Recently, the term "people-pleasing personality" has suddenly become popular, and it sounds like the complete opposite of the "people-pleasing personality" that always panders to others and wrongs oneself. People with a perverse personality put their feelings and needs first, dare to refuse any unreasonable demands, and do not overly wronged themselves in order to fulfill others.
To be honest, when I first heard this word, many people were not interested in such people, and even hated them a little. But after in-depth understanding, people found that their lives can be lived in an orderly manner, which is quite enviable. They dare to express their ideas, dare to pursue their own happiness, and will not compromise because of other people's eyes or expectations.
Why does everyone want to become a "nasty personality"? There could be many reasons behind this. Due to the accelerated pace of work and life, there are many times when you need to show your ability and value. If we always pander to others and dare not express our thoughts and opinions, then we are likely to lose a lot of opportunities and even make our lives mediocre.
In addition, each of us has our own emotions and needs, and if we always grieve ourselves for the sake of others, then over time, we will feel tired and lost. And people with a bad personality know how to take care of their feelings and needs and do not let themselves fall into endless grievances and pain.
Of course, there are also people who feel that people with a bad personality are a bit selfish and ruthless. But in fact, this is not selfishness, but a kind of responsibility and care for oneself. Only when we take care of ourselves first can we better care for others and let others feel our sincerity and enthusiasm.
I've had the experience of always pandering to others and not daring to express my own ideas. At that time, I always felt that "I can't do it" and "I can't do it", and I didn't dare to pursue my dreams and goals. But then I realized that this kind of life was not what I wanted. I began to learn to refuse some unreasonable demands, began to express my thoughts and opinions, and began to pursue my own happiness.
Of course, that doesn't mean I'm ruthless or selfish. On the contrary, when people dare to express themselves and dare to pursue their own happiness, their relationships with others become more harmonious and sincere. Because people no longer grieve themselves in order to pander to others, but show their thoughts and feelings authentically.
"Bad personality" is not a derogatory term, but a positive attitude towards life. It allows us to dare to face our hearts, dare to pursue our own happiness, and dare to show our abilities and values. Of course, this does not mean that we should completely ignore the feelings and needs of others, but that we should take care of ourselves before caring for others.
There is no right or wrong way to be a "people-pleaser" or a "bad-pleaser." It is important that you find an attitude towards life that suits you, so that you can live a more authentic, free and happy life. Don't always pander to others, don't always wronged yourself, be brave enough to pursue your dreams and goals to make your life more exciting and meaningful.
"Bad personality" is not a derogatory term, but a positive attitude towards life. It makes us more mindful of our feelings and needs, and makes us more courageous in facing life's challenges and difficulties. Of course, we must also learn to care for others on the basis of taking care of ourselves, so as to make the world a better and warmer place. So, don't be afraid to be a "bad person", as long as you dare to be yourself and dare to pursue happiness, you are the best.