Wen Qiaomu.
In interpersonal interactions, there are occasional situations of over-entanglement, which may come from friendship, affection, or emotional relationships.
For this situation, it is necessary to find a suitable way to deal with it in order to protect your own boundaries without hurting the feelings of others.
1. Verbal refusal:
Verbal refusal is a direct and clear way of expressing one's wishes and positions in an effective way to stop pestering.
For example, when others frequently interrupt or overexpress their feelings, you can tactfully but firmly express your disagreement or rejection.
Verbal rejection is often seen as a more polite and mature way of dealing with it.
For example, in a relationship, if the other person expresses too much affection or pays too much attention to you, you can express your position and needs appropriately so that the other person understands your thoughts and feelings, so as to avoid further entanglement.
However, stern rejection also needs to take into account the other person's feelings, and try to avoid hurting the other person's self-esteem or causing unnecessary conflict.
Therefore, while expressing rejection, it is possible to give understanding and support to the other party appropriately, so that the other party can feel your kindness and respect.
2. Ignore it:
Ignoring is a relatively negative way of coping, usually by ignoring the other person's actions or messages, to achieve the goal of reducing entanglement.
For example, when the other party makes frequent calls** or sends text messages, you can choose not to reply or answer for the time being, to show that you don't want to be disturbed.
Ignoring them is usually seen as a form of indifference or impoliteness.
Traditionally, people focus more on communication and respect for each other, and ignoring them may be perceived as a sign of disrespect for the other person.
However, in some cases, ignoring can also be an effective way to cope.
For example, ignoring the other person's behavior can help you keep your distance and calm when your behavior has seriously violated your boundaries or caused unnecessary distress, and it can also make the other person realize that your excessive behavior is unacceptable.
3. Block and delete:
Blocking and deletion is a more extreme way to deal with it, usually by blocking or deleting the other person from social ** or communication tools to completely cut off contact with the other party.
This approach is often seen as a last resort and is only used when the other person's actions have seriously affected their lives or caused irreconcilable conflicts.
Blocking and deletion is seen as a relatively indifferent and irresponsible behavior. Traditionally, people have a greater focus on maintaining relationships and problem-solving, and blocking and deletion may be seen as a sign of evasion of responsibility.
However, in some cases, blocking deletion can also be a necessary option.
For example, when the other party's behavior has seriously violated their own boundaries or poses a threat to themselves, blocking and deleting can help you protect your own safety and interests, and it can also give the other party a clear signal that your behavior is unacceptable.
Emotional coaching: When dealing with a situation of excessive entanglement, we need to choose the appropriate way according to the specific situation and the behavior of the other person.
Verbal rejection can help us articulate our position and needs while respecting the other person's feelings; Ignoring can allow us to keep our distance and calm for a while, while giving the other person a warning; Blocking and deletion is a last resort and should only be used when necessary.
Whichever way you choose, you need to respect the feelings and dignity of the other person, while also protecting your own boundaries and interests.
With the right coping style, you can effectively deal with over-entanglement situations and maintain your interpersonal relationships and mental health.
Thank you for your love, I am Qiao Mu, the author of millions of leopard prints, a professional emotional counselor, focusing on intimate relationship repair, emotional marriage recovery.