There are always many people who come to consult me with similar questions, Brother Chuan, how to develop good habits, how to make yourself better and better, more and more efficient in doing things, and stronger and stronger? I think their approach is very right, that is, if they have a problem and can't solve it, they immediately go to see if there are any masters around them, and if there are some people with results, pay to ask him for advice. This is an excellent habit in itself. I was also happy to share my own experience and share some of my own ideas for developing good habits over the years, and they all resonated. Then I thought about a question: why many people have too poor self-control, can't always develop good habits, are used to eating junk food, and are used to wasting time, there are two main reasons: first, he has not seen good things, he has not seen how rich people have results in life, there are no successful examples, and they will naturally fall. Second, he didn't think about how to live a wonderful life at all, he didn't have the concept of "being 100% responsible for himself", and he didn't have the spirit of ownership. Let's talk about the first one first, do you know why most people are used to eating junk food and indulging in junk food in this life? Even if these people know the dangers of eating junk food, and know that indulging in junk short** will make their brains more and more wasteful, he still can't help it. 
What is the root cause? There may be many factors, but the core is actually one, that is, you have not seen what a truly happy life is like, you don't know how happy the life of a rich person is, and you don't know what it is like to live with some truly happy people. So you don't have the concept of "happy life", it's as simple as that. I have repeatedly emphasized a concept in the VIP group before, the power of the environment is infinite. The reason why the bull man is very good is not only because he is very good, but also because his circle is very good. The world does not respect you as a person, but more respects the quality of the circle around you. This is a feeling I have felt very deeply over the years. Being in a high-quality circle is 10,000 times stronger than your own so-called self-discipline, because it is likely that the words of others are that you can make you struggle for 20 years less. Let me ask you a question, suppose that you are living with a group of rich and happy people every day, and they are all focused on making money every day, and they all have the same goal. So when you enter such a circle, they take you to broaden your horizons and experience a wonderful life every day, will you be very happy, will you feel that you are taken care of? So after you have experienced the feeling of "being taken care of very well", will you have a new understanding of life, and will this cognition make you change your behavior? Definitely. Because you've already had this experience, and you know it's been a great experience, you're going to make a change. As a result, you have gradually changed from the state of "habitually complaining and making a mess of your emotions and life" in the past to someone who takes care of others, provides positive energy, and constantly forms "superior relationships". Your life will be turned upside down quickly. See? The core is that you see the good life, you experience it, so you believe, so you change. The logic here is that because you see, you believe, you change. This external force is particularly powerful. If you don't believe your own self-made boss, ask yourself, why did you succeed? A large part of the reason is because there are people around you who make money, there are people in your circle who make a lot of money, and you are influenced by him, so you start making money. That's the core. If you don't have those people to influence you, you don't even know where to go for your so-called "effort". In addition to "see, believe, change", there is a core logic, "believe, change, see". And that's the second point I want to make. You have to take 100% responsibility for your own life, don't expect to rely on others, and don't expect others to think about you, whether it's your partner, your parents, or your children. You have to believe that you are the master of your life, I am the master of your own life, and I have to be responsible for myself. 
Space is limited today, if you want to know more, you can also join my VIP group, and I will only share the core content here. There are a lot of things in it, such as mentality and thinking, and there are ways and means, and it's very interesting.
So the question is, how can ordinary people have a sense of ownership and control over all aspects of their lives? I conclude that there are three directions that can be exerted in total:Be the master of the bodyIf you want to be **, if you want to have a good figure, the core operation is not "keep your mouth shut and open your legs" at all, because these two things are anti-human. Anyone who succeeds by fitness and dieting will eventually be. As I said in the group, what you need is not self-discipline, not eating healthy but unpalatable food, what you need to do most is to find a "healthy comfort zone.""For example, one of the problems faced by most fat people is that their taste buds have been trained by technology and ruthlessness to the threshold is too high. You need more pungent foods such as numb, spicy, and salty to feel refreshed. Once you're aware of this, you'll need to look for natural, unprocessed foods and learn to taste them (e.g. steamed pumpkin, steamed corn). When you taste the deliciousness of these natural foods, you will naturally stop eating those junk foods, and your weight will drop quickly. This does not require self-control, but requires a positive guidance and a lifelong habit. If you can't stick to a habit for a while, it's hard for you to stick to it for a lifetime. And the habits that can make us stick to it for a lifetime must be comfortable, healthy, and natural. 
Be the master of your emotions
How can you tell if a person is the master of their emotions? It's very simple, it depends on whether he is used to socializing**, and whether his emotions will be mobilized by the news at will. There are two most expensive things on the internet: attention and emotion. If you can manage both well, then you play the Internet; If you don't manage it well, then it's just the Internet that will play with you. If you love whoever you love, you hate whoever you hate, and your joys, sorrows and sorrows are controlled by others, then you are a hopeless dog slave. Then you can't be the master of your emotions, your attention doesn't belong to you either, others can pull you as much as they want, then you will naturally become a waste. You know, attention is more precious than gold, and what you pay attention to for a long time, what kind of person you will become. Be the master of your moneyHow can ordinary people become masters of money? There's a simple operation: don't take a dead salary. As long as you accept the concept of taking a dead wage, then you become a slave to money. This dead salary can bury the infinite possibilities of your later life, can tie you to death for the rest of your life, and make you unable to move. On the other hand, once you realize that the money you earn is only related to your talents, efforts, and talents, then all the energy contained in your body will be stimulated.