In addition to the lack of concentration in learning and homework, playing with toys is also one of the most common troubles mentioned by most parents.
"Children often like the new and hate the old, clamoring to buy new toys, and only have a fresh day when they get their hands. ”"There are a lot of toys at home, and children spend more time choosing than playing! ”These situations occur in most families. Children play with toys are always hot for three minutes and can't maintain good concentration, what is wrong? What should parents do?"Sometimes you want your child to play quietly by himself, but he always comes to the adults every once in a while, and sometimes he wants to get involved, and he ignores you.
Today, I will share with you 3 things in toys, parents can use them as a reference, so that children can be more focused when playing with toys, and exercise better concentration!
Too many toys can be distracting
The American child psychologist Jeanette once said, "Toys are children's words." ”
It's like an adult reading a book, many times the more books you have, the less you finish reading, and it's more decorative than practical.
Children play with toys, the same is true, not the more the better, should be "rather lacking than excessive", should let children play to the fullest, play thoroughly.
Psychologist Barry Schwartz once did an experiment:
First, he randomly divided the children into two groups and drew freely.
The first group of children can choose 1 of 3 brushes, and the second group can choose 1 of 24 brushes.
As a result, the children in group 1 with less selectivity drew better than those in group 2.
The experimenter then asked the children to choose a favorite pen, and then tried to convince the children to abandon the pen they had chosen and choose another pen.
The results showed that children in group 2 – who had more choices – were more likely to give up their choices
Schwartz argues that choosing more children is more likely to be distracted and easier to give up.
In the same way, when a child has too many toys, it is easy to cause the child to be at a loss, difficult to concentrate, and cherish the toy.
Control the number of toys and give your child the right choice
When parents see the above content, they may say that the family will prepare a toy for the child at a time, and wait until he is completely tired of playing with it before buying a new one.
It can't be so absolute.
First of all, children have curiosity and desire to explore new things, so when they find new toys in places such as shopping malls, they will clamoring to buy them, which is a normal state of mind.
Parents should properly control it, if they are too strong and refuse, it will often lead to more conflicts.
Although three minutes of heat is not good, it is not necessary to control the child to play with only one toy for a period of time.
It is the best choice to flexibly change the child's thinking within a controllable range, and exercise several abilities at the same time, without exceeding the child's attention burden.
Therefore, it is recommended to control the number of toys within 5 kinds, so that children can choose, but not overly distracted.
Considering that interest is the basis of attention, parents also need to change toys for their children regularly. It's like a museum"Every once in a while, change some exhibits".
At this time, the child will have a sense of freshness and get a different way of playing.
Each type of toy should be used to the fullest extent possible, so that it will bring more satisfaction to children and give more room for growth.
Play with children, parents don't "steal the show".
Experimental observations have proved that when adults play with children, excessive "stealing the show" is not conducive to the development of children's concentration.
For example: excessive explanation of the rules of the game, interference with children's free play, setting up rules, excessive exaggeration of facial expressions, etc.
And this is precisely the minefield that many parents touch.
Of course, compared with excessive attention, parents' "pretending to be companionship" is not conducive to the development of children's concentration.
For example, a parent holds a mobile phone, sits next to the child, chats and scrolls through the web page to watch**, thinking that he has been with the child for a long time, and has done a good job.
In fact, when parents do this, it is more difficult for children to concentrate on toys, let alone learn to do homework.
That's why we say that high-quality companionship is effective companionship, otherwise it will destroy the child's concentration.
Therefore, when accompanying children to play with toys, what parents need to do is very simple: let go of your experience and understanding, and recognize the child's own ideas and play. Not to disturb, not to interfere, is the greatest respect and protection.