Among all the founding generals, Admiral Xu Shiyou's temper was notoriously fiery. No matter who he faced, he always followed his own temperament, even his children.
In 1979, Xu Shiyou's anger reached its peak, and he even threatened to expel his daughter from the military and shoot his son. Although "tiger poison does not eat children", what did Xu Shiyou's children do to make him say such things?
General Xu Shiyou is a soldier with a legendary experience who has experienced a hundred battles and has made remarkable achievements in his long revolutionary career. General Xu Shiyou not only had strict requirements for the management of the army, but also treated his family members equally; he lived a simple life, respected the elderly, cared for children, and made a clear distinction between love and hatred, and adhered to both principles and attached importance to affection and righteousness, thus establishing for us a good family style of a revolutionary general.
Xu Shiyou lost his father when he was only six years old, so his memory of his father is very vague. However, he deeply believed that his mother was the greatest person in his life, and that his perseverance, decisiveness, and independence were all given by his mother.
Although Xu Shiyou participated in the revolution and was away from home for decades, he often felt guilty and uneasy about the difficulties he had caused his mother, and often felt guilty for not being able to take care of her personally.
After the founding of the People's Republic of China, Xu Shiyou decided to take her to the army in order to give her a better life for her mother. When Xu Shiyou's mother, who he missed day and night, appeared in front of him, he saw his mother's sparse white hair and curved waist, he immediately ran over and held his mother's hand, knelt on the ground, and shouted, "Mother! ”
The mother stroked her son's hand, pulled him up with all her strength, and said, "Get up, get up, you are a general, how can you kneel to me, an old woman?" ”
Xu Shiyou knelt deeply on the ground and said, "Mother, no matter how big an official I become, I am your son, just let me kneel for a while!" The cadres present were deeply moved by this scene and shed tears of emotion.
Xu Shiyou is not only filial to his mother, but also attaches great importance to affection. His actions show the charisma of a great man and a deep love for his family.
In September 1948, the Battle of Jinan broke out. During this time, Xu Shiyou received a report that a seriously injured death squad member was calling out his name on his deathbed.
When Xu Shiyou heard the news, he immediately went to the hospital to visit the team member. The team member used his last strength and said, "Commander Xu, I'm afraid I can't do it, I have a daughter with congenital heart disease and ...... in Shanghai."However, before the team could finish, they died.
Xu Shiyou held his hand tightly, closed his eyes, and bowed deeply. He then had the names and hometowns of the team members recorded so that they could find his daughter in the future.
Xu Shiyou has always taken this matter to heart. With the liberation of Shanghai, he immediately sent someone to investigate the matter, but unfortunately, due to insufficient information, the daughter of the team member was never found.
I hope you can help me find a martyr's daughter. Huang Chibo said that he would do his best, and despite many searches, he still failed to find the martyr's daughter.
Generally speaking, if you can't find it after trying to find it twice, you will give up, but this does not mean disrespect for the martyrs, and Xu Shiyou did not give up. In April 1959, Xu Shiyou met Huang Chibo again and expressed the hope that he could help him find the martyr's daughter.
Eventually, thanks to the efforts of the Shanghai Public Security Bureau, the martyr's daughter was found. After learning the news, Xu Shiyou was very happy, and he asked the staff to bring candy, biscuits and stationery for studying that the martyr's daughter liked.
Although General Xu Shiyou's temper is hot, he treats the staff around him with love. When the family members of the staff come to visit, he will arrange a dinner party and chat.
Once, I made a mistake and was afraid that he would punish me severely. However, when I asked him for advice, he forgave me and decided that I didn't mean to.
He advised me to learn a lesson and take it as a warning, rather than punish me or divert me. I was deeply touched by his tolerance, and I worked harder and did my duty.
Although General Xu Shiyou has a tolerant side, he treats his work with a clear distinction between public and private.
After Xu Shiyou's grandson Xu Daoyan returned home to farm, he hoped that Xu Shiyou could help him find a job. After Xu Shiyou heard this request, he thought that this was a matter of principle and not a trivial matter that he could handle, so he did not agree to Xu Daoyan's request.
Although Xu Daoyan believed that Xu Shiyou was the commander of the Nanjing Military Region and could easily help him solve the problem, Xu Shiyou firmly said that he could not manage this kind of thing.
General Xu Shiyou rejected the abuse of power and emphasized the importance of the people's power. His grandson, Xu Daoyan, was so influenced by him that he gave up his promising future to return to his hometown to take care of his grandmother and gain a good reputation for his work in the countryside.
Similarly, although Xu Guang was trained by Xu Shiyou to be an excellent naval officer, he chose to return to his hometown to take care of his grandmother, and although he lost the opportunity for promotion, his work in his hometown was also well received.
Their actions all reflect respect for the people and care for their families, which is worth learning from.
In 1956, in order to let Xu Guang take good care of his grandmother, Xu Shiyou transferred him from the navy to work in his hometown Xinxian People's Armed Forces Department, and then transferred to the local government and became the deputy director of the Henan Xinxian People's Congress.
Xu Guang has been in the army for decades, and his position has always stayed at the deputy regiment level, and his position is lower than that of his comrades-in-arms who enlisted in the army at the same time. Although Xu Guang wanted to tell his father several times, he still didn't dare to say it.
Xu Shiyou: Family style is like a mountain, strict self-discipline Xu Shiyou's son Xu Guang was found by his father because of a little dissatisfaction, Xu Shiyou Yan Li warned him to work honestly and not think about what he didn't have.
Although Xu Shiyou has a lot of power, he will never say a word for the promotion and transfer of his children. Xu Guang also accepted the fact that he lived and worked in his hometown, although he had become the deputy director of the county people's congress in the mid-80s, there was not a single decent piece of furniture at home, and he was not hospitalized even if he fell and injured his leg, and he limped when he walked.
Although the world has become colorful, Xu Shiyou's home is still an ancient village. This is Xu Shiyou, he uses practical actions to educate his children, is strict with himself, does not try to be famous, does not greed for pleasure, his family style is like a mountain, which is admirable.
Xu Shiyou gave his son Xu Guang a bag of sweet potatoes planted by himself, hoping that his son could try it. However, Xu Guang looked at the sweet potatoes and said with some hesitation that the food at home was enough, and the sweet potatoes had been used as pigs' food.
After hearing this, Xu Shiyou was a little disappointed, but still told his son to bring some pickles he grew home. Xu Guang nodded, took the pickles and left. Xu Shiyou looked at his son's figure and felt very sad, because he knew that his son might have lost a better future because of his decision.
Although he was filial to his mother and cared for his juniors and guards, in 1979, out of a moment of anger, he threatened to shoot his son and expel his daughter from the army.
Why is that?
In 1979, Xu Shiyou was ordered to go to the eastern front of Vietnam to command the operation, although our army is strong, but the battlefield is changing, and victory is not easy. During this time, he was so engrossed in the war that he had no time to care for his family.
It wasn't until the fighting stabilized that he remembered his family's situation. One day, Xu Shiyou's comrades-in-arms came to visit, and he asked him about the situation at home, but he was surprised.
It turned out that his third daughter Xu Huashan worked in the air force department, which also needed to fight in the self-defense counterattack, but she was on her honeymoon, which made Xu Shiyou unbearable.
He immediately called Xu Huashan and ordered her to return to the army within three days, otherwise she would be expelled from the army. Xu Huashan knew his father's temper well and had no objection to this.
Xu Shiyou and Xu Huashan: Worried and uneasy parent-child relationship Among Xu Shiyou's three sons, he is the most worried and uneasy is his second son Xu Jianjun. After graduating from school, Xu Jianjun inherited his father's business and entered the Qinghai Military Region, but was later imprisoned for violating military discipline.
Although Xu Jianjun's family knew about it, they didn't tell him because they were worried about Xu Shiyou's temper. Xu Shiyou has always thought that his second son is a good soldier who abides by the law.
Until the National Party Congress held in Beijing, a ** leader relayed to Xu Shiyou that his son Xu Jianjun had been arrested for violating military discipline before.
This news surprised Xu Shiyou, he slapped the table and stood up, and roared: "Shoot, you must shoot him!" At that time, everyone attending the meeting was shocked by Xu Shiyou's angry expression and demeanor, and some people even said: "General Xu's expression and demeanor are really frightening, if his son is present, I believe he will definitely pull out his gun!" ”
After Xu Shiyou's family calmed down afterwards, they found that things were not as simple as they thought before. Xu Shiyou was puzzled by Jianjun's performance in the army, and he wondered why Jianjun had changed so quickly.
Xu Shiyou, who had been trained by the party to become a high-ranking general, had very high expectations for his children, sometimes even excessively. He believed that handing over his son to the organization would be like handing over everything to the party, and that he would be best taken care of.
However, he did not expect such a change in the troops. During Xu Shiyou's critical illness, he often looked at familiar and unfamiliar faces in the ward, and his eyes were full of anticipation.
Only a few people know that he is looking for Xu Jianjun, his youngest son. He hadn't seen Jianjun for three years, and as a father, he wanted to see him again when he was dying, and he missed his son.
However, Xu Shiyou did not have time to wait, he must admit that he no longer had that time to wait for his son to arrive. By the time Jianjun arrived from Qinghai, Xu Shiyou had already passed away, which was the regret of the father and son.
The core idea of the new copy is: Xu Shiyou has high expectations for his children, doubts and regrets about the changes in the founding of the army, and he wants to see the founding of the army again when he is dying, but unfortunately, he does not have that time to wait.
Xu Shiyou treats anyone equally, whether it is relatives or children, he never opens the back door for anyone because of personal feelings. In the sixties and seventies of the last century, Xu Shiyou's wife and two nieces were at the age of joining the army, and they came to the door in the hope that their uncle and aunt could help.
However, Xu Shiyou replied with a smile: "You want to be a soldier and contribute to the country, but you must meet the requirements and regulations of recruitment, and you can't go through the back door."
It's useless to come to me, I've never opened a back door for anyone. After hearing this, the two nieces understood that there was no hope, and one of them, who was qualified, became a soldier, and the other returned to his hometown.
General Xu Shiyou's simple life in his later years General Xu Shiyou's life in his later years was very simple, no matter what he went to ** or what he did, he adhered to the habit of being a soldier and did not waste any money.
From March 2 to 7, 1985, the third meeting of the East China Group of the Central Advisory Committee was held at the Jinjiang Hotel in Shanghai, and General Xu Shiyou was arranged to the 1615 "** Suite", which is a luxury suite specially designed for the reception of ** from all over the world.
However, no matter how luxuriously decorated and how noble the furniture was, General Xu Shiyou could not look at it, and he said: "I can't sleep on such a soft bed, so change me to a wooden bed." ”
Sleeping on a plank bed in a ** suite, like never before. After the meeting, the leaders of Shanghai invited everyone to stay at the Jinjiang Hotel for a few more days, but after lunch, General Xu Shiyou asked the secretary to pack his luggage and said: "Move quickly, it's too wasteful to live here." ”
After speaking, he took the car to the Yan'an Hotel in Shanghai.
Xu Shiyou is a frugal person who dresses plainly. He wore a military uniform all year round, and if the cuffs of his shirt were off, he would continue to wear them. Even when he received the new uniform, he felt uncomfortable wearing it, and he needed to wash it twice and rub it with a washboard before he could accept it.
He only wore troop-issued thread socks and high cloth socks, and never wore ** or nylon socks. His shoes were also mostly round-mouthed black cloth shoes issued by the troops, although he did not like to wear cloth shoes, but this was because one of his comrades wore captured leather shoes on the battlefield and died because he wasted time by tying his shoes.
In the summer, he would ask people to go to the army garment factory to buy strips of cloth and come back to make straw sandals by himself, which were made of strips of cloth instead of grass. He never goes to the store, and he uses whatever toothbrush and toothpaste the staff buys him.
His frugality and simplicity have won him respect and praise.
During Xu Shiyou's time in Beijing, the ** Military Commission provided him with an imported Mercedes-Benz car, but he never used it. During his stay in Nanjing, Xu Shiyou always insisted on using the most ordinary jeep, and because of his physical condition and the comfort of the vehicle, the head of the Nanjing Military Region specially transferred an imported car with air conditioning.
originally thought that he would be very happy, but no matter how the staff persuaded him, he always insisted on refusing to take this high-end car, and even scolded the staff, "I already have a car, why do you want to give me such a high-end one?" ”
The staff was curious about the car and planned to take it for a test drive, but was reprimanded by Xu Shiyou, "You are advanced enough, go and sit, I won't sit." ”
Xu Shiyou resolutely refused to let the high-end car stay in his residence and insisted that it be returned to the military region. Due to the hard life, Xu Shiyou is not particular about his diet, he eats any dish, but he only has a soft spot for wine.
After the Spring Festival in 1985, Xu Shiyou was diagnosed with advanced liver cancer, and his life was about to come to an end. After learning the news, Xu Huashan immediately returned to Nanjing, and when she saw her father, Xu Shiyou said to her: "Son, Dad's situation is not very good, and Dad's death is dying." ”
Xu Huashan held back his tears and said to his father: "Dad, you will definitely be able to overcome the disease, and the doctors will definitely cure you." However, Xu Shiyou just shook his head, he said: "This time is different from before, Dad is going to see Marx soon, Dad has a hunch." ”
Soon after, Xu Shiyou's condition worsened, and one day, the medical staff suddenly found half a bottle of wine under the sofa in Xu Shiyou's ward, and they strengthened their supervision of Xu Shiyou for the sake of Xu Shiyou's safety.
A few days later, they found a suspicious military coat hanging in the bathroom, with a bottle of wine hidden inside, which had been opened and drunk. After the news of Xu Shiyou's serious illness came out, old comrades-in-arms came to visit him in an endless stream, but they couldn't get close to him, so they could only look at him from a distance through the glass.
At this time, Xu Shiyou no longer had the strength to open his eyes, but Xu Huashan saw his father's fingers move under the sheet. In the past, when Xu Shiyou saw his comrades-in-arms who he hadn't seen for many years, he always liked to hold each other's hands tightly and often shook those generals loudly.
Later, many people didn't dare to shake hands when they saw Xu Shiyou, but just smiled and hugged their fists: "* No courtesy!" Now, Xu Shiyou can't shake hands with his comrades-in-arms, and he has lost a way to connect with each other.
At 16:57 on October 22, 1985, General Xu Shiyou passed away at the age of 80.