In traditional Chinese culture, the seventh day after the death of an elderly person is called the "first seven". The first seven days are a solemn and sacred moment, on this day, family members will hold a solemn memorial ceremony, including the preparation of offerings, tomb sweeping, paper burning, etc., to express respect and deep friendship for the deceased. On the first seven days, the soul of the old man is still wandering in the world, and it needs to be worshiped and revered in order to fulfill his wishes in life.
However, in modern society, we should respect the beliefs and customs of others and judge them on a case-by-case basis. If the family members have special beliefs and customs, for example, the first seven may have some special customs, such as sacrificial rituals, eating customs, burning paper money and paper ties, hanging lanterns, and vigils, etc., then these customs should be respected and followed.
However, on the first seven days, we also have to pay attention to some taboos and exquisiteness.
First of all, the first seven are a day of mourning, and we should not be too festive or optimistic. It is advisable to keep a low profile on this day, avoid lively events, and do not wear clothes that are too brightly colored.
Secondly, the first seven days are the seventh day of the death of a loved one, and although we miss them very much, we should not be too sad. After all, the dead are gone, and the living should be strong in facing life. Therefore, on the first seven days, we should try to maintain a calm mood and avoid excessive sadness.
Furthermore, on the first seven days, we should try to avoid going to the cemetery or attending funerals and other sad occasions. If you can't avoid it, keep your emotions in check and don't let yourself get too excited or sad.
Finally, the first seven are also a day of reflection. It is a day to reflect on the lives of our loved ones, to reflect on the precious wealth they have left us, and to reflect on our own attitudes and values towards life. This can make us cherish the life in front of us more and love life more.
In conclusion, although the first seven is a special day, there are also some taboos that we need to pay attention to. We should respect traditional customs and express our nostalgia for our loved ones, while also maintaining a peaceful mind and facing life bravely.