Marriage is inseparable from the fireworks in the world, and the natural taste is mixed, full of sweet and sour.
From the moment they entered their marriage, the two began to run in with each other, adapt to each other, and stumble.
Along the way, it is destined to be a noisy and tortuous process.
But some marriages, like adhesives with excellent performance, seem to be inseparable no matter how noisy they are.
Marriage is deeply contradictory, the two are extremely incompatible, they are constantly arguing, and often cold wars, in which the two can also suffer.
So why do they still refuse to give up their marriage?
Couples don't feel good and don't want to divorce, the reason is generally these two kinds, which is very realistic.
Reluctance to give up sunk costs.
Marriage often requires a lot of time, energy, money, and emotional investment.
A large amount of cost investment not only increases the happiness of marriage security, but also increases the cost of divorce.
No matter when you pay, it is your own effort, often unable to take it back, the bigger it is, the more distressed it will be when you lose it.
Sunk costs, i.e., costs that cannot be recovered and are no longer meaningful to themselves.
Therefore, when there are problems in the marriage, they often have to choose to maintain the status quo and continue to increase the costs because they are afraid of losing the costs they have put in.
Because they believe that if they get divorced, all their efforts and sacrifices will be in vain, and the economy may also suffer huge losses.
Because of this mentality, they would rather get married and remain silent than divorce.
In a relationship, silence means that there is an emotional estrangement, and it is difficult to interact again.
Once love is extinguished, it is often difficult to rekindle it.
If you don't want to pay sunk costs and barely maintain the status quo, you can't stop losses in time.
As costs continue to increase, there will only end up with more and more sunk costs.
There is no better option at the moment.
Some marriages, the appearance is to be completed by one person, but the inside, it has long been full of holes.
At this time, the existence of marriage does not depend on how deep the feelings between two people are, it may just be that they have no better choice for the time being.
Therefore, even if you know that the current marriage is not ideal, you still occupy it and are unwilling to give the other person freedom.
While maintaining the status quo, while searching for ideals, they just rode a donkey to find a horse, and the existing marriage was just a spare tire.
Such a noisy marriage, to outsiders, seems to be very strong.
When one day one partner meets what they think is true love, marriage can be a destructive trend and quickly disintegrate.
In the face of sufficiently powerful external forces, this nominal marriage is simply vulnerable.
Sakura message. When it is clear that there are irreconcilable differences in a marriage, it is important to seriously consider whether or not to continue.
lest the other party just use the nominal marriage to delay time, form a paralyzing effect on you, and do something harmful to your interests.
If two people are destined to not go to the end, it is the best choice to stop losses in time.
While divorce is painful for a while, it is difficult to accept in the short term.
But an unhappy marriage will only cause you more and more internal friction, which not only damages your physical and mental health, but also cannot bring you the happiness you want.
A truly mature and wise person should have the ability to move on, and only by picking it up and putting it down can he become a better version of himself and have better luck.