The reason for the estrangement between the child and the grandmother**, the reason behind the non-filial piety!
Instructions. When older people get together, the conversation is inevitably inseparable from grandchildren. They complain that their grandchildren, their grandchildren, their relatives, their feelings, their affections, are all deprived. This is not to say that they are not filial, but it has other meanings. In order to better understand this situation, the old women analyzed the factors that caused this psychological transformation on a psychological level, and also explored ways to improve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Grandma's influence.
Grandmothers say that some of their grandchildren's mothers don't like them and often speak ill of them in front of them, which causes them to be disrespectful. This makes the grandmothers both sad and helpless. I have the impression that the daughter-in-law always accuses them of being nosy and not allowing their grandchildren to visit. In such an environment, grandmothers feel that they cannot establish a real bond with their grandchildren.
In order to change this situation, the old women decided to actively communicate with the mothers of their grandchildren, so that they would not say that they were not in front of their children. Grandmothers want to feel their grandchildren's love and often bring their own children to their grandchildren. Grandmothers are also happy to communicate with their grandchildren in their own way, such as giving gifts to their grandchildren, inviting them to dinner, and strengthening their relationship.
Differences of interest. When grandchildren grow up, their interests will be different from those of their grandmothers, and it will be difficult for them to have a common language. Grandma feels that they are getting older, and grandchildren are more willing to be with friends, which creates a rift in the relationship between husband and wife.
Therefore, grandmothers have made a great determination to educate their grandchildren in filial piety for a long time, so that they can learn to understand and respect their elders. They feel that telling their grandchildren more about the difficulties of the elderly makes them more understanding and caring for the elderly. At the same time, grandmothers should also learn to be tolerant of their grandchildren's busy work and life, and minimize their dependence on their grandchildren.
Intergenerational understanding. Grandma knew that maintaining a long-term bond with her grandchildren could not be based on external forces alone, but should be about getting to know each other from generation to generation. In order to empathize with their grandchildren, the grandmothers decided to talk to their grandchildren about the difficulties and loneliness of the elderly. At the same time, grandmothers should also learn to be considerate and tolerant of their grandchildren's busy lives, rather than being overly harsh on them.
Grandmothers hope that through their own demonstrations and demonstrations, their grandchildren will know how to respect their elders and pass on their love to the next generation. The two elderly said that they did not do well enough, and hoped that their children and grandchildren would understand and understand.
Deathbed words. Through the confession and ** of the three old women, we can not only understand the confusion and sadness in the hearts of the old women, but also understand the efforts and perseverance made by the two old women to improve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Older grandmothers want to be close to their grandchildren, but they also understand that their grandchildren are busy with work and their interests are changeable. My grandmother wants her grandchildren to understand and respect her, and at the same time, she wants her grandchildren to pay more attention to her life and work, so that they can strengthen their relationship.
As a grandchild, we should pay more attention to grandma's feelings, understand grandma more, communicate with grandma more, and let grandma feel our love for grandma. In this process, we should respect the will of our grandmother, not too much restraint on our grandmother's life, and give our grandmother more freedom and respect.
Only when two generations understand each other, respect each other, and care for each other, can a lasting and close bond be established and passed on from generation to generation. The expectations and efforts of grandmothers are something we can never forget. Let's work together to make grandma feel cared for and make our relationship closer and warmer.