Now there are more and more divorced couples, and in 2021, there will be more than 2.83 million divorces in my country, with an average of about 150,000 people.
At the same time, the number of married couples is only 7.64 million, which means that for every three couples who get married, one divorces.
I think this is mainly due to the following 5 reasons.
First, the cost of running a family is high.
It's not easy to raise a family now, and if you want to get married, you have to prepare a house and a car, and most people need parental support to pay for these expenses.
And if you plan to have a child, then you also have to prepare a series of miscellaneous expenses such as milk powder, tuition, clothes and snacks, these are still the most basic, if it is a middle-class family in a big city, then you have to enroll your child in interest classes, cram schools, and the cost of raising a child is really not cheap.
Someone has calculated that raising a child to the age of 18 in a first-tier city will cost at least 1 million yuan.
No matter how good the relationship between the husband and wife is, if the income is not high, and the family cannot give support, then the life of the two will definitely not be easy, and quarrels over firewood, rice, oil and salt are also common, and it is certain that they will divorce after a long time.
Second, there is less personal dependence on the family.
In the past, the marriage rate of the parents' generation was high, and there were almost no divorces, which was largely due to the restrictions of the times.
When the husband goes out to farm, the wife also has to do all kinds of trivial chores at home, and it can be said that such a family cannot be separated from anyone.
But times are advancing, and today's young men and women can live well alone, they can order takeout if they don't know how to cook, and both men and women can find suitable jobs to earn income, and they no longer need to rely on another person to live.
Third, the conflict between the freedom of singleness and family responsibilities.
Many married friends will complain that after getting married, they will have a lot less freedom, and at the same time, their income will not be able to spend their money at will.
When you are single, you can feed the whole family and not go hungry, and you can spend your salary however you want, without thinking about family expenses.
At the same time, it is also more free, and I want to stay at home all weekend to play games and watch movies, and I don't have to worry about my other half.
If you have a child, it is definitely impossible, you have to take your child out shopping, and you may have to get up in the middle of the night to change diapers at a young age, which is unacceptable to many people.
Some people underestimate the negative impact of marriage and no longer have a life of their own, so they choose to divorce and pursue freedom.
Fourth, the development of the Internet is more likely to bring about extramarital affairs.
The development of the Internet has narrowed the relationship between people, and when you open your mobile phone, you are rich and handsome per capita, and compared with the family, all kinds of troubles are non-stop, and the appearance of the object is not high.
If you talk a few more words with such a mentality, it will not be surprising to break through the moral constraints of marriage and cheat.
Fifth, the contradictions caused by hasty marriages.
Many years ago, men and women did not deeply examine each other's personalities, families, and values before they got married, and they chose to marry hastily simply because they were carried away by love.
After getting married, you find that your personalities are not compatible, your values are different, and your family burden is heavy, which are all important factors that may lead to divorce.
For example, one party's consumption concept never saves, as long as there is money, they buy the clothes and shoes they want, and they want to eat, but the other half is used to saving money and never spend unnecessary money, then such a couple will definitely not last long.
People's values and personalities are basically formed in adulthood, and it is basically unrealistic to want to accommodate each other to change, and these incompatible ones will definitely become frequent and eventually divorce.
Having said so much, I hope that friends who are not married should choose their marriage partners carefully, and married friends should be more tolerant in their lives, so that the marriage can come to an end. Kunpeng Project