Fan Xiaobai left a message in the background:
I have been married for 3 years and have a child under 1 year old, I met a man some time ago, and in the process of getting along with him, I feel that he is the person I really love.It is a very happy thing to meet "true love".But he and I both have our own families, and now we can only secretly interact behind our backs, but I am not satisfied with this life now, I am miserable, what should I do?
If you are a single man or woman, I would generally advise them to be bold and seize happiness.
If one party has a family or both have a family, I would give them four words of advice.
Love should be open
Don't talk about shady love, true love is frank and open.
Bad feelings are not necessarily unsightly, but feelings that are not visible must be bad feelings.
Just look at the entertainment industry, the celebrities officially announce their romance openly, even if not all fans can accept it, but the attitude of the celebrities who officially announced their romance towards their feelings is still recognized.
Just like the once top male star who posted a high-profile official announcement of his girlfriend at his peak, "Hello everyone, let me introduce to you, this is my girlfriend", the original infamy has now become a blessing to them on the whole network, and you can also praise a sentence of "real masters".
On the contrary, those celebrities who hide and pretend to be single are obviously lovers, and they still have to be "single" and "just friends", which makes people unappetizing.
I once saw such a paragraph:
If your boyfriend is unwilling to open up about your relationship, it is nothing more than these 2 reasons: 1. You are too ugly; 2. He is leaving a way back for himself.
Although it is a joke, there is some truth to it. Feelings that do not see the light are dangerous feelings, hurting others and hurting oneself.
We all demand to be open and honest in life, so why hide it emotionally?
Fair and honest feelings are not only an attitude, but also a sense of security for lovers and themselves.
Paper can't hold the fire
There are two biggest illusions about extramarital affairs: "he loves me" and "I won't be discovered".
When cheating for the first time, most people will be more panicked. When his outrageous behavior is not discovered, he will be happy again, and after repeating it again and again, the pressure in his heart is much less, and he begins to have a fluke mentality, feeling that his derailment will not be discovered.
However, paper can't contain fire after all.
Once or twice, you may not show your feet, but if you do it too many times, you will not only become addicted, but also bring disaster to your family.
Especially now in the Internet era, the cost of derailment is smaller, but the risk is also higher, and a mobile phone can pull out all traces of derailment.
I remember that there is a movie called "Mobile Phone", the male protagonist's house is full of red flags, and the colorful flags are fluttering outside, but he cleans up the traces of derailment every time.
As a result, one day, the male owner left his mobile phone at home, and now his wife directly discovered his opening information with a strange woman. The derailment was still exposed. What's even more ridiculous is that after the divorce, the male protagonist immediately started the second spring, and he still couldn't control the heart of cheating, but this time the derailment was discovered by his girlfriend because of his mobile phone.
The male protagonist chose to shut down in order to avoid emotional problems, but he didn't expect to miss the news of his grandmother's death because of the shutdown, and the whole person fell into a collapse, which is embarrassing.
So, if you want not to be discovered, the only way is not to do it.
Children are the most innocent
Some time ago, I saw such a news, a woman called the police to say that her husband was living illegally with others and gave birth to a son and a daughter. After the police visited and investigated, they learned that the woman and her husband Wang got married in 1990, but in 2009, Wang met another woman, and then settled with the woman in other places in the name of husband and wife.
After obtaining effective and important evidence, the police detained Wang on the grounds that Wang was suspected of bigamy.
I thought it was just a cheating, but I didn't expect to end up in the bureau, which is purely self-inflicted. There are more than 10,000 messages in the comment area, and no one sympathizes with Wang, but they all sympathize with Wang and the original child.
Cheating is a disgraceful thing, and the child not only has to face the gossip of the people around him, but also has such an unreliable biological father.
In the future, I want to take the public examination at work, but I can't pass the review when I see that my father has an illegal record. When I fell in love in life, when the other party heard that his future father-in-law had broken the law, who didn't sigh in his heart.
When you bring a child into this world, you are destined to no longer be able to do what you want, you are responsible for not only yourself, but also another life.
Therefore, if the opposite sex loves each other, if they have families, think more about their children.
True love is giving
Why do many people think that people cheat just to find passion, and not believe that it is for true love?
Because love is a responsibility, a kind of giving.
Zhang Ailing once said: I love you and am willing to give everything for you.
But cheating people often taste the sweetness given by others: companionship, sweet words, time, and even money ......Under these "sugar-coated shells", people tend to lose themselves, covet these warmth but think they are in love with him, and others use these to seduce you but think that others are in love with you.
The fragile feelings that come with this exchange will disappear once exposed to the sun.
It takes effort to love someone, and even to be ready to do it when you have nothing but are still willing to do it.
When you have an affair outside of marriage, think about whether you give more or taste the sweetness in this relationship, and whether you are willing to pay for the other party?
A hundred years of repair can be crossed in the same boat, and a thousand years of repair can be slept together.
The two voluntarily became husband and wife, which is a great fate in this life.
Time flies, feelings are changeable, if you are really disappointed in this relationship and want to pursue new happiness, then please don't hurt others, don't hurt yourself.
I hope that everyone can be responsible for themselves and encourage each other.