational concept is not only a respect for the child's personality, but also a compliance with the laws of education.
In practice, how should parents operate? First of all, we must learn to protect the energy of children and empower them in time. Give encouragement and support to your child when they are frustrated; When children have great ideas, encourage them to be bold; When children do something wrong, tell them it's okay and that it's important to learn from their mistakes; When children have to be the first, tell them that the knowledge and skills they have learned are the most important thing.
At the same time, parents should learn to accept their children's temporary deficiencies and problems. Every child has their own pace and pace of growth, and we can't expect them to do it overnight. Overly demanding demands and frequent denials will only make children feel stressed and frustrated, which in turn will kill their enthusiasm and expectations for life.
True love is about seeing where children can be improved and coming to terms with who they are. This means that we need to embrace our children's imperfections and flaws with an inclusive mindset, and at the same time discover their brilliance and strengths with an appreciative eye. Only in this way can we raise children who are both confident and self-aware.
In addition, parents also need to have patience, guidance, curiosity, and a blessed mindset in the process of educating their children. Patience is because a child's growth is a long process, and we can't rush it; Guidance is because children need our guidance and help in order to better understand themselves and the world; Curiosity is because we need to maintain curiosity and attention to children's growth in order to discover and solve problems in time; The blessing is because we sincerely wish that every child can grow up healthy and happy and realize their own value in life.
Finally, we need to believe that every child has a unique value and meaning. They are like seeds, as long as they are given enough sunshine and rain, they will definitely be able to take root and grow in the soil that suits them. As parents, it is our responsibility to create an environment for them to shine in their own fields.
To sum up, the love of parents is deep in promoting their strengths and avoiding their weaknesses. We respect each child's individuality and differences, and help them discover and develop their own interests and talents. Only in this way can we cultivate children who are both confident and talented, and contribute more value and strength to society. Let's work together and wait for the beautiful moment when every flower blooms!