The Tang Dynasty poet Li Shangyin once wrote in his poem: "There has never been a long rope tied to the sun, and the water goes to the clouds and returns to hatred." ”
The water goes back to the clouds, the stars move around, and we can never stop the passage of time.
In a blink of an eye, the Spring Festival holiday has ended.
Looking forward to the reunion moment of the year, it switches into separation between busyness and noise.
The scenes of parting are tearful.
There is a kind of love in this world, the car has gone away, and the parents are still watching.
Every time I leave home, after the car starts, the figure of my mother never disappears in the rearview mirror.
On my mother's apron, it seems that there is still the smell of the New Year, and this smell will linger in my memory for a long time.
The so-called parents are probably the ones who are constantly happy and sad at your back, and want to get back the hug but don't dare to say anything.
According to the latest data released by the National Bureau of Statistics, at the end of 2023, China's population aged 60 and above exceeded 2900 million people, accounting for 21 percent of the country's population1%, and of these, empty nesters account for more than half.
Studies have shown that by 2030, there will be 200 million empty nesters, all of whom will suffer from unpredictable loneliness.
All the love in this world is for being together, only the love of parents is destined to be a drifting separation.
The fate between us and our parents,
It's not as long as you think
There is such a line in the movie "After the End": "Every time you say goodbye, it's better to push harder, one more sentence may be the last sentence, and one more look may be the last one." ”
In 2018, Kang Hui's mother passed away, and the moment his mother closed her eyes, Kang Hui was not by her side, but waited at the airport.
In the 10 years when her mother was sick, because of her busy work, Kang Hui could only spend a handful of time by her side.
He recalls that his mother was always the one who looked out for him, and at the end of each call, he would always say, "You're busy with you." ”
These details, in retrospect, have become an unforgettable pain for him.
When sorting out his mother's belongings, Kang Hui deliberately left a mother's sweater.
It was a sweater that my mother had knitted for herself.
When he misses his mother, he puts his sweater on his body, Kang Hui said, as if his mother hugged him.
Kang Hui recalled that after his mother's death, he suddenly found out later that there was not a single photo with his mother in the photo album of his mobile phone.
At that time, he always thought that the future would be long, and some time was a group photo, but he forgot that the world was impermanent, and in the end he could only synthesize a special group photo by himself.
In "A Sacrifice to Mother, Not a Sacrificial Text", Kang Hui wrote: "When people reach middle age, an accident like this is not an accident, but no matter what kind of psychological preparation is made, there is still too much pain, too much reluctance and regret at that moment. ”
We always want to wait until our career is successful, and then we can accompany our parents to enjoy family fun.
Only forget the cruelty of the years, time never waits for anyone.
After the birth of his twin children, Sa Beining sent his first WeChat message to his mother.
Mom, your two little grandchildren have been born, and you're going to be a grandmother. ”
But this news is like a pebble thrown into the sea, and it is destined to get no response.
Because his mother has died.
After her mother died, Sa Beining opened the chat history with her mother and wanted to listen to her mother's voice again, but she couldn't find a voice.
Recalling the night his mother died, he suddenly realized that he had done one thing wrong all along:
I always thought that making my mother proud of me was the greatest gift I could give her, but I later realized that I hadn't had time to give my biggest gift - that is, to spend more time with her while she was still with me. ”
Parents don't really want much, just a little companionship from their children.
I have heard a saying: "In this world, all love points to reunion, but the love of parents points to separation." ”
In fact, growing up is a send-off, and when we understand it, even saying goodbye becomes a luxury.
Don't represent this era to weed out your parents
Wang Shuo wrote a passage in "Letter to My Daughter": "When I was a child, I was afraid of my parents, and when I was older, I began to annoy them; Later, it was the tip of the needle to the wheat mang, and they quarreled when they met; Later, he looked down on them and avoided them; Later, when I thought of them, I felt sad. ”
There is a topic on Zhihu: When did you start thinking that your parents were old?
A high praise replied:"It's when they stop calling the shots in everything, but are careful to consult me; It's when they face this new world and are at a loss. ”
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As a child, have you ever had such a problem?
You are in a meeting, and suddenly your parents send many WeChat voices of tens of seconds;
Before you finished your sentence, your parents hung up in a hurry** because they felt that the call time would be overcharged;
When you have something to call your parents, their ** don't answer for a long time, and you don't even get through to your parents** a few times.
These seemingly trivial things always make you emotional in an instant.
Tsinghua talented girl Liu Huining once told a story about herself and her mother.
For a while, she was very busy.
But her mother likes to send long voices. Every time I open WeChat, there is a series of unread red dots. Once she couldn't stand it anymore, and said angrily: "Mom, can you stop pronouncing the voice, it's very slow, and it will delay my time." ”
The mother was staggered, and she instantly regretted it.
Many elderly people like to make voices, because they are not only pale, but also have blank vision, typing, and their eyes will be very uncomfortable.
A lot of old people send voices, and there is nothing important, they just want to talk to their children.
When we were young, our parents lifted us to see the world; When I grew up, I accidentally lived as a vague shadow behind us.
Remember, when you were very young and didn't know how to walk, what was a common saying?
Mom and Dad, wait for me. ”
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Later, as we grew up, we went farther and farther and flew higher and higher, but we couldn't wait for our parents, thinking they were too slow.
Very much agree with the sentence:"Don't represent this era to weed out your parents, help them, accept them, is the best gift we can give them. ”
Between parents and children, multiple understandings are filial piety; More thoughtfulness is warmth; More tolerance is happiness.
Every day with my parents,
All are worth cherishing
After the writer Shi Tiesheng was paralyzed in both legs, his temper became furious.
And his mother also suffered from liver pain, but she didn't dare to show half of it in front of her son.
When Shi Tiesheng smashed the things around him, his mother retreated outside the door and quietly observed her son's movements. When he calmed down, he comforted him softly: "Let's live a good life...... mother."”
When Shi Tiesheng turned his wheelchair to the altar of earth to ponderThere are always shoe prints that my mother quietly follows beside the ruts I walked by.
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In "Me and the Altar of Earth", he remembers his mother:
At that time, her son was too young to think about his mother, and he was overtaken by fate, thinking that he was the most unfortunate one in the world, and did not know that his son's misfortune was always doubled by his mother. ”
The tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, and the child wants to raise but does not wait.
Parents are here, and there is still a place to come in life; When your parents go, there is only one way back in life.
Since then, the world has been pouring rain, and no one has carried too much for you, only to understand that the definition of loneliness is not that there is no one to accompany you, but those who no longer have their future.
When a man went out to eat, he saw an old man sitting next to him who looked very similar to his deceased mother, and the man stepped forward to grab the old man's hand and knelt on the ground and wept bitterly.
The old man was frightened by the strange man's actions, and she stood still, motionless, overwhelmed, and unaware of what had happened.
The young man's companion explained that his friend had mistaken the old man for his deceased mother, which was why he was so excited.
When the old man heard the reason, he did not say anything, but touched his head and patted him on the shoulder like a mother.
This scene made countless netizens cry sadly.
Some netizens said: "Not long after my mother died, I saw several old ladies chatting at the gate of a certain community, one of them was too much like my mother, so I walked back and forth in front of them many times, just to see her more."
Another said: "When my father died, I didn't feel much sadness, until one day I saw a man on the street with a back that resembled him, chased him for several streets, and came home crying." ”
Bi Shumin wrote in "Filial Piety is Priceless":
I believe that every loyal child of Akagi has made a grand wish of filial piety to his parents in his heart, and I believe that the future will be long, and he can calmly fulfill his filial piety.
It's a pity that people forget, forget the cruelty of time, forget the shortness of life, and forget that there is a kindness in the world that can never be repaid. ”
Maybe time has passed, and I will understand that the real regret in life is what I could have done at the time, but I didn't do it, so I missed the people closest to me and missed the good time.
Family affection has a time limit, and filial piety should be done as soon as possible.
The fate of our parents, when we see each other, we will miss one side.
In the new year, please go home and see more.
Every day with your parents is worth cherishing.
While your parents are alive and well, take advantage of the right time to accompany them more, don't wait for the flowers to fall into the void and break the branches, leaving a place of regret in vain.
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